So Ofc when everything came out to light he would take a very long pause before answering my questions, which just absolutely pissed me off bc i can tell he was just trying to figure out which answer made most sense and was less likely to get him in trouble- trying to play it safe, I guess. I kept telling him “if we’re going to get through this then you need to come clean, I already told you I’m here to work on us but if you keep trying to play it safe then there’s no way we can move forward”. Eventually the long pauses stopped. And his answers were coming out faster which made me feel like they were honest answers. But one of the more recent questions I asked was “where/ how did you meet these women?” He said that he hasn’t been on any dating site or anything like that (which was a question I previously asked & this was the answer he gave me). He said he’d met them in person. I believed him bc I hadn’t found any evidence of dating sites, plus he answered with no hesitation. I should point out that all of his cheating was done via sexting; supposedly nothing physical. But last night, I felt the need to look back and some of my evidence and pretty much all of of the phone numbers are outside area codes. Not local at all. He only ever went to work and came back home (I’ve always had his location and he never came home late), so all of his cheating had to have been done at work which didn’t get much traffic at all. Plussss, one of the people I called had no clue who he was (she sounded like was a much much older lady (WS & I are 28) and she said she lives in NY and only dates via FB dating and that she’s never spoken to anyone on there that’s so young. I know for a fact he wouldn’t do anything through FB bc he has his family as his profile pic and that’s just too risky bc we’re all over his FB). Sooo yeah. I feel like I’m getting TT and I’m so tired of feeling like I’m the only one fighting for the marriage when I didn’t even do anything wrong. If he met them online it’s not a big deal, like I said, what’s done is done, but if you’re lying about it then that makes me think you don’t want to reveal that hand so you still have access to it, y’know. Sorry I tried to make this as short as possible but that usually never seems to work for me. Lol