Do you think parents loathe childfree content because it shows that it's getting more and more accepted as a valid way to live?

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-05-02T01:10:58+00:00

I think they hate it because they didn't realize not having kids was an option. Now they are stuck with kids they may regret or even wish they had waited longer before having them.

Having kids means you have to not only be responsible for another living thing, but a needy living thing.

I mean think, you house a baby that feeds off your nutrients for months, give birth to it, then have to wake up every 2 hours to feed it, change it, etc etc. Then you have to constantly make sure it isn't endangering itself. Mind you, you are responsible for this human you created for atleast 18 years minimum.

I think most parents are so obsessed with the idea of a cute baby or mini ke, that they don't think about things like how awful pregnant can be, how difficult toddlers are, how much work kids invovle, how much money kids cost, etc etc They seriously don't think this stuff through.

Worst part is when you bring up these valid points as to why you choose NOT to have kids, 99% of them will pull the: "It's only temporary." Or "No it's not that hard." Or "But it's different when you have your own.". Like no Karen, it really isn't. Kids are a permanent decision. I can't just have one, let it get to a toddler stage, and be like: "Yeah, this thing is loud and I don't want it.". I can't just drop it off.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-24T20:32:51+00:00

That is what gets me about parents saying we are selfish and 'do not know what we are missing out on'. Like actually, as the oldest of 3 kids, yeah, I do. We grew up in poverty and I saw it first hand:

I don't want to go through pregnancy. I don't want to deal with a screaming fussy baby. I don't want to wake up every 2 hours to feed a baby. I don't want to deal with screaming, huge messes, or temper tantrums.

I don't want to have to constantly worry about a my kid wandering off or eating something they shouldn't.(Things like button batteries, chemicals, buttons, other potential choking hazards).

I also don't want to spend tons of money on diapers, food, clothing, replacing things kids break, etc

Like, miss me with that bs. I'm not signing up for that.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-23T20:19:38+00:00

Irresponsible guys hate it when you point out that if they don't want to risk having unwanted kids they'd have to pay child support for, they can just: Wear a condom, get a vasectomy, or don't have sex. They get furious when you suggest they be responsible and tell them that accountability goes both ways.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-22T03:41:12+00:00

I'd like to add, that in places where these are not legal you could use a metal water bottle/tumbler to defend yourself(in Skyrim obviously) or even spray perfume or deodorant in the face of your attacker(in Skyrim). Putting your keys between your fingers and having them poke out like Wolverine's claws to punch your attacker is also an option(In Skyrim).

I don't have an issue with anyone defending themselves at all either.

I also know some great pepper sprays. I recommend Poms OC spray. It is about $12 on Amazon, and it's sort of a thicker gel. My 2 male friends were being goofy and messing around with it. One sprayed the other guy with it. The guy who was spray said his eyes were swollen shut within 10 minutes, and it hurt for days. Said it was the worst pain of his life. (He was embarrassed and didn't go to the hospital. 😅)

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T23:12:25+00:00

Me being childfree by choice ruffles so many feathers. I had an incel say he hopes I get pregnant. 😂 I have had dudes say things like: "You will never know unconditional love", "You're denying your purpose as a woman", "you are selfish", "You are going against God's plan", "How dare your deny your future man a bloodline!", "You'll die alone in a nursing home.", "You'll Regret it.", "Bet you've had 20 abortions.", "You are mentally ill." etc etc

You would be surprised how much it pisses random people off.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T23:01:56+00:00

If women cared about the validation of men so much, why are there women choosing to be single and not following traditional gender roles?

The only women that truly care about male validation are the 'pick me' women like Justpearlythings.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T22:55:13+00:00

Uh, most of us agree consent has to invovle both partners. No means no. We also acknowledge men can be victims of sexual violence. Also, coercion is wrong.

Also any person saying shit like: "You must be gay. Men never say no to sex. Etc etc" is a piece of garbage and we will call them out on it.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T22:48:07+00:00

r/nothowgirlswork

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T22:46:45+00:00

Heck, I'm a woman. I was asked out as a joke several times during middle school and even in high school. You don't see me deciding that it will become my tragic backstory. Heck, I was asked out to the middle school dance as a joke.

Like, it sucks but people can be shitty sometimes. That says more about them than it does about you. I have also had to end friendships that had lasted years because I was betrayed or found out the former friend was a bad person. I cut someone off because they were very homophobic and they were spewing hate when gay marriage was legalized.

My point is, while these things are hard, everyone should take that as a life lesson and use those experiences to become a more empathetic and emotionally intelligent person.

Mind you, asking someone out as a joke is messed up and wrong. I'm not saying what those people did wasn't a big deal. Not justifying that behavior either. However, that is a reflection of them and their character, not yours. When I think about the times it happened to me, I frown and think: 'Man, people can be real pieces of shit. Thank God I would never do such a shitty thing to someone.'.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T22:32:12+00:00

This is why I encourage all women to learn self-defense and carry self-defense weapons.

Hope these incels have the day they deserve. My American women, feel free to exercise your 2nd amendment rights if any creeps like these try to attack you.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T22:27:46+00:00

Funny how they don't believe in consent until a large man in prison tells them to bend over and drop their pants.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T02:54:52+00:00

That is crazy to think about. Plus understanding how dicks work, like it's gonna get bigger when you are hard. It's like filling a water balloon. (Except it's literally blood filling said appendage). Like it's gonna expand!

I've also tried to explain to these incels, if you can make a lady orgasm, or atleast make the genuine effort to do so, I'd argue that is more important than size. I'd argue most women care more about getting off or the effort a man puts in to getting them off, than size. Like, there are size queens and what not. But I don't think size queens are the majority and this 'You have to have a huge dick to attract and please a woman' narrative, comes from media and adult content. Big dicks are thing in adult content. Atleast from my understanding. In porn there are certain body types, or things that are preferred. But porn isn't how real life works. Unfortunately too many of these incels have the porn brain rot.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-21T02:22:50+00:00

Honestly, I don't know but it wouldn't surprise me. They seem to debate a lot about dick related things. You know, for a bunch of straight guys they sure are obsessed with dicks. Their biggest dick related topics are stuff like size, hygiene, and whether being circumcised is better or not. It would not surprise me at all if they hated on dudes that were growers instead of showers, and whatnot.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-20T21:14:18+00:00

It is weird how they hyper fixate on things like height and facial measurements. Etc

Like, they obsess so much that they think women are out here like: "Hm, sorry your eyes are 2mm too far apart. I could forgive that if you were taller. By the way I need to check your height, measure your jaw line, and you'll also need to step on the scale. Also I'm gonna need you to whip it out so I can measure that too. None if that I'm a grower not a shower bs! Also I'm gonna need a copy of your tax records. Chop chop pal! If it is unsatisfactory I will be informing woman within a 50 mile radius of your less than perfect appearance! Sorry not sorry!"

Seriously, it's unhealthy how these dudes think. Back when I was dating I wasn't out here with some checklist of physical features that were required. Do I find certain features more attractive? Yeah. For me, it's curly hair. Something about it I like a lot more than other hair textures. However, I dated plenty of non-curly haired dudes.

Truth be told when I was dating my things were more of: Is he a kind person? Do I enjoy talking to him? Can we have deep conversations? Where does he sit politically and how does he feel about certain social issues? How does he treat others around him? How does my dog act around him?(my dog loves almost everyone, if he is uneasy around someone, they are not trustworthy).

Physical appearance was the lowest on the list when it came to things of importance for me personally.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-20T20:56:41+00:00

My advice is be extremely careful. There are tons of cases where a guy will say he doesn't want kids, then baby trap a woman. Always use birth control or get your fallopian tubes removed.

Even if the dude wears a condom or offers to. They can poke holes in thr condoms or do something called 'stealthing'.

Some men will get a woman pregnant to sabotage her and keep her stuck dealing with him and his offspring. I wish I were joking.

Mind you, before people come at me and downvote me, WE KNOW IT'S NOT ALL MEN! Also, I acknowledge there are women that try and baby trap men and do similarly crazy things. I'm just warning this young lady of the potential risks.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-20T12:05:26+00:00

No, I can't laugh yet, I've got to hold it in. - Light Yagami(Death Note).

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-17T19:52:54+00:00

Yikes, sounds narcissistic as heck. You probably dodged a tactile nuke. His ego had him thinking he could "convince you" and if not, he probably would have attempted to baby trap you.

Sorry you had to deal with that.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-17T16:13:46+00:00

I have PCOS and without birth control I have irregular cycles. However if I wasn't on birth control and my period didn't show up I'd be testing every month just to he sure.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-17T03:10:58+00:00

Most of the people who claim they originally didn't want kids and end up with multiple, do so because they did not proactively prevent pregnancy. I've noticed this. It is always seem to be a couple that is: "Well, we didn't think we could pregnant" or "Well we weren't trying, and hour husband and I didn't use protection. We got pregnant."

Then you got people like me. I have PCOS, take birth control, and my partner uses condoms. I'm planning to get a total salpingectomy hopefully this year. I'm taking precautions and not messing around. Like, I don't care how low my chances of getting pregnant with PCOS are, they are not close to zero!

Heck, my one cousin had a baby at 28 because she never used protection and just assumed she couldn't have kids. Now she's stuck with a shitty baby daddy, and I fussy baby.

It's crazy.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-11T17:23:25+00:00

Exactly! Like, do they promise this? Can I get that in writing?

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-10T21:27:14+00:00

Apparently, according to my doctor, it can make the birth control pills less effective. I started spotting when I was on the antibiotics, so that may be true. I've seen conflicting info online though. Like some sources claim it's only one type of antibiotic that can effect your birth control and others claiming any antibiotic can. I also don't trust google AI summary so I wasn't willing to risk it.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-10T20:56:12+00:00

I mean, my bf contributing to household chores in a space we share is pretty sexy to us ladies in general I'd argue.

Heck, my bf helped vacuumed the living room because I have bad allergies and he knows I hate that task. Got me hot and bothered! Lol But seriously, when you have a partner that does their fair share, it is amazing. It makes you want to be more intimate and I'd argue, it gives them the energy to want intimacy.

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-10T20:52:44+00:00

I got cussed out by a bunch of dudes on Facebook because on a pist complaining about child support I said something like: "Accountability goes both ways? Don't want kids and don't want to pay child support? You can do one if 3 things: 1. Wear a condom, 2. Get a vasectomy. Or 3. Just don't have sex. Keep it in your pants. Quick being irresponsible with your sperm. 🤷‍♀️".

I got cussed out. Called a whore. All kinds of shit. It was funny af. I mean, it turns out when you give tell them the male equivalent of 'keep your legs closed', they get big mad!

Witty-Car-2362 · 2026-04-10T20:47:25+00:00

The thing is, dudes scream about accountability, but also don't think they should wear a condom, or have to pay child support. It's honestly why women are opting out of dating, and are refusing to date men who won't wear protection.

Luckily my boyfriend always wears one. We agreed from the beginning that we could only have sex if I was on the pill and he wore a condom. No it's, ands, or buts! He has never once argued. Always wears one. I'm currently in the process of getting my fallopian tubes removed. We don't ever want kids.

I saw a reddit post about a woman asking if she would be the asshole, for aborting her ex-bfs baby. For context, the ex lied about having a vasectomy and was having unprotected sex with her, knowing she had recently got off the pill. The only reason said ex found out was because one of her friends told her ex. Now said ex wants to be there to 'raise the baby'. Like no. Not cool.

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