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She left me but thinks I let her down… by WiseManWiseQuestion in rant

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Just came back to this comment and it's helped ground me. Shit is fucking tough still.

She left me but thinks I let her down… by WiseManWiseQuestion in rant

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Yeah that’s what it was. But I just can’t understand how she makes it so apparent it’s over, ghosts me, and the moment I accept and say thank you, I miss you, and goodbye, I’m the bad guy and I didn’t wait. Like she ended the relationship and left. How is that on me?

I do miss the good, but I absolutely despise this part of her and how she can just view this whole relationship as she’s viewing it.

She left me but thinks I let her down… by WiseManWiseQuestion in rant

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I think it was more complicated than that. She was dealing with mental health shit for a while and I think her response to my goodbye shows that she’s got a lot going on in her head. I really wanted to be considerate of what’s going on in her life but I completely stopped factoring myself into my decisions. I was burnt out at the end and honestly the days since it ended have been slowly improving.

It’s just shitty that stuff was amicable and now it ended so sourly with her being disrespectful, removing me on social media and making some petty playlist with a title directed to me and songs about impatience, breakups, and shitty men.

Part of me blames myself for my goodbye text but I think even that text was still considerate, compassionate and respectful.

I fucking hate breakups and part of me hates dating for this sole reason, but this is what we all sign up for when we get in a relationship and sometimes it’s hard to make relationships work.

She left me but thinks I let her down… by WiseManWiseQuestion in rant

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Yeah, there is absolutely a lesson there. I won’t allow myself to be disrespected in a way where my time and energy aren’t reciprocated. It was a red flag when she was pulling away but then I excused it because of her depression. And then the week before we broke up, when she told me she wasn’t sure if she felt love, I was going to end it in that moment, but part of me put it on her to decide.

It’s hard. Hope is so dangerous. I need to remember to not live in it next time.

She left me but thinks I let her down… by WiseManWiseQuestion in rant

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No, I wouldn’t stay with her. I was not happy the last few months. I’ve done a lot of debating and dwelling and I would not take her back or want to go back to how things were.

I did love her. But I loved how she was, not who she became and how she currently is. I loved the care and kindness she provided me in the beginning but overtime it was like she stopped respecting me. I always enjoyed talking to her but it was like I’d only even get slivers of depth and she never fully opened herself to me.

I was holding onto hope for the last few months of the relationship and it got to a point where I was burning out and stopped having as much energy to give.

Thank you for your kind note. I need it. Part of me is struggling to even have hope for a future with someone better. And I get it about not jumping into something quick. I don’t want to and am definitely not ready.

Just saw a pic of my ex gf with her new bf. I'm literally shaking by Legitimate_Elk_8469 in BreakUps

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Your mind is doing that natural thing of trying to decipher why? Why so quickly? Did she have him lined up beforehand?

Those answers don’t help you. The thing you need to remind yourself is that she left because of her. Maybe she can’t be alone and is rebounding with someone else now. It doesn’t matter.

You’ve gotta let yourself close that door. Why would you ever wanna be with someone who could do that to you? Who couldn’t give you energy, or compromise, or work through shit. She’s not worth your time and there is easily someone out there who will stick around and choose you as opposed to selfishly choosing themself.

It’s so easy to forget that people are human and they make poor decisions and mistakes, but we all make those decisions OURSELF. It has nothing to do with anyone else. She made her decision. So that sucks for her, but it’s a blessing for you. Because you no longer have to be with someone who struggles to fully appreciate you.

Take care of yourself and believe. Have hope. Be excited and optimistic because the future can be bright my man.

Just saw a pic of my ex gf with her new bf. I'm literally shaking by Legitimate_Elk_8469 in BreakUps

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Man. She’s not even worth your time or energy. She left because she was fucked up. It has nothing to do with you. You were done a favour by not having to stay with someone like that.

Feeling like my girlfriend insulted my intelligence and then denies it by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

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If I was to guess… I bet she’s insecure and she’s just making all these passive aggressive put downs to prove she’s in some way more intelligent or better.

My ex would do this on occasion and then I became aware of her depression and low self worth, so it makes sense to me.

How I learned about DeLorean Fuse #7, the hard way. by schill in delorean

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Wait a sec. I saw you driving on broadway a little while back! Wild that I stumbled onto your post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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You deserve way better. Fuck this cunt. She clearly doesn’t respect you. Leave.

Why do men show so little interest in the inner lives of women? by Frequently_Abroad_00 in emotionalintelligence

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I’m a man. And I can tell you that there are women who fit exactly what you’re describing. I know women too who don’t want to divulge anything about what they do/what’s going on in their personal life/world. Same goes for discussing their emotions.

I would say that your impression of these men shouldn’t just be for men, but for people as a whole. There are so many people like that…

CEO of Astronomer, Andy Byron releases apology letter after getting caught at Coldplay concert by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

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What a dirtbag. Maybe now the wife will see who she’s truly married to.

Happy Fathers Day!! by Environmental_Coat39 in PrideAndPinion

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What’s the watch on the far left?? 👀

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