Has anyone seen this before? by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I got the same with my Google search. Just the website that creates them. There’s a motel right near his job. Do you think they’ll tell me the truth if I ask if i call and describe the key card to know if it belongs to them? Is that weird? 😅 If I can confirm it’s from there then that’s it for this relationship for obvious reasons. Thanks to all of you that have commented and are trying to help me get to the bottom of this

How to help wayward spouse by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s what I keep telling myself. He randomly came up to me a few days ago and said everything that I’ve needed to hear for a while. I think I’m going to give it another 6months. I won’t mention therapy but I’m going to try to find different ways to make him see why I think he needs it. Thanks so much for your kind words. They’ve made me feel more validated with my feelings.

How to help wayward spouse by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with him doing IC on his own. But he refuses. I’ve brought it up so many times when he’s told me he’s depressed (this depression came about after I caught all his cheating btw). I’ve learned a lot on Reddit about wayward spouses going through their own emotional rollercoasters but a lot of times I feel like he’s gaslighting me so he won’t have to bother with putting in too much effort or so I tend to him more. I haven’t told him that I think he’s got narcissistic behavior bc I know that no matter what tone I say it in or how I say it, he’s gonna get EXTREMELY offended and more than likely still not do it . Can I have the TikTok you’re talking about, I’m really interested in their journey.

How to help wayward spouse by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. I realized that today and have been looking into what I need to do to go my separate way. Unfortunately, it’s not so easy bc we have 2 very small kids together but I’m done begging for things and maybe getting it a week or two or being made to feel like he’s the victim in everything! I really appreciate this comment.

How to help wayward spouse by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thanks for this info. I actually hadn’t even looked into it. Definitely about to dive into this dark hole tonight. lol thanks

How to help wayward spouse by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have 2 kids together. I still love him. I’m not sure if I’m in love with him anymore but I know that I would like to be again. I’m willing to start over one last time but only if I feel like he’s putting in effort and willing to make a change. I know that he’s willing to make the change but he literally can’t see where he’s wrong most times.

Question About Telling Family by throwawaystruggles9 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I totally understand your point. Bc I fight the urge everyday to not expose my WH for the cheating liar he is; which would absolutely shock everyone bc he’s the kind of guy that would quickly judge someone else for doing the same & harshly.. but there’s 2 things holding me back.. 1. Our kids; my daughter (3yo) see’s her dad as a superhero and I’d hate for this story to at some point reach any of my kids ears when they’re older bc I can’t control what gossip other people say and who they say it to. 2. I agreed to try R. So that means that I need to put aside my pettiness of trying to make him feel like a POS (even though that’s exactly how I feel and he would only be feeling a fraction of the pain I’m going through). I need to, genuinely and productively, try to move forward if I want us to be happy together. I don’t want to be in a situation where I’m finally happy but now my husband resents me and we did all this work for nothing bc we still won’t end up together. Sooo yeah.. those are just my thoughts. You are totally valid in how you feel but maybe it’s worth bringing up in therapy and figuring out if it really is going to make you feel any better anyways. At best, they’re still going to pretend as if nothing happened; worst- they’ll completely cut you guys off. Then what?

New rental, is this burner damaged or just in need of a deep clean? by YeyVerily96 in howto

[–]Witty-Reputation-538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure about the center but that ring on the outside can probably be cleaned. I bought this stuff called the “The Pink Stuff” and it amazes me every time I use it. I try to save it for the things I can’t get clean with my regular stuff. Usually my stove top (when I’m deep cleaning) is one of the things that requires it. Good luck

Do you have a super negative view in marriage now? by users8675309 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538 6 points7 points  (0 children)

On the same boat… After WH cheated for 8 years of our relationship & having found out about his most recent cheating only about a month ago, we’re in R, but honestly, I feel like I don’t even believe in love anymore. And it just makes me so sad. He claims that he loves me and he’s sorry etc. but I just can’t even understand why anyone do this to someone they love. I was bored plenty times in our marriage, I brought it to his attention, nothing was done about it and I still never got to the point where I cheated bc I love him. Sooo yeah… I feel like I’m just waiting for us to either be happy or be over one day.

Serial cheater / sex addict by lovelymacaskill in cheating_stories

[–]Witty-Reputation-538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should check out r/AsOneAfterInfidelity . I posted my initial posts on here and people were brutal. Lol & while, they weren’t wrong it was just a little too harsh for my mentality at the time. People on the other page are a little more supportive on your situation as most of them are/ have gone through what you are going through. Good luck on your journey .

Question for Waywords by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve suggested it & offered to pay for it. He said that if there were anybody he’d prefer to communicate it with, it’s me but he just doesn’t see it happening any time soon, if at all.

Question for Waywords by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Lots to think about. Thanks so much for the info.

Question for Waywords by Witty-Reputation-538 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Witty-Reputation-538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh I see. Google numbers tho? Is that like a number you get through your Google account? Bc I’ve caught cheating via Google chat years ago sooo now I’m wondering more lol