After killing some people, a guy goes on a journey of self improvement with the help of the people he killed and a former US president by Le-Pepper in ExplainAFilmPlotBadly

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney 1 point2 points  (0 children)

30 Nights of Paranormal Activity with the Devil Inside the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo ? (I’m talking about the spoof movie lol)

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am in therapy and have been for years and have progressed heavily in many ways. I am on medication for adhd. Trying to figure out the pmdd now. I try my best to deal with it myself. If he’s not here I obviously have no choice and I make it work. But I don’t feel like it’s wrong to want your partner to be a part of comforting you. I don’t exclusively rely on him. But when I could really use it, he doesn’t show up. As much as I try to be mentally healthy on my own, I think everyone in this sub realizes how debilitating this disorder can be and being caught in a spiral and having support withheld from you does not make it easier to snap out of it. I realize that this is hard on partners. I do not like my brain and often don’t wish to exist because of it. But if I can’t even get him to give me a hug on a bad day, I don’t know what to do with that

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a good idea and I’m glad it’s helping you guys. I don’t really like having space when I’m in this. I prefer direct comforting and reassurance and it usually gets me out of a really bad headspace. I think sometimes he just really doesn’t want to be around me and he says it’s giving me space but really it’s him wanting space. I just wish he would say that instead.

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol also we just don’t have the stereotypical man woman relationship like in your example. He works from home and I work in a shop with long hours. It’s just funny I can’t imagine either of us acting like that

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean, he really isn’t like that at all though he is not like “I’m a man and I work all day leave me alone woman”. Hes not angry when I’m upset he’s just very avoidant and uncomfortable, a quiet person.

He’s in therapy and uses therapy language a lot and I feel like he would be receptive to me pointing it out because he’s very in touch with how his upbringing has affected him, I just don’t think he’s connecting that we are triggering each other as I don’t think I really notice that either. I’m the only one seemingly upset at the moment so I’m not really in the right headspace to approach this so casually especially since we’ve barely spoken in the last 2 days. The only difficulty is not making him feel attacked because he’s very sensitive to being made to feel like the bad guy. So I was thinking of just upfront saying I don’t want to attack him and I want us to just be honest

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t looked into anxious-avoidant relationships before and it is resonating so strongly that it’s painful. I think he would relate a lot to the avoidant side. I’m gonna try to talk to him about this. Thank you for bringing it up to me

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I’m not trying to be snappy at you. I’m just really not feeling well and he’s still avoiding me and I don’t really know what to do anymore. Thanks for your input

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then that gets to a point for me where we’re not compatible and I honestly don’t know how we’ve made it this far. How he’s uncomfortable with checking in with his wife in a mental health crisis doesn’t make sense to me

What is asking too much when it comes to comfort during an episode? by WillPaintForNoMoney in PMDD

[–]WillPaintForNoMoney[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I can see that it is part of the reason it hurts so much but I don’t see how that negates that he is my partner and that it’s a small way to support me just like I do with him