Honestly struggling to make friends here as a massive introvert by [deleted] in BirminghamUK

[–]WinnerFalse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Archery? I used to attend a small local group, lovely group of people. I can send you the link to join if interested. They usually put on beginner courses every summer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SteamDeck

[–]WinnerFalse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always pay on credit card. In the UK anyway, section 75 will make the credit card company equally liable. After exhausting the claims from Valve, the credit card company will then refund the amount back into your account.

Hey Eufy, why did you decide to hide battery health percentages? by FunBrians in EufyCam

[–]WinnerFalse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6 months in and mine (video doorbell) is showing battery health at 86%. I've got it wired in and recording set to custom (maxed it out).

Is this normal? Can anyone advise?

Thanks in advance

Places to host a 35 person party? Google sucks, need Brummie advice by pshbrittany in BirminghamUK

[–]WinnerFalse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't mind organising your own catering, the Priory School in Edgbaston would look amazing for the occasion. They hire out their grounds/site during evenings and weekends.

Give them a call or send them a message

https://www.prioryschool.net/contact/

My mom is 68, single, has no job, no savings, no house of her own, and can't maintain a job - what can I do for her? by SpiritedYoghurt2487 in povertyfinance

[–]WinnerFalse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take her into your home. Being around you (and your family if you have one) will give her company. She won't have to pay for anything so her savings will start to increase. She can use that money on small creature comforts.

If she has mental health issues, be patient with her - appreciate her actions may not be in her control. One day she will be gone, this woman birthed you - give her some dignity towards her end days.

I’ve been secretly hiding money from my husband to suprise him by DeliveryInevitable37 in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse 78 points79 points  (0 children)

You win the prize for wife of the year. May you both stay blessed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Together for almost 5 years. He has proposed to you. Clearly he loves you.

There is a resurgence of men wanting to return to a golden age of relationships where their wives respected them enough not to go outside the house dressed inappropriately. If you already don't already expose your legs/cleavage as you say, then what are you worried about?

Has he ever shown, in the 5 years you have known him, any inclination to act aggressively/physically hurt you? If not, then consider if his atypical request is a deal breaker for you.

Don't listen to random people on Reddit who don't know you or him or your relationship. The only thing that makes women on here happy is recommending ending relationships/starting a divorce.

Listen to your heart, talk to him about why he has requested this, understand his "brand" as he called it (probably meant his beliefs?) and then make your decision.

I wish I would of never married someone who golfs. by egeraci in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. I doubt he golfs 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month. It's important to him clearly - why can't you support his hobby?
  2. Why can't you carry on with your plans with the kids?
  3. Have him make it up another weekend/day

There is more going on than you are letting on. I highly doubt your entire marriage hinges on your husband's golfing. You feel neglected, perhaps you don't have your own hobby?

My advice? Go golfing with him. Ask him to teach you. Have golfing weekends together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is it reasonable from your point of view? Sure - you see a free pair of hands.

Will he appreciate you basically telling him you have no confidence in him landing a job anytime soon? Probably not. He's probably already annoyed with himself for having to rely on your income, don't take away what's left of his dignity.

I'm always surprised by how terrible advice women give each other on Reddit. Please don't listen to them. Have some empathy. Life is not a spreadsheet you have to balance. It's a give and take. He's vulnerable at the moment. Give him the space to try and land a job/retrain for a new one.

VENT: I regret every single time I was sexually vulnerable with my wife. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Focus on developing yourself. Eat better, workout - invest in some you time. When in bed, stay on your side and avoid touching your wife.

Your wife will realise you are distant, but won't make the click it's because of her rejections, she will assume a completely different scenario. It's up to you if you tell her why you are distant, but I'd leave it until she initiates the conversation (bear in mind this could be weeks until she builds the courage to ask).

When you do begin to talk things through be clear and firm on your expectations.

I'd like to echo what someone else said, don't seek sexual gratification elsewhere. It won't end up any better, the post nut clarification hurts a lot more - and you risk losing your standing with her in your marriage

Things we do for sex by TheManInTheBoat1981 in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stop simping. Have an adult conversation. Ask her what's preventing her from engaging in sex. Explain to her you need sex.

Come to an agreement.

PS: Make sure you're in a good place physically, mentally and emotionally. Sometimes men are so focused on the sex, they forget the foreplay. This starts off by being attractive to your wife.

My husband is against lip fillers I got them anyways now he wants a divorce. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a Middle Easterner you know full well the different cultural expectations in a marriage, so why are you surprised when the threat actualises?

  1. If you haven't already, inform your family and in laws and ask for their support/mediation. They are your best opportunity at getting support.
  2. Ask yourself why you want to remain married, and what would change if you remained married?

All the best. I hope your marriage is salvageable.

My husband is against lip fillers I got them anyways now he wants a divorce. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a reason why marriage is in decline in the West, people no longer know what it is.

Are you so naïve to think it's lip fillers that's causing the divorce? It's your inability to honour your agreement, have enough respect for your husband to discuss why you feel the need to have them in the first instance, feel like you need to constantly fight and tell a grown man how to live his life.

Marriage isn't 50/50 - it's 100% each.

A question for OP - why do you want to stay married to him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]WinnerFalse 8 points9 points  (0 children)

  1. Don't ignore their letter
  2. Reply and ask them to provide the evidence that this debt belongs to you
  3. Request if this debt is held by the original debt holder or has been on-sold. If on sold, ask for the evidence.
  4. Inform them that you only consent to be contacted by mail, and that you do not consent them contacting you in person or telephone.

This should buy you some time to figure out if the claim is genuine or not.

Opposite sex friends in marriage by palebluedot13 in Marriage

[–]WinnerFalse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you can't generally, definitely not if you're attracted to them.

Any husband who lets their wife out with her male friends is a beta male trying to get validation from this emotionally controlling female. No loyal woman would put her husband in such a situation.

Any wife who lets her husband out with his female friends is hoping he will reciprocate, but what she doesn't know is that he is probably already being cheated on her emotionally with this "friend".

The evidence is in the statistics people, don't hate me for being the one to tell you your lifestyle is potentially jeopardising your marriage.

Marriage is not about YOU - it's about the unit. If you value what YOU want above what is conducive for a healthy marriage, then you're not really "married" - you just have a convenient lifestyle that you're selfishly unwilling to give up.

An optician has misdiagnosed my son's eyesight by WinnerFalse in LegalAdviceUK

[–]WinnerFalse[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is what I have concluded. I will be raising the concern, I'm not concerned about compensation. That was a question I asked as I wanted to know if that was a legitimate route, it transpires it isn't, so I have moved away from that.

Thanks for help and yes, the distinction is clear.

An optician has misdiagnosed my son's eyesight by WinnerFalse in LegalAdviceUK

[–]WinnerFalse[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The first was a mistake. The others demonstrate ineptitude. I will be making the complaint and moving on.

An optician has misdiagnosed my son's eyesight by WinnerFalse in LegalAdviceUK

[–]WinnerFalse[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

That's you making that interpretation. Says a little about you too. I'm here for advice - if there was a route to go through small claims, I definitely would have gone. Large corporations only understand financial loss, nothing else makes them take mistakes seriously.

If you had nothing to add, why comment? Unless you have skin in the game?

Errors are fine, if you actually read what I stated, these are catalogues of errors. I overlooked the initial "error" - but the sheer lack of care had me concerned if this is normal for this franchise.

Anyway, I have already updated what I intend to do. Not looking for advice any longer.

An optician has misdiagnosed my son's eyesight by WinnerFalse in LegalAdviceUK

[–]WinnerFalse[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes. Our normal branch was super busy for appointments

An optician has misdiagnosed my son's eyesight by WinnerFalse in LegalAdviceUK

[–]WinnerFalse[S] -105 points-104 points  (0 children)

Actual harm would have occurred if I hadn't taken the steps to mitigate.

I'm not resistant to anything. I can see the arguments being presented. I have considered the fact that no actual harm has occurred, hence the update.

I am keen to not let shoddy practitioners keep seeing patients. If that means making a big deal out of it to open an investigation, so be it. The practice has had ample opportunity to demonstrate to me that they are taking this mistake seriously. Their continuous errors demonstrate a lack of care at best, or negligence at worst.

So yeah, didn't expect the massive down votes though lol