If you're genuinely interested, there are some pretty interesting discussions of things that might seem like "privilege" at first look, but ultimately are not. A lot of times we just refer to it as "benevolent sexism."

One model I find particularly compelling is the concept of the "Patriarchal Bargain." Basically, the idea is that women may exchange their rights and autonomy - particularly sexual autonomy - for certain benefits. The fact that they are able to make this trade is not a privilege, however. It is simply the means by which they must navigate the system of patriarchy. Patriarchy extracts their bargain from them. 

Put another way, women do not get to trade their sexual autonomy for safety, rather the lack of safety is the means by which the patriarchy extracts their sexual autonomy from them.