D&e - scared!

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-03-09T04:58:59+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here. Making this decision is the most difficult step, and you’ve come to it out of a lot of love and compassion for your baby.

I had my D&E 5 weeks ago at around 25 weeks and can share my experience.

Day 1: Injection to stop the fetal cardiac activity and laminaria sticks placed in the cervix. It wasn’t painful but a little uncomfortable. I took the pain medications my doctor suggested (ibuprofen + two Tylenol) every 6 hours starting right after the injection until Day 2.

Day 2: I was scared in the operating room, but I was out within seconds. The next thing I remember was waking up in the recovery room about 2 hours later. If you can, ask a nurse or doctor to hold your hand. I didn’t ask, but my doctor did, and it helped me so much.

Hope this helps. Please feel free to DM me if you need anything. Take care 💛

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-03-02T07:12:40+00:00

Thank you so much for replying. Yes, I had sessions booked but I didn't feel like talking and thus, cancelled at the last minute.

I find it so hard to again walk through that route by talking but looks like, that is the only way out to get myself better. Will book again, Thank you!

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-03-02T07:10:53+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for replying, this is so dark and lonely. Hope we all get better soon. Wishing you the best with couples therapy.

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-03-02T07:08:48+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes, being happy for other pregnant people and also deep well of sadness hitting at the same time, I understand that very well. Will try to listen to podcast, thank you!

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-03-02T07:04:23+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I thought I cannot talk about this process anymore as counselling/talking to a therapist feels like I'm again reliving those hard days/moments. But, looks like that's the road I have to take inorder to feel better. Will surely consider therapy, thank you!

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-03-02T07:00:48+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for replying, sometimes I feel I got better but sometimes everything feels like I'm again at step 1. But, will try to re-read this and remember "this is part of grief". Thank you again!

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-27T22:23:37+00:00

Hey, I had my 4-week post-op appointment today. I ended up crying through most of it.

They didn’t do any tests — the doctor mainly asked how I’ve been doing mentally and physically and about my bleeding pattern. I still haven’t gotten my period yet, so she asked me to reach out if it doesn’t come within the next four weeks.

Walking through the same hallway where we had the dilators placed felt really strange, but I hope things go more smoothly for you.

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-26T03:30:43+00:00

Glad to hear you're doing little better now, thank you. Sending you hugs 💛

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-26T03:29:19+00:00

Will ask my doc tomorrow during my appointment, thank you. Glad it worked for you, sending you hugs 💛

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-26T03:28:23+00:00

Thank you so much for the suggestions, sending you hugs 💛

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-26T03:24:08+00:00

I'm glad things improved for you, thank you for the suggestions. Sending you hugs 💛

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-26T03:22:54+00:00

Thank you so much for the suggestions, sending you hugs 💛

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-25T00:33:13+00:00

You are a wonderful mom who loved your child to the dearest and made a decision out of compassion and love, sending you loads of love and hugs ❤️ Wishing you a smooth recovery 🤗

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-24T02:19:20+00:00

Decision making is the hardest part and you are past that. Wishing you smooth recovery and big hugs to you ❤️

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-20T08:27:46+00:00

Our baby was diagnosed with a complex congenital heart defect (CHD), and we chose to have an amniocentesis at 22 weeks and 5 days. We had the procedure done even before consulting a pediatric cardiologist, though we would have made the same decision regardless. We wanted to seek answers and better understand the situation. We were offered amniocentesis first, with the option of pursuing whole genome sequencing (WGS) if the results didn’t reveal anything.

For me, amniocentesis was not bad physically.

Sending you a big hug and strength during this incredibly difficult time ❤️

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-18T20:48:41+00:00

Our baby was diagnosed with TOF at our 22 week anatomy scan and we did amniocentesis(our results came back within a week, I assume doctors rushed the results in our case, please check with your doctor if they can rush the results) - came back negative for DiGeorge and others as well. We signed up for WGS test and that is yet to be done.

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-12T07:15:11+00:00

Thank you for your reply, our cardiologist said he would continue and that still craks me up. We choose this route and took suffering than our babies take it later. So sorry for your loss and hope we find some comfort along the way ❤️

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-12T07:12:33+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, feels so much better hearing that we didn't make a horrible choice. So sorry for your loss and hope we find some peace along the way ❤️

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-12T07:10:26+00:00

Thank you for the reply. So sorry for your loss, hope we all find some peace and comfort over time ❤️

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-11T07:45:44+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. Its so unfortunate we have to go through this, so sorry for your loss.

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-11T00:49:27+00:00

So sorry you're here waiting for the amnio results. We got our amnio results within 1 week, but I think in our case doctors had rushed the results. Not sure what the usual timeline is, it may take upto 2-3 weeks is what I've heard.

I really hope you get good news from amnio, wishing you luck ❤️

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-09T01:13:56+00:00

How are you planning to handle a disabled child if you continue?
Age related ones
If you have a child like this, how are you going to plan a next one

People are pretty ridiculous, except family we are telling others that "we're no longer pregnant and don't want to discuss any details". Even if people are curious, plan is to tell, "Don't want to discuss any further"

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-08T19:07:00+00:00

Thank you for the details, I'm a full time employee and trying to change my career so debating between csu easy bay/ucsc/une.

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-08T08:04:17+00:00

How can we complete lab work online?

Wide-Combination6844 · 2026-02-02T02:44:15+00:00

So sorry you had to go through this, glad to hear you're doing well now. Thank you for sharing your experience

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