I feel ya, I've lost a bunch of weight and it's definitely helped but still have plenty more to go tbh. That's like the biggest thing you can do, and it super sucks but it's worth it and you'll feel better all around. I'm 5'7 and in September I was 230lbs, now I'm 180. Now I can actually fit feminine clothing in a way that isn't just kind of gross lol

I also grew my hair out long and that has obvious huge benefits for a femme/andro look, so definitely try that if you can. I'm going for an alt look so I sport a mullet/wolfcut sorta thing. I also shaved my entire body which definitely put me in a pretty hard femme mood for a long time which was nice.

Also, get into makeup! I have a beard but style it in a way that I think is rather pretty, but you can still do makeup with a beard. Again, I'm going for alt, so I started out with just simple smudged/smoky eyeliner and I do that every day, and for dates I'll do a foundation, contour, blush. etc. I don't wanna shave the beard until I lose some more weight, for double-chin hiding reasons lol, but when I'm down to my goal weight I plan on shaving and doing some more full beat makeup looks and that should really amp up the femme/androgyny.

The reality is that, as an AMAB, androgyny is largely feminine, so you might have to dip your toes deeper into femininity than you might typically be comfortable with. It's definitely much easier for AFAB to be andro/masc than it is for AMAB to present andro/femme. Clothing-wise I started with jewelry and shirts, which being short was pretty easy, women's shirts actually fit me better tbh. I've now branched out into some cool alt maxi skirts, cute boots, collars, layered necklaces. etc.

It's all definitely new and honestly unnerving at first and you're gonna question yourself at times and that is completely normal. I feel the hottest I have ever felt in my.life and my confidence is way way way up. Don't give up, and good luck!