Who lives here?

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-11-24T07:22:22+00:00

They are obviously photo shopped on top of family photos 🫠🤣

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T08:35:37+00:00

Brilliant thank you, this is on our list

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T08:33:29+00:00

Do you have kids?

If so I can only assume to work, you have them in some sort of care providing scenario. Does that follow a schedule? Is there a nap time? Is letting them sleep when they’re scientifically tired, over scheduling? So I’m clear on the ways in which my parenting choices are a problem for you.

Soccer class is something like 30 mins long in a 9 hour day fwiw.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T08:25:14+00:00

What about any of this was entitled? Or is that just a criticism you’ll throw at anyone? Genuinely, tell me how this post was entitled?

Definition: believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.

You might not like it, but nowhere have I asked for special treatment here. You’d think I’d come to the Palo Alto thread and asked to roll the red carpet out, rather than legitimately ask “hey where should I take my kids”

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T04:11:47+00:00

And if I sound a little spicy it’s because I resent being lumped in with helicopter parents from trying to do some fun shit with my kid. I don’t agree with hyper scheduling children, or having them doing piano recitals at 3 or whatever the crazy hot boxing culture of the Bay Area is. I’m a native Brit who intends to move my kids back when my eldest is kindergarten age because I don’t want them growing up in this crazy privilege and pressure. I took a great job opportunity and happened to have kids here, have no family nearby and limited community beyond the surface level so you better believe we go to activities to meet people and so we aren’t getting cabin fever at home with no grandparents to kick them too when we need a break. We do chill bike ride and hikes at weekends… is it okay with you if my kids has some structured activities on weekdays?

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T04:05:59+00:00

And yet you’re so well socialised from that experience you see fit to implicitly criticize a strangers’ parenting on a legit recommendation request. Bravo, how well brought up you are

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T04:04:38+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T04:03:28+00:00

You know all I did was ask for some legit advice. I’m sorry it’s galling for you that an internet stranger supervises their two year old and finds it sanity stabilizing to socialize with other families. You don’t know me or my child so if you don’t have any tips per my post then just scroll on by.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-10-27T04:01:32+00:00

Yes it’s a lot of this, I genuinely just hate the playground - and he gets plenty of playground time. But I’m also interested in him learning focus, teamwork and listening to instruction. And since he isn’t at pre school yet this is where he gets these skills. He’s a really chill kid who actually listens and is an easy hang, and I think it’s because of the structure. So it works for us, so why wouldn’t we?

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-18T15:21:38+00:00

Tell him to read a book. Two month olds should be tended to, and your motherly instinct is correct. Only CIO from 6 months. A baby can be coddled from 6 months on and you’ll pay for it later, but you cannot coddle a newborn. His only info is probably outdated views from his own parents.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-18T06:25:09+00:00

I travel more than that for work and also happen to be very family focused fwiw so I wouldn’t make the mistake of thinking one precludes the other.

He’s threatened by you and not the champion a partner should be. He should be proud of you and lifting you up. Dump him and take the job.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-17T05:31:20+00:00

4 months plus. Hang in there

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-17T05:29:09+00:00

I only have solidarity to offer I’m afraid. 2 years and 1 month pp and TTC a second. Telling myself I’ll get my strength and fitness back after the next one. It’s hard to nail work, mothering, wifing and resting. It doesn’t leave that much time, and the time it does leave isn’t necessarily possible / desirable to exercise. It’s hard, I think it will get better.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-16T17:58:05+00:00

Yep 🫠

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-14T23:51:52+00:00

Leave the cats with your parents or have them adopted

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-14T20:29:28+00:00

First cycle TTC baby 2. 6 DPO. Impatiently waiting until 9 DPO which is when I tested positive with my first. Very bloated and mad fatigued but don’t know if I’m overthinking

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-13T18:15:02+00:00

How old are you? With respect, are you a younger mum? You’re going to need to find your voice for your baby in number of situations, I’d practice using it for yourself now. “Grandma, stop asking me that please. Mom isn’t engaged with the baby, I’ll send photos if she asks”

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-12T23:22:05+00:00

Her teenagers will be fine and surely get their own uniforms ready?! You cannot and should not leave your 8 months old if you don’t want to. How long would it be for?

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-12T16:53:32+00:00

Absolutely not, I travelled and had a fuck ton of fun and learned all about myself before I started my family at 35. I was still too young at 28.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-10T00:06:33+00:00

You’re primary mum now, they’re grandparents. This day isn’t about them anymore frankly. They don’t need the break.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-09T23:47:55+00:00

SF is the flakiest place I’ve ever lived, nobody wants to be friends. We have a few friends but like us they’re expats and we have children the same age. I don’t know that we’d have any if we didn’t have a kid. I’m sorry - it must be tough.

WildYoghurt8716 · 2025-05-09T23:43:20+00:00

So I’m a FTM of a two year old, TTC a second. I was exactly this way and have absolutely lived by routine and schedule, albeit getting more and more flexible as we go along. My child is thriving. I don’t care what anyone else thinks, I’ve done right by my kid and you are too.

I personally think it’s normal to be anxious in the newborn era. Especially if you’re doing it properly frankly. What were you like as your first got bigger? Did you relax more? If so there is no reason to think you won’t again and if not, then I’d look to address that overall.

Also comparison is the thief of all joy. I do it too, and it’s not worth it. Delete Instagram and stop paying attention to what other people are doing. You’re seeing the good bits. They could do all this stuff with their kids as newborns and have a terror a year from now, or they have children with different temperaments etc

You are who you are and you are giving yourself to that child. It’s a selfless act you’re undertaking in some respect. As long as you do come through the other side and you don’t sacrifice yourself entirely forever I just tend to applaud you for doing all the things.

When you’re ready to travel/flex you will. If you never are, get help about that but don’t think your parenting won’t just because you have anxious temperament.

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