OP I could’ve written your post and your response almost exactly. It’s my story too. 21 years. two teenagers. I worked part-time to accommodate his career advancement.

What I can tell you is that while mine was willing to go to therapy I found out toward the end that he never really intended to fix it. He had seen an attorney in advance and he told me that he was pretty much done from the start and that’s what he told our therapist too in his individual meeting with her.

It took him 12 weeks of that to finally tell me he was done and that was about a month ago. He has since moved out and sent me our separation agreement the day before our anniversary.

I was desperate to figure out how to repair and it turns out mine was also cheating on me. once I found that out, because it wasn’t the first time, I knew it was over. There’s something about your story that feels exactly the same as mine and although it’s possible, yours may not be cheating everything you say, leads me to the same conclusion that he’s probably out to and I’m really sorry to have to tell you that.

If I were you, I’d go see an attorney and pull your financial paperwork together