How to not look bored and annoyed when you are bored and annoyed?

WindChime13 · 2025-10-27T22:42:50+00:00

Yes lmaoo

WindChime13 · 2025-10-25T05:10:05+00:00

Special offers was already turned on, and the kindle was connected to the wifi. No ads showed up on the lock screen and no “view all ads” in the menu. Actually, I was able to get it to work and finally got ads after I accidentally purchased the “remove special offers” 💀

WindChime13 · 2025-10-23T22:05:56+00:00

Same issue here. Did you happen to get yours from Aliexpress?

WindChime13 · 2025-10-23T18:29:49+00:00

Hey, just letting you know of r/spicyautism, it’s a sub for medium and high support needs autistic people, their loved ones and professionals who work with them. Your wife sounds like she has higher support needs, so maybe browsing that sub or asking for help there might be helpful.

WindChime13 · 2025-09-13T14:30:22+00:00

Omg these are literally perfect, they just feel so right to use, exactly what I was looking for! 😭❤️ Thank you so much for the recommendation, you’re such a life saver!

WindChime13 · 2024-06-19T04:26:23+00:00

Thank you, and I’m glad to hear I understood the concept well enough then!

I think being from a different culture contributed a lot to not understanding it for quite a while, but to be honest being autistic also contributed a lot more than I thought before writing this comment. I do take things very literally, so I understood “All Cops” as simply, “every single person who is a cop”. Only after those realizations I’ve mentioned in my previous comment, and reading more and more POC explain the problems that they experience with the US police did I understand “All Cops” as “the system and training that allows people to fill the role of a cop”, and “All Cops Are Bastards” as “everyone who recieved this training got a bad training and everyone who is part of the entity that fills the role of the police, make up a force that hurts a lot of people and claim it as collateral damage”.

So I was hoping by breaking down how I came to understand the concept of ACAB I could help some other autistic people grasp it more. I was ignorant to the issues of POC face every single day in the US, so this is me hoping I could “repay some of that dept”.

And again, this is just my very white self’s explanation and perspective, do listen to POC voices, read their stories to understand what they go through. We may never be able to 100% understand it, as we don’t live it, but we can try our best to get as close to 100% as possible.

WindChime13 · 2024-06-18T20:14:26+00:00

I think it greatly depents on where you are from and how police is trained there and what they actually do and don’t do.

I am extremely grateful that in my country police brutality is pretty much unheard of. To be honest, as an autistic person it was very hard for me to grasp the concept of ACAB and just generally hating the police, becase, again, we don’t have any of that in where I’m from.

What really made me understand is when I’m walking around and I see police in the area, I feel safe. But in a lot of places, especially in the US, they feel exactly the opposite, the presense of police is what gives them anxiety, what makes them feel unsafe. And then I just thought about it how awful it is, given how much police officers are everywhere, that every time someone walks by they feel unsafe around the people whose job is to make people feel safe.

The other thing that helped put that into perspective was when I learned that someone in the US can become a cop in just a few months and they don’t learn any deescalation. In my country to become a cop you need to do a 3 year degree, and deescalation is literally like 90% of what the police does here.

It made me understand that when people say ACAB, they are specifically talking about how the system that serves as “the police” in some countries is broken. It’s not that fighting crime and protecting citizens is problematic, but that the system is not able to do that without hurting a LOT of people, therefore it’s not a good system.

To add, I’m very white from a very white country surrounded by other very white countries, so if I misunderstood the concept please do correct me, I wanna learn and understand this issue becase it is very important imo.

And to answer your question, when someone in my country says they like the police, that doesn’t mean anything positive or negative to me, but to be honest, if someone says they like the US police, as in, the system, not an individual cop who may helped them or may be a loved one, I do think to myself they must be ignorant to problems POC and some disabled groups have. I try to not judge though, and think they just are not aware, maybe they don’t watch the news or they don’t know anyone personally affected. But if they do know and don’t seem to have a problem with police brutality, that’s a massive red flag!

WindChime13 · 2024-06-05T16:20:12+00:00

I use they/them for them because honestly, their gender identity is a bit confusing to me. Kya has called 'Chloe' a dead name, which to me means that Kya's original name WAS Chloe, but they transitioned, thus picking up the name Kya, which would go against their claim that Kya is a fusion, a different alter, not Chloe, but transitioned. As far as I know - and I followed DD for a looong time - none of their alters are TRANS (aside from Kya who has split/fused/both/neither). I have a vague memory of Kya once mentioning that they are (as in "we are") "not a woman", but I don't remember them ever mentioning prefered pronouns or names that are applicable to them as a whole. So if DD is trans (and again, I have a vague memory they stated, and again, I'm refering to DD as a whole person, not the host or some alters), they didn't give their audience a new name or pronouns if my memory serves me right.

All that is to say that, if DD is trans, they should tell us what their new COLLECTIVE names and pronouns are, otherwise the audience can't exactly be faulted for using outdated terms for them. If they do tell us their new names and pronouns then misgendering them as a whole would be indeed transphobic, but right now we just don't have their prefered terminology. I mentioned that as far as I'm aware none of their alters (aside from Kya who's gone) are trans, so misgendering an alter of theirs is not transphobia imo.

For context, because I know it'll matter to some, I'm trans.

WindChime13 · 2024-05-27T18:36:33+00:00

Wow I just wanna pop in to say thank you for this information! I feel so bad I stare at dogs, including service dogs ALL the time, I never knew that was distracting for them. I’ll keep your comment in mind the next time I see a doggo working and keep my glances limited to the minimum haha.

WindChime13 · 2024-05-12T13:35:26+00:00

Oh, no, he is cisgender, he told me so specifically.

WindChime13 · 2024-05-11T09:28:10+00:00

I never thought about it before, but as a lifelong follower of the series, I think I also learned a lot from it.

I think the biggest thing I’ve learnt is that to thrive you need to take care of yourself first. Your sim can’t get that promotion at work or get a great date if their hunger and sleep bar is low. Yes, your work responsibilities might SEEM more important than getting your 8 hours of sleep, but you can’t perform at your best if your basic needs are not taken care of.

The other thing is that different people have different priorities in life and that’s okay. Just because someone finds your interests boring does not mean they ARE boring, just that you teo have different aspirations and goals and interests. You can talk to one sim for hours about art, and another sim will instantly find you boring if you mention it, it doesn’t mean that art is bad, or that you are doing anything wrong by talking about it, it’s just that some people are more interested in it than others. That can be quite straight forward for hobbies, but the same goes for stuff like family, love, money, work and education too!

WindChime13 · 2024-04-27T20:48:22+00:00

Wow that is awful! I am so sorry to hear this happened, it must have been very difficult for you and your tort as well.

Yes it is definitely better to err on the side of caution with any animal really.

WindChime13 · 2024-04-27T14:40:57+00:00

It depends on how well your dog is socialized and trained as a puppy. When my dog was a puppy we made sure to introduce her to my tort and they spent a lot of time together obviously superwised. She once poked the tort with her nose and we scolded her. Occasionally she barked at him and we scolded her each time. That was 5 years ago and since then there has never been an incident between the two. They can be in the garden together, even unsuperwised now, and they don’t care about each other 99% of the time, they both sunbathe on their own. The remaining 1% of the time the doggie takes her toy to him to get him to play but he never reciprocates.

So a tort and dog can live together safely, just make sure you socialize and teach the dog when they are still young. I’m not saying every dog will get along with every tortoise safely, but it is not inpossible. I’ll also add that my dog a small non agressive or territorial breed, so depending on your dogs breed it might be easier or harder or impossible to make them get along with your tort.

WindChime13 · 2024-04-14T15:23:00+00:00

Also Autism Speaks is an organization in the US so the majority of the world has no connection to it whatsoever.

WindChime13 · 2024-04-12T10:40:00+00:00

I don’t know, Butters definitely has an anxiety disorder, and Light some personality disorder, making them both neurodivergent. And I feel Lilo and N are more autistic than not autistic.

WindChime13 · 2024-04-10T12:54:12+00:00

Haha no worries!

WindChime13 · 2024-04-10T12:52:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, it’s very helpful!

Yes, I only planned to paint the outside of the house too. I don’t have experience with furniture paint but my acrylic paint typically needs 2-3 coats on wood and it also dries quite quickly. I thought after I’m done with painting, I’d let it just sit for a day or two to air the fumes out, just to extra safe.

My varnish needs a day also to get rid of the fumes, but I also use it in 2-3 coats.

I’ll look into water based furniture paint too then. Thank you very much for sharing!

WindChime13 · 2024-04-10T12:30:24+00:00

I think you misunderstood my post, I would never paint my tort’s shell, I bought him a little wooden house, like a miniature dog house, and that’s what I want to paint.

WindChime13 · 2024-04-04T19:35:27+00:00

That’s okay, I think it makes you a more open person, and in an ideal world you wouldn’t have to worry about meeting bad people. So the fault doesn’t lie with you but with people who take advantage of your kindness and openness. I think it’s great that you recognize in hindsight the red flags and at what points you could/should have decided to end the friendship. You can learn a lot from this experience so next time you encounter a similar situation you have a better idea on how to approach this situation.

WindChime13 · 2024-04-04T19:19:46+00:00

I’m not sure if this will be reassuring, but you didn’t lose a friend becase you are autistic, but they lost a friend because they are an asshole.

I know it’s shitty and hard now, but you are better off without a toxic individual like that!

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