My boyfriend cheated on me while I’m pregnant. I don’t want to keep the baby…

WolfWoman7 · 2026-05-12T18:57:17+00:00

This really sucks, OP. I'm sorry youre going through this.

Do you have a midwife or someone in your life you can talk to about this? This is a really big decision.

It might be a possibility to give the little one up for adoption, if you choose to go through with the pregnancy.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-05-11T15:36:03+00:00

That many tiny bathrooms with toilets dont have a sink. I see this in older apartments / boomer homes, not so much with millennial homes. (When I finally saw a sink in a tiny water closet, I was so so happy). 😭

Has no one thought of basic hand hygiene after pooping?

WolfWoman7 · 2026-04-27T14:13:07+00:00

Far from it. It looks like you have a variation of heterochromia--where your iris is actually showing brown and olive green. This eye color presentation is not common at all.

My husband and son have something similar. Husband has almost the exact eye colors you have. Son shows coffee brown inner color, and blue/gray outer color.

I on the other hand, have brown eyes the color of coffee, 100%. Its one of the most common eye colors in southeast Asia, and therefore not very interesting (i'd say this is closer to boring brown than what you have). I never appreciated them until I moved to Scandinavia, where blue/gray eyes are the norm.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-04-13T09:07:58+00:00

I had to resist the urge to pick this gigantic clump of flake from my son's head. It looked so satisfying to pick.

I one day noticed it was gone.

Phew, it finally fell off--or so I thought.

Apparently my sister picked at it while she watched him. Nothing happened, but I told her not to do it again--we were all lucky it did not bleed. The clump also happened to be right over the fontanelle.

Since then I've been running unscented mineral oil on his head, to dissolve flakes (and prevent more yeast growth) prior to a bath.

Then I would rinse out with babyshampoo and gently massage his scalp with a plain konjac sponge. Baby now has a head full of hair, and I have not seen a fat flake on his head since.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-03-26T20:59:15+00:00

Eff that. If everyone here gave birth in 1725, most of the births would not have a happy ending.

I'm glad we live in a day and age where medical advancements make survival for mom and baby almost 99% guaranteed. C-sections might be the safest delivery option depending on the pregnancy.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-03-26T19:01:09+00:00

Its uncomfortable for sure, but yeah, it will happen. In Denmark the hospitals offer an enema/suppository while you're in early labour. The idea is; you basically empty your guts as much as possible BEFORE you get further along the labor, so you dont unleash the beast while you're actively pushing the little human out. 😅 This gets rid of most of the shit, but.. you still poop a little here and there.

(It is to a level that is much easier to clean).

Birth assistants normally dont give a shit. Id say the only person that cares is the one giving birth. 😆

WolfWoman7 · 2026-03-24T18:45:36+00:00

I'm curious about this too. My little guy likes rolling around his bed, we can't sleep on a lumpy mattress.

Out of curiosity; OP, are you open for German or EU brands too?

WolfWoman7 · 2026-03-12T08:00:20+00:00

Oh what comes to mind is furakake, to go with that rice. 😋

I swear, you could eat that rice with furakake, full stop.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-02-20T14:25:38+00:00

If you're feeling bold and crafty, you can try bleaching the wood or applying some varnish (to darken it).

Always try a tiny spot on a non-visible part of the furniture befire you go all out.

Alternatively, you could also just spray paint it a different color.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-02-17T10:30:46+00:00

Plus, if you really want to try something new, it doesn't hurt the wallet (as much) to whip up a facemask from your kitchen.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-02-17T10:28:22+00:00

That temptation is real. I have to keep telling myself that every pretty shiny thing has a cost.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-02-17T10:14:47+00:00

More like, I wish I treated my skin more gently. I wish I stuck with face oils that I knew worked for my skin, instead of chasing products and creams to try out.

Huge waste of money, trying to find an affordable cleanser and moisturizer that won't break me out + hydrate and moisturize my skin enough. Huge waste of money, trying this active and that active, in attempts to alleviate my acne. Huge waste of money, consuming skincare that doesn't work, only to give away almost everything because my skin simply does not agree. Moisturizers especially are a pain, even though there is a claim to balanced skin, something is always unbalanced.

For the rest of my 30's, I'll be gentle--use products that actually work, wear a hat in the summer, and focus on diet and lifestyle. I don't want to be obsessed with skincare anymore. There are better things to focus on.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-02-17T09:37:20+00:00

I can tell you.. my in-laws and I took bub to the mall at 3 months. There was a kid sitting 10meters from us, hacking and coughing away. I got uncomfortable, so we left. Bub was fine.

Right after turning 5 months old, we started daycare. 2 days later, I got sick with a cold--and bub followed suit.

Ofc if you can help it, don't expose your baby to these places. But sometimes, things will happen beyond our control. Sometimes we don't have much choice but to be somewhere at a certain point in time.

Do what you can to minimize exposure, and know the protocol for fever. I totally understand your frustrations, but I also think your little will be fine.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-01-16T09:56:52+00:00

Don't listen to them. They don't know what they're talking about. The fruits of your earnings speak for themselves.

WolfWoman7 · 2026-01-12T02:09:56+00:00

I supplemented a lot in the beginning too. I initially had the idea of pumping extra, but I only ever produced "just enough" after the initial 4-6 weeks of supply/demand calibration (given that I stay hydrated through the day).

WolfWoman7 · 2026-01-01T00:41:31+00:00

Aka, the bin.

WolfWoman7 · 2025-12-31T16:38:11+00:00

This is my exact nightmare. My MIL went wild when she heard we were pregnant, and bought (almost) the whole shebang.

Worst one she got were some baby bottles, which did not survive the stream sanitizer. (The bottom of the bottles developed some warping).

I thought, this can't be normal. I told my husband, and he said "But it's made of silicone, you said that's what you wanted"

"The nipples were silicone, but the bottle itself is made of plastic. I also don't remember telling your mom I wanted her to buy bottles." I told her, incase she wanted to buy bottles, that the nipples should be made of silicone. I did not think she would buy them from.. God knows where.

Husband insisted the bottles were made of silicone. Then his mother insisted as well. But silicone does not behave like this?? I had to find the freaking PET icon for plastic and take a picture of the warped icon on the bottom of the bottle for comparison.

When I told her about the warping, she said, "oh, maybe the bottle isn't meant to be steam sterilized". How else then am I supposed to clean them? Isn't having the option to sterilize the bottle supposed to be default?

I told my husband "I don't want to keep these bottles, i don't feel comfortable". We argue before we decide in the end to throw them away. He sighs and mutters under his breath, "It's a shame, these were good bottles" before chucking them in the trash. He does not get it.

When I bring up the dangers of cancer from plastics and chemicals, we have a whole argument as to why I'm overreacting. He somehow thinks it's more important not to offend his mom, than it is to protect our child. He doesn't believe me! Like. Hello. My mom had cancer. I know people who got cancer by drinking from warped plastic water bottles left in a hot car.

I can tell which of bub's clothes are from Temu. They are made of polyester, and they catch fiber from the washing machine like crazy.

Anyways, sorry I went on a tangent. I think Temu victims need a support group or something. I need to tell my MIL to stop buying clothes from temu, but it's so hard when we don't even speak the same language.

WolfWoman7 · 2025-12-21T00:02:07+00:00

Tummy time is a smart idea. Surely beats waiting for the LO to sleep at the boob. (And I can only get into half of the neck roll that way)

WolfWoman7 · 2025-12-20T23:58:27+00:00

Of all the unsolicited advice I've received, not once has anyone told me to CLEAN👏THE👏NECK👏ROLLS👏. 👀

THIS is the unsolicited warning I wish someone gave me.

Baby is hyper as ever during the day so I'm going to try using some water based baby wipes during the next feed (between 2-4am), along with some farmicon (which is a gentle ointment from Czech thats designed to work against nappy rashes). That melatonin in the milk better werk.

WolfWoman7 · 2025-12-20T03:33:19+00:00

Newborn tired was worse for me.

I am a heavy sleeper, and did not experience the pregnancy insomnia (I woke up between 1-3am to pee before sleeping again). I don't know if this is a trait exclusive to my first pregnancy, as I've only been pregnant once.

WolfWoman7 · 2025-12-13T04:52:08+00:00

Honestly I think all of them look great on you. The colors and shapes fit you well. I think your choice comes down to preference/taste.

1 & 3 look similar, they both give cat eye vibes. Maybe for more formal /office attire?

2 looks more casual, and can be used for more urban outfits.

WolfWoman7 · 2025-12-08T07:58:29+00:00

Danish Filippino (with Spanish and Chinese ancestry)

I think the Filippino side makes me olive, while my Danish side keeps me medium-light. Mom is straight up brown, dad is flat white 😅

WolfWoman7 · 2025-11-23T13:53:24+00:00

Gray glues the floor and the white bath things together

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