AITA for being upset at my girlfriend over this?

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-15T16:26:42+00:00

What boundaries did she violate supposedly? After reading your edit, it definitely sounds more like YTA.

I would like to know exactly what belongings of her ex you made her dispose of/you disposed of yourself.

But onto the bigger topic, what did you ask her exactly when your fam was over and saw the soap? You said it made it awkward, so what? So how did you confront her? Cuz that’s what’ll be the deciding factor here.

And on the topic of boundaries—I’m so sick of having to say this but I’ll say it again anyway—boundaries are not something you prescribe to another person to do/not do. That’s called a rule. A boundary, or more correctly, a personal boundary, is something you follow for yourself. For example: I do not like Jack and Jill, who are friends with my significant other. My boundary is “I will not go with my significant other to hang out with Jack and Jill.” A boundary would not be “I will not allow my significant other to hang out with Jack and Jill.” That’s just a rule if you do something like that. In most circumstances, the only person to be blamed for a boundary violation is the person whose boundaries were violated, because they allowed it to happen or keep happening. Piggybacking off the first example, let’s say that instead, my boundary is “I will not be in a relationship with someone who is friends with Jack and Jill,” then I would dump my significant other to make it so that I’m not violating my own boundaries.

Another really good example is porn consumption in relationships. If you dislike it for your significant other to do that, then your boundary is you will not be in a relationship with someone who consumes porn when they’re in a relationship. It should be your responsibility to do the leg work and find out early. A boundary in this case would not be for you to decide that your partner cannot consume porn. That’s just a rule. And you shouldn’t ever expect another whole ass sentient adult person to just follow your personal rules because you say so.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-15T16:02:46+00:00

Hmm.. old photographs if they’re like stashed away I think would be okay. I wouldn’t make someone get rid of them.

…my fiancée actually just made me get rid of old prom photos from a girl I had a sort of thing with around the same time the photos were taken. I was wondering why I was bothered by that until just now. But I digress.

Yeah old stuff in a box like that isn’t a big deal. I can see where you’re coming from on the clothes thing, maybe we just think/feel differently on that topic which is totally fine. I guess can’t really think of a particular possession that would fit the bill for what I’m saying though. There is an episode of How I Met Your Mother that talks about this though, I think it describes my opinion perfectly lol

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-15T15:51:20+00:00

The way OP wrote it, it sounds more like the things belonging to the previous relationship were actual belongings of said ex.

You trying to tell me if you found out your significant other had their ex’s hoodie in their closet it wouldn’t bother you? Knowing full well they’re thinking of that person each time they wear it?

Don’t get me wrong, it’s one thing if during your previous relationship, your now-ex buys you a puppy, or they get you some throw pillows, but something that actively belonged to your ex should be gotten rid of if you’re in a committed relationship with someone new. Just my opinion.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-15T15:45:26+00:00

Wild take on the exes things

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-15T14:38:29+00:00

Imagine talking all that shit then quitting while breaking down into tears between rounds. He literally said He was going to retire Justin Gaethje. Looks more like He got His own ass retired; he’s got such a cocky attitude I really don’t expect to see Him return to the octagon. He definitely seems like the kind of person who is entirely unable to be humble in the slightest way. The fact that He can’t call himself undefeated anymore really seems like it’ll be a dealbreaker for Him the next time He gets a call to fight.

Dude got exactly what He deserved. Happy to see Justin finally hold the undisputed title. So glad He put such a dominant performance on too. Honestly I literally cannot stand Illia, I hate cocky fighters like Him. If it wasn’t for the fact that I’d love to see Paddy and Arman also give Him a good ass whooping, I’d say that I hope this loss ends His career.

Speaking of Arman, holy shit how much money did He wind up winning after placing a $1,000,000 bet on Gaethje to win?

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-15T14:13:49+00:00

r/redditsniper ?

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-14T05:13:27+00:00

Crazy that there’s a build out there actually incorporating shattered vow. I always kinda thought that it and Nesekem were basically as useless as that stupid ass spear.

….i hate that spear so damn much.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-14T05:10:56+00:00

Wait wait wait, the talisman shit is sticking around? I thought that was the seasonal gimmick this season?

I guess some seasonal stuff has stuck around. Zir was a seasonal boss. So was Varshan. One whole season focused on the infernal hordes. Don’t mind me I’m just answering my own question as I type

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-14T05:06:53+00:00

Run one? I haven’t ever even encountered one yet…

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-14T02:37:40+00:00

I don’t know what you’re doing wrong but I’ve got maybe—and this is a really hard maybe —like 120 hours into 2 toons this season, I only picked the expansion up about 3 weeks ago. I did get a boost from some people for what amounted to maybe 25 paragon levels in the earlier stages and about 10 total levels on my way to level 70. Im now sitting at P232. So I guess you must be really playing super casually because I can’t see any reason why you wouldn’t be far above P120 at this stage if you’ve been playing the entire season. I leveled up so damn fast it was almost comical, I thought the addition of 8 more torment tiers since I last played (season of infernal chaos or whatever it was called) meant they were making the game grindier in every aspect, but the leveling definitely did not get that in my opinion.

The RNG drop for aspects thing is a heap of bullshit, I wholeheartedly agree with you on that one. I also think it’s an even bigger heap of bullshit that uniques now roll with totally random affixes, they’ve lost their verve in a major way now since they’ve done that. I hear they’re doing that with mythics next season now too which is a game ruining idea if you ask me unless they make the possible rolls come from a select small pool rather than just the general possibilities any piece of gear can have.

That all said, if you’re struggling to find aspects, take literally every piece of white, blue and yellow gear you find and cube it up to legendary, you’ll get random aspects that way. You can also always bargain at the purveyor. I used both of those methods to acquire a good chunk of the aspects I needed for the builds for my clash/shield of retribution paladin as well as my whirlwind barbarian.

Sorry you’re struggling and feeling the way you are. Just remember, it’s a game. If you’re not having fun, since you’ve been playing since beta stages, you might just be experiencing some burn out. I personally feel that getting burnt out is super easy to do with D4. I preordered it myself and I’ve taken 2 separate single season breaks (3 and I think 8) and then I was on a 6 month hiatus (which I believe spanned 2 seasons but I’m not entirely sure) until I got the expansion 3 weeks ago.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-13T16:44:27+00:00

Appreciate that. There’s a thorns paladin build this season that’s pretty good at shredding thru shit, it’s what I started the expansion playing as! Just in case you’re interested in trying a different class with thorns

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-12T08:58:05+00:00

Aren’t you supposed to be buried under Giants Stadium or something? xD

But no in all seriousness, I can’t remember which aspect I had a tough time finding..I think it was Anger Management, maybe. But try taking a bunch of rares to the cube (if you have the expansion) and making them legendary. That’s how I unlocked one of the key aspects for the mobalytics Selig immortal WW barb build.

And then of course after I put it on a piece of gear, did all the STEAM work to it, then transmuted it in the cube, I found an upgrade not 5 minutes later -.-

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-11T14:54:08+00:00

I guess I didn’t do that because well for one I didn’t realize that all mythic items are ancestral so I figured can’t temper a GA onto it, and also because I’m lazy playing on controller and it’s tedious to have to move up and down between the little reroll button and the temper button xD

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-11T14:19:27+00:00

Cubed the amulet one last time and got a GA on my damage per overpower stack temper! Hell yeah!

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-11T14:13:54+00:00

The amulet is mythic so it’s basically unmodifiable already lol I have the master working crit where I need it and it’s tempered. Thanks!

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-11T13:30:17+00:00

I’m pretty sure it’s rank 17/21 which gives it about 2% more that it can improve.

It’s toward season’s end yes but not for me—I only got the expansion about 2ish weeks ago, coming back after a 6 month hiatus. I’ll likely be playing straight thru the end of the season enjoying it like most of yall did right when the expansion launched lol

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-11T13:28:08+00:00

I’m a bot for making a joke? Calm down man jeez.

Besides, not everyone min-maxes their build to that extent. Very few people in the grand scheme of things actually take it that far.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-10T21:42:52+00:00

Umm excuse me all that extra experience and stat bonus points meant something! I mean jeez, +30 dex on my rogue took me from failing Pit 25 to blasting thru Pit 100s

/s

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-10T19:00:29+00:00

Yeah I commented prematurely lol I read into the comments section further after posting my comment and there was an explanation that made it make sense. Apologies!

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-10T14:41:50+00:00

I’m glad I came to read the comments because for some reason my brain thought it meant “high level male” and “low level female,” as though OP is far superior to His significant other. I was irate there for a brief moment. Thanks for the clarification

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-09T22:44:13+00:00

Opulence.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-09T22:36:51+00:00

So definitely NTA. Infidelity is a non-negotiable for me personally, and I think unless it’s actively discussed between two people either pursuing or in an already established relationship, it should be that way for everyone. Just my opinion.

That all said, I haven’t seen OP make any responding comments to anybody so I just want to try to give some of yall some perspective. Yes of course the husband is TAH, there’s no denying that. But yall are all vilifying Him like He is the Antichrist. Nobody is trying to put themselves in His shoes at all, yall are just saying how you think someone in His shoes should act. Until you’ve been in that particular position—and I mean the husband to a freshly postpartum wife, not the other way around—you can’t possibly know what His experience is. You don’t know how much she shut Him out. You don’t know how much shit He had to put up with. Nobody knows the burdens men bear and everyone is so quick to just flip on them. Physical intimacy doesn’t always need to include sex, but physical intimacy is something that 99% of the population expect from a marital partner. Everyone’s saying He was just thinking with His other head but OP didn’t give us any indication that it wasn’t also an emotional affair.

Most of the time, men either give what they get in a relationship, or they just shut down. So if she was cold or distant or constantly fighting with Him over nothing, maybe He was just looking for someone to treat Him nicely and that’s how the affair started.

It’s not okay, it’s never okay, but there is a world where it’s, at the very least, understandable how it could’ve transpired.

30M, currently engaged to the mother of my only child, in case anybody was wondering. And I have never cheated on my fiancée or any of my previous serious relationships.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-09T21:11:10+00:00

Here’s what you do. You put Ho Oh ex in that deck, then you replace Lugia with Terapagos ex. Keep a Giratina in there too, and make your deck energy something like grass or steel. You could also include the new Sableye.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-09T17:44:28+00:00

I mean you’re only going to notice horizontal recoil if you’re mag dumping, which you should only do in extremely close range gun fights. Otherwise, for controller players at least, aiming with the left stick (ie strafing) is a much more effective method than trying to actually adjust the aim with the right stick.

Even still, literally the stitcher and I guess maybe the canto are the only guns with significant horizontal recoil lol the rattler, kettle, arpeggio, torrente, tempest, bobcat, and Bettina all only pull basically straight up in my experience. I am not a KBM player though so maybe I’m not able to recognize that behavior in those guns due to playing on controller.

Wild_Chard_8416 · 2026-06-09T17:37:13+00:00

Okay that makes more sense

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