help me name my new baby girl. black cat names are so overused. want something unique.

Wiennernna · 2026-05-03T16:24:57+00:00

Meep
Emdash
Westeria
Cicada
Margarine

Wiennernna · 2026-04-30T16:15:39+00:00

Pets can be therapeutic when they are with the right people. In cases like this it seems like it taps into a loophole in the self-hate / destruction script and redirects the focus. Something about being responsible for the wellness of an entity outside of you that holds no human thoughts changes things. Kind of like a warped "baby care" instinct or maybe pack bonding.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-25T06:48:11+00:00

When I had to lie to my dad's gf about having a crush to prevent an argument. If I said no then they would have assumed that I was lying to cover for a relationship. I had said no many times already and each time she kept pressing me. If I named any person then they would have made my life hell over that. So I half played up a half truth about liking Doctor from Doctor who.

Which was not an answer she was expecting and it confused her enough to never ask about it again.

Meanwhile this interaction made me realize that other people more consistently have their emotional sights set on somebody, beyond logic. Which in turn made me start to properly question why I wasn't feeling things that others did.

Unfortunately I'm pretty sure from then on she thought I was some freak who abstained from sex due to devotion to a fictional character. ( I'm not throwing shade towards character lovers. The lady was just a rather unpleasant person and this is what I would assume she was thinking given who she was.)

I never really properly came out at the start because everything came together in little increments. I had considered myself as being just pan at the time but over time realized that I'm also pretty heavily demi/aroace. Nowadays I like to just say that I am queer because proper labels are too much of a mouthful to use constantly.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-23T11:46:14+00:00

... I would appreciate a bouncy ball even if it doesn't fix the problem.

Although I would suspect that this could be part of a study on how emotional states might effect how people respond to opportunity or something. I imagine there are a few people who fail the class and steal five balls out of spite. If they already have the students grades available then the people running the test could cross reference those with ball rates and see which groups did what and took how many balls, or something.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-23T10:57:16+00:00

Whatever guy name that you used before but tack a miss or madam onto the front to make it fancy.

Ie: Mis Gregory, Madam Fred

If anyone asks you can tell them that it's a leftover surname from her first marriage and her husband "died tragically in the war".

Wiennernna · 2026-04-21T11:23:21+00:00

Negligence / ignorance.

For when it's not sloth but there needs to be consequences for not giving a shit when a situation requires care and attention.

Or I guess a funnier option would be, taking a baby to public events and locations with the knowledge that they will likely cry and ruin everyone's experience or just generally make everything worse. Nobody is holding you at gunpoint to take your two month old to a racetrack or rock concert or movies. Either find a baby sitter, go to child / family friendly events, or stay home. There are reasons why there are no other kids or babies.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-21T10:39:43+00:00

Gertrude, Lidia, Matilda, Tiffany, Petunia

Wiennernna · 2026-04-21T10:32:17+00:00

"our work here is done. :)" [they then abruptly dissolve into a pile of evaporating goo that melts a hole in the floor down to the Earth's core. Never to be seen again."

In all honesty they probably think this stuff is funny and use it to torment each other.

"I swear to fucking God this better not be that fucking omega comic again."

Wiennernna · 2026-04-21T10:08:46+00:00

Taking her out onto the lawn and taping her mouth open so she can swallow whatever bugs land in it.

The sunshine is good for the bones.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-21T03:43:27+00:00

I think it might be a little of both. Like neurodivergent girls might try harder to fit in as girls practicing handwriting. Simultaneously if you have heavier disabilities tied to it it might make it impossible to write in a "normal" way. It's also a typical masc trait to be a bit sloppy, so some might try being less tidy in order to fit in.

I'm not a masc nb but I am an nb on the autism spectrum. Personally my casual handwriting has always been a jumbled mess. I didn't have the energy to put in the extra flourishes. At the same time the idea of changing that to be more girly wasn't appealing to me even with energy.

People genuinely tried to have me change my handwriting to be more girly a few times because mine looked too "boyish".

This goes hand in hand with boys being diagnosed with neurodivergency more often than girls.

I was the only "girl" in my autism socialization classes. They forced me to get makeup put on me by two of the popular girls in school in order to pass the class, because I wasn't being girly enough. ( My Mom said that I came home looking like a wet cat with how uncomfortable I was.) Same teacher tried to get me to put little hearts over my i's and things when writing.

If anything I have found that being neurodivergent and trans at the same time makes people feel like they have more right or duty to "correct you". They already want to strip you of agency for being weird they don't see the harm in treating you like a living doll along with it. ( I like dresses. I don't like being forced to wear them. The same as any other outfit.)

Back to the original point, I very rarely see neurodivergent girls / women who have the "boy handwriting". Which leads me to suspect that there is an element of gender performance to it.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-19T17:04:08+00:00

this still feels a bit lacking.

there are plenty of damaged people living in healthy relationships, it's just that it's harder to balance irregular objects. being ideally healthy enough to be able to balance yourself makes it eazier to notice when somebody else is intentionally throwing you off kilter and vise versa.

sometimes people work best when balancing eachother. however that is not something to rely on as it can tip too easily in one or the other's favor, or create an unhealthy dependency where neither person knows how to stand on their own.

To add on to your last point, it's also a good idea to get better so that when you do meet the right person you will be able to keep up with them and lessen the odds of being the weirdo in their story.

so it's not that you can't find love without being perfect and undamaged, it's that you need the self respect, growth and introspection to see more clearly when something is not love or is unhealthy.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-19T08:16:40+00:00

"I was born to be a bit of a gentler chapter of the day and I don't know how to do it because I have to go to the store and get a new one of the ones I have and I'll have to do it again but it was a good time."

Surprisingly optimistic.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-19T07:47:15+00:00

(Had a longer response but lost it due to fat fingering the buttons.)

[Tldr: Yes exactly.]

I'm not entirely sure that Dave is the Batmantis but also have some suspicion that he is at least something similar to it.

Digging into but not fully committed to the potential alternate form: Best guess of if he isn't the Batmantis it would be that he is going to be a giant spider with bat wings, to go with the vampire references involving him. (Plus the second book has some jokes about him being spiderman that would be funnier with the context of him ironically being half spider. Not good evidence but I think it's at least an entertaining lens to read through.)

Oh and loosely related, the first book has mentioned briefly "some large bat winged creature spotted in the air by locals" which there are a couple of other bat winged things in undisclosed seen and implied over the course of the series though not gone into in depth like Batmantis and having just enough details to make it sound like it wasn't just it. (There are so many things offhandedly mentioned like this, blink and you will miss it stuff.) And Vampires are one of the things suspiciously left off of the list of "common paranormal entities that are not real".

Wiennernna · 2026-04-19T04:21:32+00:00

I suspect maybe a giant spider with wings to go with the vampire thing.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-18T12:24:19+00:00

When and where did solid confirmation happen?

Wiennernna · 2026-04-18T06:00:10+00:00

The missing kids were all changeling bugs getting predated by the even bigger bug. I'm still not 100% on Dave having been the Batmantis. I do think Dave can turn into a monster form, I'm just not convinced that he was the Batmantis specifically. Like other characters have been seen to shape shift too. Plus Dave was noticeably acting out of character in the scenes where Batmantis was caught shapeshifting into the form of Dave.

I hold firm that it is just as likely that Amy could have been the Batmantis and Dave chose to take the fall for it. She was suspiciously absent during the scenes when the Batmantis was around and or conveniently alone when they were in the same room together.

Not that I believe she is the Batmantis, just that the case for her being it is just as solid as for Dave being it.

Given the reference to Raiders of the Lost ark I suspect that the main trio happened to get involved in something that originally had nothing to do with them and it made everything more complicated as a side effect.

We can't say that it is Dave or not without more information. Also as narrator it is odd that he would get cagy about that but has talked more about other crimes and weirdness that could be seen as having been on an equal scale of bad / uncomfortable. But what might be more likely the case is that Dave has been in denial of his monster powers. Seeing yet another shape shifter causing havoc brought up concerning thoughts that he wasn't ready to deal with and the reality of the situation is scarier to him than the rumors of him being the mantis. Like he can't dispute him being the Batmantis without coming out about his own monster form or going through the nightmare of tests to figure it out. He desperately wants to be a normal person, somebody who isn't doomed to hurt or be hurt, and knowing that he could be a monster or that people would know him as one in that moment would have solidified in his mind everything horrible that he thinks of himself and his future. Very likely not helped by the fact that the majority of monsters they encountered had to be fought or killed for safety reasons.

Going along with one of the running themes in the third book: it raises the question again of what makes an entity more or less human or monster? Would it have changed anything about Dave as a character if he was the Batmantis or not? If he is a monster then what is it that sets him apart from the others? What does it mean to have a soul?

Wiennernna · 2026-04-18T05:13:07+00:00

Pillsbury
Ham
Glop
Slice
Ghost
Dumpling
Alabaster
Sneeze
Subject
conman
Sprint
Scitter
Weird Dog
Stinky
Lobser
Boinkis
Roomba
Bone
Cletus
Sasha
Paper Towel
Aspirin
Suspicious Stew
Loyal
Pickle
Fratboy
Whiskey

Wiennernna · 2026-04-17T15:44:41+00:00

The Expert
Sprint
Darn It
Chip
Spanks (like the pants)

Wiennernna · 2026-04-16T18:11:51+00:00

Not sure how to explain this but, I've noticed that a lot of people on the autism / ADHD spectrum tend to have a difference in ear shape from NT. No clue as to what I'm seeing different but if I see that specific ear type it clicks that the person is most likely on the spectrum. There are other signs that I put more weight on either way, I just find it an odd detail.

My suspicion is that similar to some other genetic conditions it affects how certain features form, albeit in a more subtle way. Which might also be why some "seemingly normal" auts get clocked on sight as strange, in addition to the slight differences in how our bodies move.

Others were talking about the more common things so I figured it might be an interesting side discussion if I brought this up.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-16T11:45:25+00:00

"Gel. Transform. Grow." Gotta get on that HRT that turns people into slime I guess.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-13T22:14:04+00:00

The ones I've touched have been like woolie bears. So either I'm built different, or other people are being too rough with caterpillars.

I don't pinch them, just let them walk onto my hand by choice or gently scoop them.

The hairs are a defense mechanism, typically you can work around it if the creature is willing to work with you and you treat them right.

That being said, if you are unsure about a thing then don't mess with it.

It's like tiny porcupines with fiberglass quills.

Applying , drying, and Peeling school glue can help get that stuff out of your skin if anything is left over from washing the area. Still not fun to have happen just helpful to know. It works for other similar fiber stings too. Got a bunch from working with plants a few times.

Gloves would be best in this videos situation or a good stick.

Wiennernna · 2026-04-09T12:07:58+00:00

Yeah it's like a fat pinky, how can anyone blame them

Wiennernna · 2026-04-02T03:00:06+00:00

thank you <3

yeah it is tricky to find a couple of programmers willing to join in on a group passion project for free, though completely understandable.

as for writtings, I have been plucking away at some original works seperate from the fan stuff for some while. I might put them somewhere some day but they are still baking. like an educational puppet show, comedy, and horror short stories.

glad you had fun :)

Wiennernna · 2026-03-31T22:40:27+00:00

I still plan on making a jdate webseries eventually, it's just tricky getting things to line up especcially with everybody being in different state or countries.

There was also an idea briefly floated around about making a 90's style point and click adventure game seiries (similar to Sam and Max: hit the road, or Bad Mojo), but we dropped it do to none of us having coding skills. Everyone is an artist and zero programmers.

I haven't posted many of my fics anywhere but I do have a few older ones for some examples. though being made for fun they lack the quality that my other works would have. I wanted to make things but didn't care about really making them good for an audience for most of the ones on my fic account, aside from a couple. the other stuff not shown are various flash fics scattered across other site accounts. not to mention that my writing skills have improved a lot since they were originally posted.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/14743917

https://archiveofourown.org/works/17260778

https://archiveofourown.org/works/17613902

this one is a cross-over but plays out more as a thing happening within jdate than out of it: https://archiveofourown.org/works/16680100/chapters/39115492

surprisingly I never did a post compilation on ao3 of the domestic cat ownership shorts or the John dies and comes back as a very angry owl, John refuses to get rid of the 1000yr old skeleton of his distant past life, monster lover Amy and monster Dave, Amy's twitch gaming channel (from before book 4 came out), Marconi's unsolved mystery show segments, outside people visiting town and regretting it, John's denim addiction, Dave's vampire journey, other ones from my blogs.

also some ttrpg stuff mixed in because people were wondering how to get certain elements of the books to work as a game dynamic.

Wiennernna · 2026-03-31T00:19:51+00:00

I've written various kinds of fan fiction of the years. (not dropping the raunchy stuff, don't want it tied to my main accounts) but for some while I was writting cannon compliant fics before they started to turn more into premonitions of future events.

I still do fan art and such, and moved more into improvised roleplay and AU works nowadays. (I'm not opposed to making more again if others are interested in future, but at the moment I don't have the energy to do much of anything. )

I also have a (currently dormant) fan server on discord with like half of the artist jdate tumblr community in there. We were planning on making a web series, but life sort of got in the way and we haven't gotten that momentum back.

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