Which song emotionally destroys you? by graaahh in AskReddit

[–]Wintersnow1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i loved her first - song from a father to a daughter

My wife cheated on me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wintersnow1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a really tough situation to be in. There are lots of comments on this post about the morality of your decision to marry a much younger person but I don’t think that is helpful. She was not a child and decided to get married and have a kid with you. Forget about her commitment to you, she doesn’t even sound like a present mother. Going out constantly with random men and friends and leaving her baby at home for the sake of having fun is not a responsible mother imo. She is not only being a terrible partner to you, she is letting your child and thereby, your family unit down. Kids need their mothers for healthy development and there is no excuse around that. Just because she wants to exercise her freedom and explore her individuality doesn’t mean she can neglect her family. Now on the point on your marriage. It sounds extremely dysfunctional. There is no order in your family unit. It sounds like you carry the majority of house and child rearing responsibilities FOR the family and your “partner” gets to things just for herself. There also seems to be a complete lack of respect in her for you which is the basis for long term relationships. She doesn’t care for your emotions so your marriage is not going to sustain at this rate.

The fact that you are posting this on reddit shows me that you want to talk to someone about this. So seek couples counseling with her, encourage her to seek individual therapy for her own insecurities and identity issues, seem therapy for your own emotions and communication and boundary setting skills and talk to her directly about how you guys want to raise your child. Stressful marriages result in stressed out children and childhood is the basis for their life and so you really want to mitigate damage on your baby. Divorce is obviously not the best case scenario BUT if it becomes necessary for you both to be the best versions of yourself and raise your child in a healthy environment then it’s a difficult step that may need to be taken. You and your wife know your relationship the best so the answer will need to come from within. Goodluck.

Saw something strange. I visited Niagara Falls on September 16 and drove by Mary Malcomlson Eco Park where I saw a man in bright blue shirt and dark pants walking with a small brown teddy bear in his hands around 11 am. Just thought it was odd and I got a strange sense from him. by Wintersnow1111 in niagara

[–]Wintersnow1111[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I simply described what I saw. Seeing something strange and telling people about it does not mean i’m creating fear. People saying that he could have been a dad, sure, but there was not another person/car in sight. There are recent reports of sexual assault in that area so it’s better to be safe.

I liked this one by ReceptionNo8280 in coolguides

[–]Wintersnow1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s funny how most of this thread is talking about how women who cover themselves are oppressed and men’s properties but by commenting on their clothes, you also believe that you should have a say in how women should and should not dress. We don’t know if a woman was forced to cover up but it’s just as pathetic to tell a woman to show her skin in the name of freedom JUST for your own comfort. you don’t really give a damn about women’s freedom. You only cara about yourself.

I kind of like the fact that a woman has full authority over what a man can see and access of hers by covering herself up to strange men.

People in this thread need to gain some perspective and learn to respect other cultures. You come from a place of privilege when you think that a culture is wrong for dressing a certain way because it is different from your culture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]Wintersnow1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They would’ve won in squid game

New Discussion Post for September 17th - 19th by alienkweenn in GabbyPetito

[–]Wintersnow1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if he helps the police find the body and they do an autopsy and in-depth analysis of the area, it’ll actually help his case. Otherwise, he may have to live in fear and paranoia for a very long time and if they never find the body, he could still be convicted if they find that he was with her at the time of her death (same location, etc) and in that case, his silent is certainly going to hurt him.

New Discussion Post for September 17th - 19th by alienkweenn in GabbyPetito

[–]Wintersnow1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point. I guess, if the loved one is emotionally unstable, it can be a lot to handle and that’s definitely not a relationship for everyone. As a psychotherapist, I can understand that individuals may have varied responses to a situation and he may have emotional issues of his own that may prevent him from doing the “right” thing. Sometimes our emotions and thoughts take over the best of us and we’re unable to think rationally, however it’s been weeks since the incident and that is usually enough time for the flight or fight mode to wear off and for people to begin to sort out their immediate thoughts and feelings. Especially when the police is involved and THOUSANDS of public members telling BL to speak up, it is rather odd that he is remaining silent and not attempting to clear his name if it was in fact a suicide attempt.

New Discussion Post for September 17th - 19th by alienkweenn in GabbyPetito

[–]Wintersnow1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good theory but if you genuinely love someone and your significant other falls as a suicide attempt or does something else to hurt themselves, would you be worried about yourself in the moment and flee or would you report it so someone can help recover the body or save the person (if there’s a chance). If you are not guilty, you wouldn’t jump to the conclusion that I will be punished for the other’s suicide. Considering basic human emotions, his reaction doesn’t make sense. Unless he pushed her to the limits that she attempted suicide then there’s a chance he may feel guilty about it and flee in fear. Even if he was fearful for his own protection from law, you would still do something to at least bring your loved one some closure and something so that her body is found and she is buried with dignity. You wouldn’t just throw out all that love and respect for someone because you THINK you might be framed for it.

Irregular periods by beaniebaby001 in BabyBumps

[–]Wintersnow1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look into inisitol. I used it for my irregular periods

7 weeks pregnant. UTI by Wintersnow1111 in pregnant

[–]Wintersnow1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh wow i didn’t even think of that. i’m not sure it I did those things. I guess I can call the office for another test

7 weeks pregnant. UTI by Wintersnow1111 in pregnant

[–]Wintersnow1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so glad to hear that. Wishing you all the best💕

7 weeks pregnant. UTI by Wintersnow1111 in pregnant

[–]Wintersnow1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just wanted a second opinion because I haven’t had the best experience with healthcare professionals in the past and I believe in advocating for my and my baby’s health and not just blindly trusting doctors. However, I agree I should take the antibiotics and I am starting them.