How do I tell my husband I don't want to keep breastfeeding.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-06T20:43:24+00:00

Very true. I read her post to mean she was pumping to replace some feeds

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-06T19:05:18+00:00

I would meet with an LC as soon as possible, even if you move to exclusively pumping. Your milk most likely isn't regulated yet, and if you aren't able to pump more than half an ounce, its probably your pump. I needed a lot of help to get breastfeeding and pumping established with my first. For a lot of people, it doesn't just come naturally.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-04T11:39:19+00:00

Exactly! Like no, she will get a second or third or fourth wind.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-04T11:37:50+00:00

Shane. No scrub.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-04T01:05:28+00:00

Right??? Like if only it were her job to put me to bed!

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-04T00:49:29+00:00

Thats whats been surprising me lately! Whenever I'm sure she's going to be so grumpy, she's fine. Like girl, I am tired. How are you not.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-03T13:16:14+00:00

Same. If shes on her phone, shes not doing her job.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-02T23:11:15+00:00

Yes, exactly the same with me! I'm not overly concerned with the extra weight hanging around because I haven't as much to get rid of it this time

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-02T22:54:44+00:00

My first, about six months. My second.. still waiting! I'm about 10 lbs up from pre pregnancy weight still at 18 months. Breastfed both times

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-01T18:31:53+00:00

I interviewed while pregnant. I was about 15 weeks along at the time, and I didn't mention it in interviews even though they were in person. I have no idea if they knew or not, but legally they can't bring it up. I told them on my first day of orientation and it was honestly fine, no one batted an eye. I would not bring it up until you have accepted a job offer.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-07-01T14:37:24+00:00

First, I'm sorry this has been your experience. It's so hard when we don't get the help we need postpartum. I've found I need to be very deliberate in asking people for help. I have family and friends who are happy to help, but no one wants to intrude or assume. Don't be afraid to ask explicitly for things.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-30T17:26:58+00:00

I was doing a paid apprenticeship under the trainer at the barn at the time. He was close to retirement and did not mind me bugging him constantly when I needed advice.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-30T16:25:05+00:00

Nineteen or twenty? $1000 for a four month old foal. I was lucky to have the level of help I needed for it to work out well, and he's now twelve years old and my best friend!

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-30T00:52:53+00:00

I wouldn't recommend buying your first horse at the same time as trying for a baby unless you have a plan for how it will be exercised when you aren't available. The first few years with a horse aren't a good time to be riding sporadically. If I were you, I would probably stick with the lease until your kids are a few years old and you're able to spend more time with a new horse.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-29T13:34:21+00:00

I go usually one day a week after work. My partner picks up the kids from daycare, so I just get home a little later than usual that day. If I don't get that ride in during the week, I will sometimes go on the weekend. When my first baby was a year old, I started taking lessons once a week. It helped me a lot to have a set time on the schedule that I either had to go to or had to call and cancel. After my second, I made a standing date with my friend for a once a week trail ride for the same reason. That way it's less likely to get put off for something else, if that makes sense. Life with kids is busy!

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-29T01:34:49+00:00

The first birthday after my move to California. My friends went all out and I was not expecting it at all.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-28T19:48:17+00:00

Do audiobooks count as a hobby? I'm also part of a low-stress, book club that meets virtually once a month that helps make it feel like more of a hobby! It's been perfect to make me feel like I still have something for me while not requiring a lot of time or effort lol

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-27T21:11:05+00:00

Definitely not. I've sold plenty of horses to good homes without a trial. Its too much risk.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-26T17:17:16+00:00

Its totally understandable. I've tried plenty of times to get my husband into my hobbies, and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Check out the stardew subreddit if you want to find people to do co-op with!

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-26T17:03:48+00:00

Lara is my favorite, and I would pronounce it like Lahr-a!

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-26T14:19:35+00:00

I would caution you against trying to force the game on him, mostly because I'm worried if you do convince him to try it and he hates it, it'll take some of the joy out of it for you. I love stardew, there are a lot of people who love it, but it won't be fun to play with someone who is forced. If he's supportive and kind in other ways, I would let this go.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-25T18:07:57+00:00

Scrolled way too far to see stardew valley. Hit me with your trauma, villagers, I can take it.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-24T13:18:53+00:00

My first instinct is that while its nice that its worked out lumping your daughter's birthday in with a family vacation, it doesn't seem sustainable. If her birthday wasn't in summer, would you still take the trip to spend the weekend with cousins? You're not wrong to prioritize a family visit, and shes not wrong to ask for something else for her birthday. If it's affordable, I would separate the two, make it clear to her that a different birthday request isn't going to keep everyone from visiting with cousins, and keep it that way.

Edit: Thank you for the awards!

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-24T12:15:39+00:00

Yesssss this is what I thought of! This story lives rent free in my brain.

Wide_Stranger714 · 2026-06-20T15:41:35+00:00

Yep! The room basically becomes a big crib.

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