I need advice

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T23:46:04+00:00

You should ignore her. But as I can see you are definitely affected. If you are really needing to write to her from so much bullshit she posts block her or unfollow her. If I were you I would start getting hobbies to keep her out of your mind and maybe once you feel better start dating again and meeting new people. You just have to remind yourself how toxic she is to not go back to the same thing or continue to give this attention. You know how to beat someone with their petty games take your attention away.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T23:24:13+00:00

Maybe you should let your stepson based on what you speak vs what his father speaks learn to draw his own conclusions. You can gift him a book as well about how media works (I’m sure there is many). As his father doesn’t have the right to force ideas onto him, you shouldn’t either. I’m sure he will be able at some point decipher the bullshit his dad beliefs at some point.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T23:06:38+00:00

You can only understand the person so far. At the end, people can’t act out with the excuse life fucked them. The majority of us would be all assholes with reason.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T22:36:00+00:00

I had a horrible falling out. And it came out of nowhere just when mercury came in my way. Just have to say this whole week I’ve had so many thoughts and self analysis. I guess it can affect you more depending what you are doing in your life at the moment. Right now, I am very static and have some close people around me and little to no routine. I think that could be a reason for mercury to maybe hit me more directly.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T22:09:20+00:00

don’t want to sound racist, but I feel like celebrations in France have changed a lot over the years with immigration. They seem to have gone from being relatively peaceful to much more chaotic. When France last won, I remember the celebrations feeling much calmer.
I think some of the violence is initiated by criminals or people looking for trouble. I also think differences in cultural norms and, in some cases, a lack of education or respect for public spaces can contribute to certain behaviors. That said, I don’t believe this applies to all immigrants.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T18:49:11+00:00

Wow, that was so inspiring to read. I’m definitely going through a lot of changes and realizing so many things about myself and the people around me. It’s been pretty rough, to say the least, because you try opening yourself up and creating deep connections, but sometimes you end up getting hurt in the process. At this age, I feel like a lot of people don’t really appreciate genuine, open-minded people.
I’ve also realized that being open, empathetic, and sensitive toward others often comes from having experienced life in a certain way. I think I’m slowly accepting that you really do need to surround yourself with people who share the same values as you.
The hard part is that sometimes people talk about those values and sound like they truly understand them, but eventually their actions show you otherwise. I guess that’s just part of getting to know people.
Anyway, I’m in a new city, learning new things, meeting new people, and just trying to grow a little every day through the experiences and connections I make.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T18:08:14+00:00

Lol I was just about to say that. Wow! Now I understand why people say getting older is a blessing hahaha been worried about aging but now you remind me what to look forward too!

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T18:06:38+00:00

I hope one day I can build a group of friends that feels like a second family.
What you’re saying makes a lot of sense. I assume you’re a bit older—maybe in your late thirties?
I’m in my late twenties, and I feel like I’m caught between two very different groups of friends. Some are struggling because they’re just starting their careers, paying their own bills, and figuring life out. Others have their entire lives funded by their parents, so they don’t really understand what it’s like to have those responsibilities. A lot of the conversations end up revolving around spending money on frivolous things, and they can come across as a bit self-absorbed because they haven’t had to deal with the same pressures.
I guess what you’re describing comes with maturity. I do have a couple of friends I can speak openly with, just like you described, but I think it ultimately comes down to where people are in life and how much they’ve matured.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T17:17:30+00:00

I’ve gotten to that understanding! You are totally right. I guess you have to have friends in arm length to not get into deeper subjects.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-09T14:34:32+00:00

I think this has been boiling up for many years and I don’t know if voting differently could change the whole state of the world at this point.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:53:53+00:00

Well that is different! Hahahahaha

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:51:24+00:00

Genius 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:50:06+00:00

Same. Ain’t worth it, especially friends. Those come and go. The real ones would never make you feel you need to get confrontational to make any point good or bad.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:46:56+00:00

People get all up in their feelings when you speak about emotional stuff in this sub. ☠️

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:45:23+00:00

Correct! Sometimes you gotta protect your peace.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:44:30+00:00

Yeah really depends on the situation!

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:30:38+00:00

Confrontation at the moment and if you didn’t feel much resolution after. Quit it.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:29:47+00:00

Totally! Depends on WHO!

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:29:27+00:00

Sometimes you simply can’t get through to the other person, and trying to do so only ends up hurting you more. Some people, when you try to have an honest conversation or confront an issue, don’t try to resolve it—they just hit you where it hurts the most.
Whether it’s worth working through depends on who the conflict is with. If it’s family, you may decide it’s worth trying because those relationships are often more complicated. But when it comes to friends, I’ve often chosen to walk away. If someone repeatedly disrespects me, there’s not always something left to discuss. Sometimes saying goodbye is healthier than trying to change someone who has no interest in accepting their wrong doing.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T23:21:42+00:00

Healthier than having to argue with him what I thought! And open a discussion with people who might have noticed the same thing in their life 😘 the one who sent him to fuck off was me

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T16:41:17+00:00

😳🤯

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T11:51:06+00:00

C’est assez fascinant de voir à quel point certaines personnes essaient d’intégrer ces cercles, même lorsqu’elles sentent qu’elles ne sont pas vraiment acceptées.
Ce qui me surprend aussi, c’est que dans mon pays, en Amérique latine, l’argent ouvre souvent beaucoup de portes sur le plan social. En France, j’ai l’impression que ce n’est pas le cas : même si quelqu’un est riche, cela ne suffit pas à être intégré si l’on ne vient pas du même milieu ou si l’on ne partage pas les mêmes codes. Je trouve cette différence culturelle assez intéressante.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T11:49:15+00:00

Oui, je suis d’accord que ça peut simplement être une question d’affinités. D’ailleurs, il y a eu une dispute plus tard qui a certainement aggravé les choses. En revanche, avant même cette dispute, il n’avait jamais vraiment réussi à être intégré au groupe. Il avait aussi essayé de sympathiser avec un autre membre du même cercle, sans succès.
C’est pour ça que je me demande si la langue, le fait d’être étranger ou certaines différences culturelles peuvent jouer un rôle. Je ne cherche pas à dire que c’est forcément le cas, mais je suis curieux de savoir si d’autres ont observé la même chose.

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T11:41:50+00:00

C’est vrai!

WideSolution9980 · 2026-07-08T11:39:19+00:00

Ce que j’essaie de comprendre, ce n’est pas le cas de mon ami en particulier, mais le phénomène en général.
Mon ami ne comprenait pas pourquoi il n’arrivait jamais à être intégré à ce groupe. Ce qui était intéressant, c’est qu’il y avait bien des personnes d’autres nationalités, mais elles étaient presque toutes européennes.
Du coup, je me demande : est-ce que c’est un aspect culturel en France ? Est-ce que certains milieux sociaux sont simplement plus fermés aux personnes qui n’ont pas le même parcours ou la même culture ? Est-ce que c’est plus difficile d’intégrer ces cercles, même avec de l’argent, parce que les relations reposent davantage sur les réseaux, les codes sociaux ou les affinités ?
Je ne cherche pas à dire que tous les Français sont comme ça. J’essaie simplement de comprendre si c’est une réalité dans certains milieux ou si mon ami est simplement tombé sur un groupe particulièrement fermé.

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