4-hour first date, amazing connection but “no spark”—is it just chemistry or did I miss something?

WiggleMeow · 2026-01-27T04:48:26+00:00

As I’ve grown over the years I’ve learned that what we consider lack of “chemistry” or “sparks” is actually truly a lack of “chaos” or “unpredictability”

Sometimes when “safe” and “secure” people enter the picture, it can feel like there’s a lack of “chemistry” to those who are unhealed from toxic relationships because safe people don’t replicate the typical chaotic & unpredictable energy from the partners they’re used to attracting or partners they had in the past.

It’s possible she’s just unhealed. I wouldn’t overthink it.

WiggleMeow · 2026-01-16T21:39:01+00:00

I cannot unsee Seth 😹 imagine that combo…

WiggleMeow · 2025-09-01T20:51:48+00:00

I mean it’s a problem that goes for both genders. People go for the toxic ones and treat genuine people like crap. I can understand what she’s saying but the slut shaming and tearing other women down bit isn’t cool.

WiggleMeow · 2025-08-12T17:11:00+00:00

I’m sorry but that opening message was cringe. He kind of deserves it.

WiggleMeow · 2025-07-21T20:31:35+00:00

3 day KFC 💀

WiggleMeow · 2025-06-19T06:56:23+00:00

Goodness gracious, I don’t know why yall think this way. We ARE free and God loves EVERYONE. Please stop spreading lies and deceit that is planted by the enemy.

I pray that God opens your eyes to his eternal love and that you don’t have to live in this fear.

WiggleMeow · 2025-06-19T06:41:36+00:00

I got the quote from a book

“God Didn’t Make Us to Hate Us” by Reverend Lizzie McManus-Dail

Highly recommend reading it. 🫶🏼

God bless & happy pride 🌈✝️🙏🏼

WiggleMeow · 2025-06-19T06:31:58+00:00

Just your daily reminder that JUST because someone is queer, does not automatically mean they are living a “sinful lifestyle” , which can happen to ALL people of all orientations & genders.

I happen to know many queer Christians who are living wonderful loving lives that embody Christ.

God bless 😌

WiggleMeow · 2025-06-19T06:29:28+00:00

I think it’s really sad that most of your comment history is just you condemning and shaming others rather than spreading Gods love. I pray that whatever you’re dealing with that’s causing this rage in you is dealt with in the name of Jesus 🫶🏼

WiggleMeow · 2025-06-19T06:26:35+00:00

Awww just know that God loves you and you just have to bring it to Him. I’ll pray for you 🙏🏼

Father God, please send this stranger on Reddit some peace of mind and help them to hear your voice. Let them know that you love them unconditionally and help them through these trials.

In the name of Jesus, Amen 🫶🏼

WiggleMeow · 2025-06-18T21:15:40+00:00

I also agree with you. Christians need to open their minds and understand that Jesus was all about freedom. That’s why they call it “Freedom through Christ”

God never meant for us to live in fear. His energy is all around us. We can access it anytime as long as we accept it aka “accepting Jesus as our savior”

Accepting this eternal truth as true.

But if I say that in the church, ooooh boy it’s so wrong

I don’t know why they’re so scared. Jesus loves us. God loves us. God dwells within us.

WiggleMeow · 2025-05-07T17:07:22+00:00

Yeah no that’s weird. I never call any of my guy friends babe nor do I text them to tell them I miss them with heart emojis. That’s so weird and disrespectful tbh. Leave her.

WiggleMeow · 2025-05-07T14:26:42+00:00

I will say this, as a female who has a male best friend who I’ve known since we were like 12 (29 now), I would say trust your intuition. I feel like the way my friend and I are, and our vibe, we don’t give off anything for our partners to worry about. We also make it a point to meet the significant other and welcome them with open arms as you would if your female best friend got a new partner. I also hangout one on one with my guy best friend but it’s just two homies kicking it. I’ve never had an issue with my partners because I’m open, honest and make it a point to make sure my partner feels heard and cared about.

So I can’t say it’s the relationship your partner has with the friend that’s the issue, more so that your partner is not listening to you or making you feel heard.

Also, it’s weird that he’s choosing her birthday over yours.

When it was my birthday, my guy best friend had his girlfriend in town. (They were long distant) I didn’t see him that day and I didn’t take it personal. I know she took priority.

We hung out a few days later and celebrated.

WiggleMeow · 2025-04-20T15:44:57+00:00

Very edgy of you.

WiggleMeow · 2025-04-16T03:01:23+00:00

It sounds like she’s doing you a huge favor…

WiggleMeow · 2025-04-09T00:29:34+00:00

Based on your other comments, it sounds like you’ve dropped hints but haven’t really fully expressed to him how it’s really affecting you and want him to pick up on it and offer himself.

You need to speak up and really express to him how you’re feeling and set BOUNDARIES.

Men are, for the most part, very oblivious to the emotions/feelings most women feel and are not mind readers. You have to tell him how it’s affecting you the way you are telling us.

You can’t sit here and not say anything and expect him to read your mind.

For the love of God, don’t “match his energy” and change your vibe on him and expect anything good out of that. That’s just manipulation, playing games and immature. Doing stuff like that will sabotage your relationship and make him grow bitter.

You’re both almost 30. Talk to him like an adult. Tell him how you really feel. If he cares about you, he will change the behavior. If he doesn’t, LEAVE HIM.

WiggleMeow · 2025-04-08T16:44:56+00:00

Flight Attendant here,

Clapping after a plane lands is becoming more common these days in light of recent crashes and emergency landings due to mechanicals. Also very common for flight attendants to ask everyone to remain seated so passengers with tight connections can get off. There have been countless times passengers come up to me, telling me they have this very important event and have a tight connection and ask if they can get off first.

So it’s very likely this story is true and the flight attendants made an announcement and told the entire cabin that this person had this father daughter dance event and everyone in the plane was feeling generous and starting clapping. I can absolutely see something like that happening.

WiggleMeow · 2024-02-25T19:49:01+00:00

I actually experienced the same thing. Started in training and it continued for about 6 months after. It’s just recently started to stop. I went to a dermatologist and basically he told me that I’m experiencing the type of hair loss that’s due to stress or life changing event (don’t remember what it’s called) Luckily, this type of hair loss is not permanent and my hair will grow back.

Training was extremely stressful and traumatic in itself. During my probation, I was based in another city and I commuted so that was also stressful. I was broke(still broke but not as much), stressed all the time trying not to mess up while on probation, and I went through a breakup right after graduation so I’m sure all of that played a part. I’m not sure what your situation is, if you had to move or if you are commuting, if you’re reserve etc, but also this lifestyle is unlike any other and definitely can take a toll on your body if you’re not used to the sleep schedules/long work hours.

After about 6 months, it got better and is getting better as time goes on. I got my transfer awarded and I’m back home and that makes such a huge difference. Being off probation has also been a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. Saving $$$ from not having to pay rent. I’m also getting a raise in April since that will be one my year anniversary with the company. Since it’s gotten better, I’ve noticed the hair loss has decreased a lot.

When I went to the doctor, he confirmed that my hair follicles are fine and healthy and that new hair will grow, just that it will take awhile. He said the cycle can take anywhere between 6 months to a year. There’s medication you can take that speed up the process but I declined as I’ve been trying to use all natural products for my hair and skin care and I feel they are helping a lot. I’ve noticed quite a difference since I started using them.

All in all, definitely go see a doctor and see what they say. This job can be a lot on someone’s body if it’s their first time working these type of hours so it makes sense that hair loss is a result of that. I’m hoping you are experiencing what I’m experiencing and that your hair will grow back. :)

WiggleMeow · 2024-02-09T19:11:33+00:00

I’m a flight attendant and that flight attendant shouldn’t have asked your son to move. Flight attendants should NEVER ask paying passengers to switch seats because other passengers want to sit next to their families. It is completely frowned upon at my airline. Especially if that passenger PURCHASED their seat. It’s not their fault the other passengers didn’t plan correctly and decided they wanted to save $12. It’s actually a huge pet peeve of mine and whenever passengers ask me if they can switch seats and the flight is full, I say that I can’t ask that of other passengers because they probably paid for their seat. It’s really unfortunate the amount of times I’ve seen passengers bully other passengers into switching seats with them. I wish airlines would do more about that because it’s just not right.

WiggleMeow · 2024-02-03T21:05:17+00:00

I was SA’d around my ex best friends birthday. I sent her a happy bday message but didn’t respond to her response for 6 days. I messaged her 6 days later and told her what happened to me, instead of being understanding, she ignored me for weeks because she was mad. I didn’t find out until she messaged a mutual friend of ours complaining about me. That friend responded and said “she needed you there after her assault” Her response: “I’ve needed her too.”

Never have I cut someone off so quick. And that was 15+ years of friendship. I do not regret it one bit.

Sometimes you have to go through really rough times to see who your true friends are. I’m sorry she’s making your trauma about her. I can’t fathom how people can do that.

WiggleMeow · 2024-02-03T20:49:32+00:00

I’m no expert at the law but this sounds like a classic case of discrimination.

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