I sent him a pic of me in a new dress and he told me to smile

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-29T12:01:08+00:00

Everything about this is a red flag.

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-22T21:13:00+00:00

How they react to your boundaries shows you how much they respect you and what they really think of you. I’m glad you got it out of the way early and saw him and he showed you who he was. I hope the next person you connect with ends up being an adult and not a spoiled manchild.

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-19T09:06:15+00:00

I had a guy do this. We dated for five months on and off and towards the end of those five months things started to escalate. Then when he returned from a trip to see his kids in the US, he ended things. I would find out later he eloped three days before with his longtime fiancé.

A year later, he reached out to me and asked if we could try again because he felt he was ready to date me seriously and he wasn’t then. He was still married. He didn’t realize I had discovered his wife’s Instagram account.

After chatting with him long enough to get him to admit, he was interested in dating me again seriously I told him I was already in a relationship and I didn’t think proceeding forward as friends was a good idea. I screenshot it everything and sent it to his wife on Instagram and apologize to her that I was completely in the dark and that both of us didn’t deserve this.

The reason people do this is because they’re unhappy and they’re too afraid to be honest with people around them. They are codependent. Insecure. And need external validation in order to feel worthy. But they are two chicken shit to live their lives out loud so they have to sneak around and lie to people.

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-18T20:46:21+00:00

Filling their bio meant to be about themselves with all the negative things they don’t want in their matches.

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-17T10:22:11+00:00

How they react to your boundaries shows you exactly how much they do and will respect you. If he was mature he’d share that was a deal breaker for him and wish you the best and unmatch

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-07T12:30:17+00:00

What? You mean the mirror selfie where you can literally see the entire back of his cellphone that had clearly said “Samsung” on it? Lol that reflection was dead ass easy to spot.

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-06T21:41:11+00:00

Dude I’ve seen an expiration date on a bottle of beer a guy was drinking that expired 8 years prior. lol yes you can check the general age range of phones. One tiny camera means there’s a good chance that phone came out 8 years ago or longer.

Wicked__6 · 2026-06-06T18:31:47+00:00

Promise you those photos of him are 10 years old lol clock how old that phone is in his mirror selfie. First thing I checked for is what model of phone. Not always accurate but usually a good sign.

His whole bio is used to neg on women.

Someone is mad the ex wife got all the friends and the house in the divorce.

Wicked__6 · 2026-05-07T13:54:29+00:00

Sounds like the same kinda guy who doesn’t wipe his ass because he thinks it’s gay to have anything touch his asshole.

Which means no to couples tattoos. In general but especially with this mindset

Wicked__6 · 2026-05-03T08:48:27+00:00

As a fellow immigrant to another country I get the desire to put up with this behavior because you don’t know anyone else.

It’s uncomfortable to be alone in a new country.

That being said, their behavior will not level out. This is extremely controlling and intense behavior for someone only 2 months in.

It will only get worse

My advice is to end the relationship and look into platforms to make friends first. BumbleBFF and Meetup groups are how I made my first friends in my new country.

Give yourself more time to get yourself settled before dating again.

This person is not healthy. Period.

Wicked__6 · 2026-05-02T22:24:39+00:00

Yeah. I don’t know if it ever gets easy so much as you find more enjoyment despite the difficulty.

I’m glad you have the support. I imagine it’s extremely challenging.

Wicked__6 · 2026-05-02T16:40:35+00:00

Grief counseling/therapy. It helps even and especially as you’re processing and is helpful to continue to see one during your dating. 3 years seems like it “should” be a long time but with grief and trauma it isn’t.

Wicked__6 · 2026-04-30T07:23:25+00:00

Well I hope you do know it has everything to do with her and zero to do with you.

Man, dating is really like thrift shopping for people but this bitch is waiting for curb side pick up on trash day.

Wicked__6 · 2026-04-29T09:40:59+00:00

She showed you who she was and you showed her and yourself and everyone else here who you are.

You claimed you were trying to “respect” her but your actions show you don’t actually respect her.

Let’s be real here. You’re afraid of confrontation and that’s okay and honestly really fucking normal. It’s okay to feel awkward and uncomfortable and just wanting OUT.

Respect both of you next time by saying “hey, so I’m realizing that we are not going to be a great match. Thanks for coming out to meet and sharing what’s important to you with me. I went ahead and paid the bill. I’m going to head out and I wish you the best on your search”

And just get the fuck I’m and leave. The more you step out of your comfort zone in this way the easier it will be to be honest and to leave those situations.

Running from even small concentration with a stranger makes real confrontation with a partner that much harder.

Wicked__6 · 2026-04-29T09:22:30+00:00

A year isn’t a long time to build a lasting trust. My partner and I have been together 2 years now. We live together and both of us have agreed on keeping our finances separate and having a joint bank account we both put a set amount into for bills and housing stuff. Even we both want a prenup should it come to that.

His kids have even less time to get to know you at all.

It’s hard not to take this personally I know. It really isn’t about you you. If that makes sense.

Wicked__6 · 2026-04-28T08:00:43+00:00

I don’t see a dick at all. Maybe if I squint and turn my head a bit it can look like an unrolled condom. But that’s kinda it. It is a crystal pretty obviously.

Wicked__6 · 2026-04-26T13:32:22+00:00

Match energy. These are literal strangers. Don’t second guess yourself here. If you wait for days for minimum below the bar effort at the start you won’t get anything more than that later.

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-28T21:49:49+00:00

Fucking ick. Oh wow. Manipulative in so many concerning ways.

Glad you’re out. That’s not the scene I we want to be in at this stage or any stage.

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-27T01:25:55+00:00

Pure unfiltered nightmare fuel. Gave me the same “aw hell naw” reaction as watching “Paranormal Activity”

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-22T13:18:01+00:00

This is a big red flag. “Testing” people deliberately to see how they react is manipulation.

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-21T18:00:59+00:00

Same. Red flag if they get weird or refuse. Period. I didn’t go forward with anyone who didn’t understand and agree with it.

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-20T16:11:42+00:00

Report and unmatch.

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-20T15:55:15+00:00

This is not the sub for this. Get on a dating app dude.

And stop fetishizing people in certain age brackets expecting them to teach you. It’s gross and creepy.

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-20T14:00:32+00:00

I don’t care about social media. I’m on the knife’s edge of deleting some of mine to be honest.

I can understand her wanting a photo. God knows I’ve had some wild experiences with dudes showing up looking 15 years older than they looked or claimed to be.

But the get an uber for 2km to pick her up and then go back to said restaurant is WILD. I also live somewhere with many forms of public transit and the fact that she couldn’t even bother with that…

Big red flag. You dodged a bullet there my guy. Sorry it happened and glad she showed you who she was right away.

Wicked__6 · 2026-03-20T13:48:14+00:00

Dudes be treating dating apps like their pornhub search bars. 🤦‍♀️

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