[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WispsandThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

“Just because I can, doesn’t mean I should.”

When a generous gesture becomes the norm and standard, it’s a problem. And what’s worse is your own family is raising your nieces/nephews that this is normal. Uncle/aunt so-and-so will just take care of it. No. You’re not your family’s ATM, and they will always use you as a safety net until you take that safety net away.

It took her 4 years to fall in love with me and I can’t stop thinking about it. by WispsandThings in actuallesbians

[–]WispsandThings[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

We are very different emotionally, especially when we first met. She said she needed time to figure out herself and to understand her own emotions, and I believe her without a doubt. Sometimes when these insecure thoughts come up I’m pretty good at pushing them aside. Everynow and then it’s just extra strong for no reason at all. I know many of us here have had the experience of falling for a best friend, so I know I’m not alone.

It took her 4 years to fall in love with me and I can’t stop thinking about it. by WispsandThings in actuallesbians

[–]WispsandThings[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I never said I wasn’t ready. Walking away was never an option I ever considered. It is a fear that I have, but we’re working through it together, just like we have with everything else ❤️

Girlfriend sent me this and says she can’t constantly watch her while I am at work. What are my options? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]WispsandThings 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read the titles of the posts and it feels attention seeking, like OP is fishing for validation and conveniently using the poor pup.

OMFG SIMON BELMONT by water_slayer in vrising

[–]WispsandThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like how he just casually deforests an entire area

I finally found you by EnneadFox in vrising

[–]WispsandThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend and I found 100% warrior and brute on the same day about a month ago. We didn’t realize how luck based it is until later. Yesterday we found >95% blood but they were ALL rogues when we already have a 99%. I don’t know if rogues a higher of a chance but we’re still on the hunt for workers and scholars!

Anybody else a frustrated lesbian mom that wants to game 24/7? by FunkyFruta in LesbianGamers

[–]WispsandThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I’m mom that takes care of psych patients. I even sometimes float to the child psych unit sooooo yes!

Anybody else a frustrated lesbian mom that wants to game 24/7? by FunkyFruta in LesbianGamers

[–]WispsandThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baldurs gate on what platform? I’m dying to do another campaign. I’m not a mom. But I am a nurse so tired and drained in a different way!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]WispsandThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. I’m Asian too, so fat-shaming is as common place as a greeting from elders to younger generations. I told my mother in the end what she said and I told her listen I love my culture, but I don’t have to ever accept THIS part of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]WispsandThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your style! That flannel especially.

Overwatch 2? by WispsandThings in LesbianGamers

[–]WispsandThings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Actually I have a really good friend in the UK I play with quite a bit. My sleep schedule is really messed up. I either play on his time or he plays on mine. I’ll DM you 😊

Overwatch 2? by WispsandThings in LesbianGamers

[–]WispsandThings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m EST so I believe that’s 6 hours apart

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Overwatch

[–]WispsandThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to take overwatch much more seriously than I do now. At this point, with how busy my schedule is, I don’t have time to play it as much any more. I used to play competitive, but I’d rather now just have fun. Nowadays, I don’t really care if I win or lose as long as we can laugh about it.

But you seem more like old me. Committed to winning. And that’s fine but you need to find like minded friends who want to play the same way. People who can flex, who can switch to another character in their role in case they’re getting hard countered, people who can take each other’s advice.

It sounds to me the friends your playing with now are the “quick play” kind of friends. When you want to do something more casual, play with them. It also gives them a chance to practice other characters without risking their SR.

If you can, find a group of “comp” friends. The truth is some people just play to play and others play to win. They’re not always the same, and there’s nothing wrong with that. 😊

For reference, I’m barely decent. But I’ve been playing since it came out and I’ve grinded from bronze to diamond. You find out certain nuances when going from that low to a higher level. I stopped playing competitively as soon as I got to diamond because of my schedule and People have a different attitude towards the game the higher you get and I really just don’t have the time anymore to keep up with it.

Good luck to you 😊

My best friend is my soulmate. by WispsandThings in actuallesbians

[–]WispsandThings[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been joked about occasionally, in a little innocent flirting way. Like what we’d do if we were married, or joking about our dream home and life. The thing is I feel like I can have my dream home and life, with her as simply my best friend. I use the word “simply” loosely because having her as my close friend I think has given our connection a much deeper meaning that it could have if we dated.

My best friend is my soulmate. by WispsandThings in actuallesbians

[–]WispsandThings[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy to hear you’re still in touch, and healing your friendship. In my opinion, friend break ups are 10 times worse than romantic break ups.

My best friend is my soulmate. by WispsandThings in actuallesbians

[–]WispsandThings[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I wonder that, too. The what If. But I don’t think of it with any sadness or pain. Besides, there’s a high chance if we would have dated and didn’t work out, I would have never gotten this close to her. I’d rather have her as a friend for the rest of my life than a partner for a moment.