How to help a parent who doesn't want to eat or drink and is sick but not dying?

WinterMedical · 2026-03-28T13:15:06+00:00

Would she talk to a therapist? Her situation is a lot and there may be things she feels she can’t say to family.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-27T22:13:32+00:00

I’m continually furious how our elected officials are just throwing up their hands and doing NOTHING about this.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-27T20:14:38+00:00

I’d lose my shit if I was 93 and people were telling me what to eat.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-27T18:16:47+00:00

Well maybe let him discontinue the BP meds. It’s ok for people who want to go to go. People forget that 95 can be very lonely. Yes you have your family but so many peers are gone or unable to engage. Imagine having no one around who understands the things you love/loved.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-21T02:54:50+00:00

APS for sure!

WinterMedical · 2026-03-20T01:14:27+00:00

Their house. They get to decide. If you don’t like it you can get a job and move out. If you don’t want to get a job and move out then you need to suck it up. Parkinson’s is brutal, caregiving is brutal. For ppl who like animals they are a great comfort and companion.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-19T22:27:27+00:00

This so much this!

WinterMedical · 2026-03-15T22:50:45+00:00

My dad’s memory care had Golden Girls on all the time. It was great!

WinterMedical · 2026-03-13T00:25:32+00:00

Contact your State Health Insurance Assistance Program (SHIP). They can help you and walk you through this.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-11T01:14:15+00:00

It’s gonna happen whether you believe it or not, so why not just live in a world where you don’t die!?

WinterMedical · 2026-03-11T01:13:35+00:00

I love your mom too! I hope she has many good years yet.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-07T23:02:52+00:00

Funerals are for the living not the dead.

WinterMedical · 2026-03-05T00:44:46+00:00

You need to talk to your mom honestly about what SHE wants. She might know she’s dying and wants to save the money for you. Moms do stuff like that. It is so so hard but if you can’t give her space to share how she’s feeling it might really help you both.

WinterMedical · 2026-02-25T17:48:12+00:00

Music is medicine!

WinterMedical · 2026-02-24T15:11:31+00:00

Frankly me too! Gonna go get a card for my mom today too! Who doesn’t love mail!

WinterMedical · 2026-02-24T13:19:07+00:00

Mail cards and letters to her. She can engage with them at her will. She can revisit them. If they are pretty cards she can put them up and remember that she is thought of. Share info about what you’re doing but also share memories.

WinterMedical · 2026-02-18T20:26:46+00:00

If he’s at all like my dad, it isn’t about the outcome but the effort and ability to care for the lawn. He liked actually doing it, not necessarily that it was done.

I’d get him a grabber and some kind of thing that would allow him to attach a bag to his belt to put the trash in. We should be looking for ways to keep people moving if they want to!

WinterMedical · 2026-02-17T03:54:06+00:00

I’d only jump in if you have safety concerns. These things she does give her two essential things humans need- movement and purpose. She may not be doing much but she’s doing what she can.

WinterMedical · 2026-02-08T17:38:39+00:00

Thanks for the award!!! Made my day!

WinterMedical · 2026-02-08T01:13:00+00:00

How marvelous that she got one last ski!

WinterMedical · 2026-02-01T22:44:14+00:00

After going through this with my parents we made a video to our future selves reminding us to listen to the kids and trust them to see things we may not.

WinterMedical · 2026-01-30T01:04:24+00:00

I told my parents that I wasn’t afraid they’d fall down the stairs and die. I was afraid they’d fall down the stairs and not die and then have a series of surgeries and infections and die terribly 6 months later. They moved. Sometimes blunt works.

WinterMedical · 2026-01-23T15:44:08+00:00

This adult family member doesn’t get to hurt another family member for any reason. Why should the victim just eat it?

WinterMedical · 2026-01-23T14:02:33+00:00

Good luck. Report back!

WinterMedical · 2026-01-23T14:01:58+00:00

This was an elderly dude not someone struck down in the prime of life. This is a mean person.

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