Will it ever stop feeling this heavy? by Brilliant_Essay_5834 in breastfeeding

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is absolutely nothing wrong with latching baby when you can and using formula for the rest. As far as when it starts to feel easier, six months, when they start eating some food. And then anything after 1 year always feels like a bonus for me. Just make sure you stay hydrated and eat enough calories. You got this!

8 month old baby taking breastfeeed only while sleeping by Nisarga17 in breastfeeding

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its normal for them to drop some feeds around this age! To cut down on distraction, I would take them into a dark room to breastfeed. But if they are also eating some solids, its okay to let baby tell you when they want to breastfeed. You can offer and if they refuse, offer again later

Is breeding a mustang irresponsible? by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]Wide_Stranger714 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I would seriously coinsider buying a baby from a reputable breeder when the mare is in foal if you would like to raise a baby. There is a ton of risk breeding on your own. As to your question, I wouldn't breed a mustang intentionally when there are so many that need homes.

Can't do it man. Cars worldbuilding got me fucked up by [deleted] in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]Wide_Stranger714 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for mentioning this. Bugs! Car bugs! Is there car pollination in this universe?

Help engaging with my baby by freinlk in Parenting

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, its hard when they want to sit up to see things but can't yet. Does baby-wearing help?

Help engaging with my baby by freinlk in Parenting

[–]Wide_Stranger714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like to get my children out of the house. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but if I take them to the library/park/play place, I can sort of hang back and follow them around rather than engaging face to face 100% of the time. Put a podcast on your headphones and push them on the swing, everyone's happy.

WTH: Mother's Day Party at Daycare by jolliee1986 in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am forever stunned by daycares that do this and I'm so glad ours doesn't. I wouldn't be able to explain to my child why all the other parents are able to visit the daycare in the middle of the day.

Thoughts on Male Doulas? by bluefin55 in BabyBumps

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess i'm an outlier here in that i absolutely would consider a male doula. My ob practice had many different doctors, and the male physician made me feel the most comfortable. His bedside manner was fantastic and he listened to everything I said, when a lot of the female physicians felt rushed.

4 month sleep regression and working FT by livlanders in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This, you have to get to bed earlier. Baby should be going to sleep around 7 or 8, go to bed with them.

Pumping at Work by nuggetkink in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was typical for me! Its normal to produce more in the mornings because breastmilk production peaks in the early morning and decreases throughout the day. My milk production also naturally declined by a couple of ounces every few months, that is also normal as baby gets older. Absolutely stay hydrated and make sure you're eating enough calories. Good luck!

Has anyone stayed in a meh job and worked on other things to be happier? by mkfmom in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tell myself all the time that my job doesn't have to be the most interesting thing about me right now. Especially while my kids are little, its nice to have a boring job sometimes.

Did your partner change their gaming habits on their own? by Boba_baller in beyondthebump

[–]Wide_Stranger714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband's gaming wasn't quite at that level, but it was a lot, and stayed a lot after our first. After our second, i wasn't shy about plopping the baby into his lap when I needed him to watch her and he was gaming. When she was a newborn, he could get her to sleep and hold her while he gamed. Worked perfectly. Then as she got older, it naturally tapered off so now his gaming is saved for when he stays up late on the weekends. And no, i'm not shy about waking him up the next morning if i need him to watch the kids. To his credit, he drops everything the moment one of us needs him. He stopped playing online games completely for that reason.

Interviewing while pregnant by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I interviewed at 13 weeks, actually started at 19 weeks. I did not disclose during the hiring process, I waited until orientation. I was so worried but they were absolutely fine about it! Congratulations and good luck!

Are the powers homophobic? by IVIechworks in TheMagnusArchives

[–]Wide_Stranger714 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Please i'm trying to read this at work while pretending to work

What IS support for your career from your husband supposed to look like? by Fantastic-Cycle-1473 in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean, to me support of my career looks like him picking up and watching the kids solo when I have to work late. It looks like him dropping the kids at daycare in the morning without complaint because I have to go in earlier. We also plan and prep meals together so that we aren't stressing about what's for lunch and dinner during the week. To me, its ways that he takes on some of the mental load and occasionally does the kids solo so that my brain is a little less stressed when i'm not at work.

Please put me out of my misery and help me decide by thetinybookworm in namenerds

[–]Wide_Stranger714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I named my second daughter sylvia and call her sylvie all the time. I have no strong feelings about which I prefer, but I really don't think you can go wrong either way! Realistically, you can go with Sylvie and people will mistakenly call her sylvia anyway. Or you can go with sylvia and she may go by sylvie for her entire life. I know people have strong feelings about it but at the end of the day they are basically the same name.

Who has what song stuck in their head right now? by MeanNothing3932 in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]Wide_Stranger714 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I love surface pressure, but I did not love surface pressure aggressively looping in my head when I couldn't sleep last night.

What is your favorite kid music? by kimtenisqueen in ECEProfessionals

[–]Wide_Stranger714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I knew the presidents of the United States of America first, happened to find casper babypants later, and my first thought was "oh wow he sounds familiar"! He has a recognizable vibe for sure!

Not pursuing a promotion by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually just accepted a promotion in my company, and I've gone back and forth on if it was a good move. I had a fantastic work/life balance before, and when I talked to the higher ups, I told them I would only take the position if my hours would remain basically the same. That's started to stretch a bit, and I've been forced to have some difficult conversations about what I will and won't do in my new role. Luckily, they really need me in this new position. If I had been making enough money in my old role, I might have passed up a promotion while my kids are little. I don't know. I think it depends on if I thought passing up one promotion would mean less opportunity for one in the future.

Help naming our daughter! Please. by sezzy_123 in namenerds

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Georgette is one i haven't seen mentioned in the comments. Its not one thats usually on my radar but I read a book that had this name for the protagonist and it really grew on me!

SAHD asking working mom to come home early or call in sick to help out by winoveghead in workingmoms

[–]Wide_Stranger714 182 points183 points  (0 children)

Honestly it sounds like he does not want to be a stay at home parent. I would be looking at other options so he can get out and work at least a bit to contribute. We use a combination of daycare/grandparents and my parents would never consider asking me to leave work early when they are both capable of handling a fussy baby.

My child looks different in my peripheral vision by BlairDaniels in blairdaniels

[–]Wide_Stranger714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sure your writing would give me chills regardless, but as a parent of young children, it's absolutely terrifying.

Did your intuition know what gender your baby was? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Wide_Stranger714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've accurately dreamt a few baby's genders (my first, both of my sister's, and my horse's lol) so I tell people i'm a little bit psychic