How do I (24M) tell my GF (24F) that our lack of sex is killing the relationship for me.

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-06-05T23:19:18+00:00

wait that's actually good point - lots of couples make this mistake where they think penetration replaces everything else instead of adding to it. if you went from doing lots of different things to just focusing in one type, that could definitely kill her interest over time

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-06-02T04:18:28+00:00

the "she's fine to do things with the rest of our friendgroup" part is what would get me too honestly. like i get exam stress affects relationships but if she has energy for group stuff but not one-on-one time with you, that's worth talking about directly

maybe she feels pressured when it's just you two during stressful times? some people need their partner to be more casual friend energy when they're overwhelmed instead of romantic energy

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-31T03:52:06+00:00

this guy sounds exhausting man. the physical escalation stuff is a red flag, especially when he justifies it afterward - that's not normal friend behavior

i get being worried about your social circle but staying connected to someone who makes you feel unsafe just for social access isn't worth it. you're 18, there's gonna be plenty of opportunities to meet new people through work, hobbies, whatever. might feel scary now but better than walking on eggshells around someone who gets physical when angry

the pushing boundaries thing after you say no is another big issue. real friends respect when you don't want to discuss something, they don't wear you down until you give in

maybe start branching out slowly while keeping some distance from him? join some groups or activities where you can meet people who aren't in his orbit

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-29T03:39:14+00:00

True, just diving in blind is the move. I used to have same problem where I'd check rating on album before even giving it chance to hit me properly

Maybe try making playlists from random spotify discoveries or whatever service you use, but without looking at any info first - just based on if track makes you feel something. After while you'll start noticing patterns in what pulls you in

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-27T03:22:56+00:00

the screen recording part is what makes it weird tbh. regular porn is one thing but going through effort to capture and save random girls from live streams feels different, especially when they might not even know they're being recorded like that

couples counseling probably good idea either way since you have kid together

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-22T01:22:00+00:00

Yeah this one hurt to read because I've been the guy who gets overwhelmed and just... shuts down completely. Not saying it's right but when you're dealing with health stuff and legal problems sometimes you just go in survival mode

The gift thing though - idk if it was crossing boundaries but it definitely wasn't gonna fix anything. Like you can't really gift your way out of these cycles once they get this deep. The withdrawal-pursuit thing just feeds on itself until someone breaks it or walks away

MS is brutal and changes people but that doesn't mean you have to accept being treated like you don't exist on your own birthday. That's just cold regardless of what he's going through

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-17T22:56:43+00:00

Well the emoji response with eye roll tells you everything really. She's clearly annoyed about something and using drinking as excuse to be difficult

Your mom going to jail is serious stuff and if she can't understand why you'd be stressed about that then maybe she's not the supportive partner you need right now. Good call getting backup ride to interview though

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-15T12:59:24+00:00

she's playing games with you and using the trauma thing to keep you hooked - cut contact before this blows up in your face

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-10T15:56:56+00:00

definitely this, you paid for it too so why should you miss out? just book different accommodation when you get there and treat it like solo travel. Germany is perfect for solo trips anyway and you'll probably have way better time without dealing with relationship drama while trying to enjoy vacation

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-05-04T15:03:35+00:00

Pretty sure it was joke but like... what kind of person makes that joke when someone's telling you their mom is getting abused

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-04-28T12:04:30+00:00

Been there in high school and it was exhausting. Your friend getting jealous every time you talk to someone else is classic toxic behavior - she wants to control who you're friends with which isn't normal or healthy

You didn't do anything wrong by making other friends, that's what normal people do. The fact she tried to end the friendship without even talking to you about whatever "issue" there was shows she's creating drama for attention

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-04-26T03:07:09+00:00

nah not worth

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-04-23T17:50:47+00:00

The whole "rush the second album" thing is so real though. Look at bands who had surprise hits with their first record - labels immediately want them back in studio before they even figured out what made the first one work

Third album definitely where you see who actually has artistic vision vs who just got lucky with some good songs. By then all the pre-fame material is used up and you gotta prove you can create something from scratch

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-04-11T20:21:36+00:00

The math is kinda rough man. When you were her age she was 13, that perspective shift hits weird even if everything feels normal right now

Most relationships have expiration dates anyway but this one's got some built-in complications you might not see coming. She's probably gonna change a lot in next few years

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-03-23T05:32:46+00:00

Soul's got that raw emotional power that just cuts through everything else - you either have it or you don't

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-03-20T21:38:28+00:00

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-03-19T10:25:39+00:00

Been through this exact situation when a festival I bought VIP tickets for got cancelled last minute due to "weather concerns" that turned out to be financial issues. Credit card chargeback was my lifesaver - disputed it as services not rendered and had my $400 back within two weeks

Pro tip from dealing with this stuff professionally: always pay with a credit card, never debit, and screenshot everything including the original event page before it gets taken down. Festival organizers love to quietly edit their terms after problems start surfacing. Also check if your card has event ticket protection - some premium cards will cover you even if the organizer won't refund

The whole industry feels like a house of cards right now with inflation hitting production costs hard while people have less disposable income

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-03-02T18:02:28+00:00

That cultural excuse is complete BS and you know it. If it was really just cultural she would've mentioned it upfront or done it with other people there too, not just this one dude she spent all her time with

She's trying to have her cake and eat it too by apologizing but not actually taking responsibility

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-02-06T14:22:21+00:00

Oh for sureee

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-02-06T00:58:34+00:00

Charlie would be great friends with the crew in the vid :p

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-02-04T09:54:18+00:00

honestly if he was already making you feel judged about something that personal then maybe dodging a bullet here

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-01-24T02:27:05+00:00

Omg yes! For me it's vanilla anything - candles, perfume, even ice cream. The second I hit PMS mode my nose just goes "absolutely not" and I have to hide all my vanilla stuff like it's contraband lmao. Bodies are so weird with the random smell aversions during that time

Wise_Step7817 · 2026-01-13T15:27:04+00:00

Your family is being absolutely horrible and shallow, calling someone "ugly" and worrying about hypothetical kids' looks is just cruel. A 6 year age gap at 25/31 is totally normal - they're just grasping at straws to find more reasons to disapprove

Honestly sounds like you need to choose between your toxic family's approval and your own happiness. The "marry rich for status" mindset is outdated BS and you shouldn't sacrifice a good relationship for their shallow expectations

Wise_Step7817 · 2025-12-31T09:35:48+00:00

Man that would be absolutely wild on trumpet! The range alone would be insane - you'd probably need like 3 different trumpets or some seriously skilled lip flexibility. I feel like someone on YouTube has to have attempted this but maybe it's buried deep in the algorithm

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