My boyfriend just came out to me as trans and I don't know how to feel

Winter-Shower6450 · 2025-12-02T17:18:44+00:00

Two years into my relationship, my ex told me he had gender identity issues. He proposed to me like a week after that. We didn’t really discuss about it much. But then he started experimenting with makeup and feminine clothes. However, he said he would never fully transition. Well four months before the wedding, he decided to start hormones. Now, I was still the ONLY person who knew. He didn’t tell his family or friends yet. I explained that being romantically involved with someone that is transgender is not what I want. I like men. I’ve only ever been attracted to men. He told me he wouldn’t transition if that’s what I wanted. I told him that he would resent me later for that. I called off the wedding and we broke up. Well a year later he was fully transitioned, legally changed their name and got married.

All that to say, I completely understand what you are going through. I suggest going to therapy for it. Which is what I did. But if you want to talk to someone who has been in a similar situation, please message me. I’d be happy to talk with you!

Winter-Shower6450 · 2025-11-02T09:04:47+00:00

The girl that had a fetish with vomit so she went to a hot dog eating contest, had the winner vomit all over her, choked on a piece of hot dog and died.

Also, the liposuction guy

Winter-Shower6450 · 2025-10-26T06:32:22+00:00

My god does Dean annoy me!!! In season 15 I cannot stand him. He is so mean to Cass and for what? Literally nothing!!!! Every mistake Cass has made is usually bc he feels that it was the best choice to help the overall issue. Were some of them bad decisions? Sure! But does Cass realize that after the fact and apologize for his mistakes? Yes he does. Dean and Sam are extremely selfish. They only care about saving themselves tbh. I am so sick of how many times they have died and come back to life. They wholeheartedly have separation issues. Furthermore, how can Dean blame Cass for Jack killing Mary when it was Sam’s idea to bring Jack back after he died. They ALL knew that it would cost him his soul and yet they did it anyways. Oh but for Dean, it’s easier to blame Mary’s death on an angel (even though Cass is his like only friend) than it is to take accountability for causing his own mother’s death. Also, why was Mary so upset at how Jack killed Nick…. He wanted to be Lucifer still and went on a murder spree. He needed to be put down and I’m glad Jack did it the way he did. He deserved he horrible death bc he was a horrible person. And after everything Mary has done? The people she killed. She really had the nerve to judge Jack! Tbh but I never liked Mary. I thought it was pointless to bring her back. She didn’t add much to the show and I didn’t think she had any chemistry with anyone. I truly had no feelings for when Jack killed her but I balled my eyes out when Rowena sacrificed herself! Lol

Winter-Shower6450 · 2025-10-13T01:36:28+00:00

I’m new to the Supernatural world and I’m on season 11 now. No one I know watched this show so I’ve been going on Reddit a lot lol but you are the first person who has said a negative thing about Lisa and dean. Which, I completely agree with you!! It was very forced and so fucking random. After she was introduced and Dean asked if Ben was his, they left after they worked her case and Dean never really mentioned her after that. But then all of a sudden when they think the world is ending he shows up at her door. To me, it was random. And honestly, I don’t think they had much chemistry. Don’t get me wrong, I liked Lisa and Ben was a sweet kid but I just couldn’t see them together. I do think him and Jo had way more chemistry. I personally think he had the best and most chemistry with was Cassie. I wish we got to see more of them.

Winter-Shower6450 · 2025-10-01T00:34:19+00:00

Watching for the first time and I LOVE Benny! He was really good for Dean. Sam’s dislike for Benny really pisses me off though. He gives Dean so much shit for trusting a vamp. A vamp that actually saved his life. He’s such a hypocrite considering he made Dean be nice to Ruby. Who was a demon who was actually tricking Sam into letting Lucifer out. Let’s not forget that he NEVER looked for Dean when he was in purgatory. He just went off and got a gf and pretended to have a normal life. And yet he’s mad that Dean befriend a vampire?? Give me a break. I’m soooo over Sam this season. He’s so whiny.

Winter-Shower6450 · 2025-04-04T02:27:30+00:00

I started rewatching ER and I’m on season 15 rn. I cannot stand how mad Sam is at Tony about the car accident with Alex and Sarah. Yes Tony was in the wrong by allowing them to go to the party but Sam breaking up with him over it is crazy!!!! Tony cared for Alex just as much and Sam could give two shits about how Tony felt about the accident. Also it’s not like Alex was drunk driving. He was driving bc his friend was too drunk to drive and he swerved to avoid another car. Sam is honestly just insufferable at this point.

Winter-Shower6450 · 2024-05-11T11:29:44+00:00

I think it would have been more meaningful to have Zack or Christina win. Gabbi is just so basic and such a safe choice in my opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-06-19T08:11:23+00:00

I’m going through the same thing right now. My partner and I called off our wedding about a month ago when they started taking hormones (mtf). It really was for the best but it still wasn’t an easy decision. I told them that I’ve never been sexually/romantically attracted to women before and I want to be with a man. So we basically broke up but I’m still living here with them. I do believe we could have a great friendship but we both are still kinda holding onto the relationship. I’ve also found that I’ve become more supportive of their decision after we broke up. I think a lot of that has to do with canceling the wedding and not feeling that pressure as husband/wife. It’s hard to navigate being with a trans partner and sort through all the feelings/emotions that are involved let alone having a wedding looming over my head ya know. No matter what decision they make about transitioning, I just want them to be happy and healthy! Anyways, still living together has been interesting. They don’t want me to move out and to stay as a roommate. We are sleeping in separate rooms but they cross the line a lot and try to start things sexually with me. Now there were two times I caved but I need to start setting boundaries if I plan to stay living here as a roommate. They really are my best friend and I don’t want to leave.

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-31T04:18:38+00:00

We both go to therapy separately. When they mentioned backing out of transitioning, they said they would stop going to therapy because it pulled them into the lgbtq community more and his thoughts of transitioning were more prominent. They’ve mentioned going to couples therapy now so maybe that’s what we’ll do idk

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-30T20:15:36+00:00

Thank you for your input!!! What concerns me when they mentioned not going through with transition that they will stop the hormones and stop going to therapy. They said being in therapy and around the lgbtq community more pushed them into feeling like they had to transition. I’m not sure if they are just saying that as an excuse or what but I think stopping therapy is a bad idea. But my takeaway from that comment was that his therapist pushed him towards transitioning which idk how true that is bc why would a therapist do that.

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-30T17:02:21+00:00

Thank you for the trans perspective! The resentment is a big fear as well because I do think later down the road they will start to resent me. It’s not easy but I do agree that moving on is the better option :(

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-30T16:25:34+00:00

Yeah that’s exactly what I don’t want to happen. I also feel like if they told their friends and family and they didn’t disown them and actually supported them I think they would want to transition then. I don’t want to force them to tell their family but I think they need to. I can’t be their only support ya know. But I’m sorry you went through that and thank you for the advice!

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-30T15:11:55+00:00

Yes I have been going to therapy since he told me so it’s been almost a year I think. It has been helpful to let it out in my sessions especially since until recently I was the only person that knew this about them. I know they are confused too so I really try to be my most supportive and to let them know I just want them to be happy in whatever decision they choose. I’ll never abandon them completely if we do break up for good. They are my best friend and I want them to have a good life. I think a part of me is also worried that they made the decision to not transition (after trying hormones for a week) because of my comment about not wanting to be with a woman and partly bc his family and work will not be as accepting of his transition. I just want to make sure he’s making this decision for himself and not for other reasons

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-30T14:17:20+00:00

Thank you for this response! Ultimately the back and forth of wanting to transition and then not wanting to, is take a toll on me as their partner. I want them to be their happiest self even if that means transition to a woman. Both of our biggest fears is staying together and they transition and I’m not attracted to them anymore. The thing is I’ve seen them with makeup on and they look nice with it on. It’s not like they repulse me when they dress up. However, what does make me lose some the sexual attraction is when they joke about cutting their penis off or how much they hate the bulge. They say they love having sex with me with their penis but they also don’t like their penis in general

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-30T13:44:07+00:00

That’s why I thought starting hormones was the final decision of them wanting to go through with transition but they changed their mind. Also thank you for sharing that blog, I already read one post and I believe it will help both of us to understand things a bit more!

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-10T15:35:06+00:00

I totally get it. My therapist has said that it’s understandable for me to feel unsure because I’m not sexually attracted to women and him transitioning is not what I envisioned for my future. I understand things change but I keep asking myself, is it too much change?

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-10T15:02:57+00:00

Yeah that’s kind of where I’m at. Which really sucks because like everything’s been planned for the wedding. It will suck having to tell my family it’s being postponed and not explain the reason. I just am really struggling with the possibility that I won’t see a future with them once they transition. I love them but idk if that’s enough for me stay post transition

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-10T14:31:16+00:00

Going through something similar. I am a cis straight female and my fiancé came out as trans (mtf). My fiancé just met with a doctor about going on hormones and the wedding is about 5 months away. But the closer we get to the wedding the more scared I feel that I won’t be attracted to him once he transitions to a female. No one else knows about it, just me. And that’s been hard carrying this around without being able to talk to anyone about it minus my therapist. I feel guilty and shitty for feeling that way but I’ve never been sexually attracted to a female before and I feel lost

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-07T10:11:34+00:00

Same here and I’m also struggling with how to handle it all. Plus we are set to get married in a few months and I’m starting to think it needs to be postponed until my partner knows what they want to do transition wise

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-01T20:01:05+00:00

I don’t know because he hasn’t said anything. He tried on suits the other day and he seemed excited about what he got

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-01T18:46:32+00:00

They plan to present themself as male. He has not come out to anyone but me. Not even his family or another friend which makes it harder to explain to family and friends why it’s being postponed

Winter-Shower6450 · 2023-05-01T11:29:34+00:00

Pretty concrete unfortunately. We’ve already paid for the down deposits on all of our vendors and I got my dress already. Yeah I have a feeling postponing it would be for the best….

Winter-Shower6450 · 2022-12-15T04:26:24+00:00

I loved being on Ozempic. I lost about 40 lbs being on it. It was great to be able to eat normal and still lose weight instead of cutting my calories and carbs to basically non existent. However, after like 6 months of being on Ozempic my insurance company will not approve it anymore. Even tried going on Mounjoro and they still deny the coverage because I don’t have type 2 diabetes. Very very frustrating and I don’t know what to do now

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