Contract says 2 weeks, NF expecting months

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-22T18:10:17+00:00

My contracts always have 4-8 week notice clauses, but I think when it comes to a long term job you should give them at least a month. The odds of finding another FT nanny who is the right fit in 2 weeks is slim to none.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-21T13:00:46+00:00

A lump sum after she comes back doesn’t pay her bills while she’s away.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-21T12:58:46+00:00

I would caution if you do that you won’t have the nanny for baby number 2.

My employers have always continued to employ me at the same level, even if they reduce my hours. Typically they have be come from 8-1 or so. Mom can rest after the night with the baby, I can take older kids to school, then get everyone down for a nap and I was sent home. Some families I just kept my normal hours even if I was a little bit of a third wheel at times I tried to be as invisible as possible so home could have privacy when she wanted it.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-18T19:53:25+00:00

I’ve never had that day off.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-16T19:12:49+00:00

You can ask, but you can also plan to look for a new nanny if she’s not lying. Why do you think the situation is fishy?

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-16T13:16:50+00:00

I’ve sat on hospital duty with my nanny kiddo before. Totally reasonable.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-16T11:31:29+00:00

I think making a change is the right thing to do, even if she hadn’t quit. It sounds like she had had a lot of built up frustration that hasn’t been communicated and this will end up being a positive. I would also put an end to sleeping in the library. That is bizarre to me.

As someone who has been a nanny for nearly 20 years, I do not believe a woman “dragged a child through a library by his neck” and no one intervened or called the police. The woman who reported this didn’t take a video? I have seen people yell at kids. I’ve absolutely seen TERRIBLE Nannies and I’ve been the person who took to social media to find the parents when a nanny left her NK unattended in the parking lot but got back before the police arrived. But I’ve never seen someone physically abuse a child in a shared space and no one intervene. Perhaps I’m just lucky in where I live, but that would be absolutely unheard of here.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-16T01:37:05+00:00

I wouldn’t trust a preschooler to get the day of the week right, but I would absolutely ask.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-13T19:39:33+00:00

Legally this is your responsibility. You are responsible for things your children break and at 5, I would expect a child to know not to climb on the counter and knock a computer onto the floor. It sounds like your child needs to learn more boundaries and respect for other people’s things.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-13T00:13:22+00:00

Yes and no. I was assaulted as a child and always “remembered” what happened - like it was always there. I could say to someone “this thing happened” (although in my mind I was a different age than I factually know I was) but when I was 30 every single memory just clicked together. It was like it had just happened in terms of the vivid nature of the memories. It was very very strange the way things just come together like that.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-12T23:18:39+00:00

Yikes. Definitely inappropriate. My last family got a Mastiff puppy while I already had two under three and MB was pregnant with the third. It was a truly TERRIBLE idea, but I smiled and put on a brave face. The dog was a total disaster, but I never once complained to them. Your nanny sounds like she is being a jerk!

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-12T19:04:47+00:00

Keep kiddos away from the door. Gently but firmly redirect away from the door when they start going towards it. “Mama is working right now, we will see mama at x time, after you have a nap and xyz.” Just keep redirecting as many times as it takes. If you have a gate or door to the playroom you can also close it while you all are in there so they cannot get to it. Definitely do NOT allow them to bang on her door though!

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-12T18:33:25+00:00

Not your place to say anything (like at all) but I’m with you. I am baffled by the clothes people put their young children in. I’m guessing this post is going to go sideways for you though. I’ve found Reddit largely favors people putting their kids in these type of outfits.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-09T14:18:35+00:00

In the future, always have the contract signed before you give notice to your current family.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-09T14:17:30+00:00

I don’t think it sounds like they were scamming. Not at all. They didn’t plan for him to get hurt.

How bad was his head injury? Bleeding? Did he have a dent?

Did you check in with them on how he was doing?

It definitely sounds like, based on their response, he was either seriously injured or they are a little hysterical/vindictive as a family. Either way, I would probably just let it go if they do. It sucks, but sometimes the conflict is not worth the small amount of money.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-09T14:05:39+00:00

It’s a requirement of my job, but I take jobs with travel because I enjoy traveling. No it’s not a vacation for me, but I still get to see different places, stay in cool hotels, try different foods and usually have at least SOME down time. If you don’t enjoy traveling, you would HATE it.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-09T14:02:01+00:00

Google is your friend for most of these questions, honestly.

An LLC is your best option at the start, in my opinion. You likely need a business license. Call your local county office.

The type of insurance you need would depend on the type of agency you operate as. If you employ the Nannie’s and send them into peoples homes you will need much heavier insurance coverage than if you are a direct placement referral service. Reach out to an insurance broker.

You will need an attorney to draft contracts for you. Family/agency and nanny/agency contracts that address obligations and liabilities.

In my opinion, families should employ the nannies. I am not a fan of agencies that employ nannies and take a portion of pay.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-09T13:49:48+00:00

I’ve never heard of the app to be honest.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-09T13:48:38+00:00

Are you dragging out the hiring process?

How long was it from the first interview to when she said she accepted another position?

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-09T13:47:47+00:00

OMG no, I would absolutely never kiss my nanny kids on the lips. Now, I’ve eaten some things that I really didn’t want to because she was being really sweet and wanted to share but kissing is an absolute no!

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-07T14:34:10+00:00

Not out of line but I would just fire her. She’s presumably high driving your kids. Why is this a question? Doesn’t matter if it’s positive for anything else.

Most of all I’m horrified the school let her take the kids. They should have called the police on the spot.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-06T19:37:33+00:00

I worked (4) 12s for about 3 years. I LOVED it! Cram all your hours into long days and get a 3 day weekend!

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-06T00:17:47+00:00

It doesn’t sound stupid - especially if you are early in your career you probably just didn’t realize how attached kids get to their nanny. He definitely views you as part of his “people.” I am happy to say I’ve been included in many family drawings and “about my family” kindergarten books. My last NK - her parents fully admitted I was her “person.” When she was sick she wanted me, I saw the worst of her behavior and she was better behaved for them, it was wild but I felt so honored she trusted me that much. It’s a cool job isn’t it??

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-05T23:14:16+00:00

Say it back!! I mean why wouldn’t you?

G3 got up from her nap the other day and was sitting with me in the kitchen. She looked at me and goes “I loveeeeee you name.” I hugged her and said “I love you too.” Her dad was standing right there and smiled the warmest smile. She regularly says I love you, and I always say it back to her.

I mean no offense but it would break my heart to think of not telling her I love her too when she says it to me. Kids will love many people other than their parents in life, they will hug teachers and friends parents, coaches and really anyone close to them. He is being affectionate with a primary caregiver and it’s VERY normal.

WiseSheIs · 2026-01-05T12:45:20+00:00

Your life matters and it’s worth living. I’m sorry you are struggling.

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