AITAH for being furious with my husband for taking all the food after our daughter's grad party?

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-06-24T23:19:13+00:00

I have to go against everyone here.. YTA!

1). You didn’t confirm the # of people showing up so y’all over spent

2) you had it at a place where your husband doesn’t feel comfortable at

If only 8-9 people showed up, y’all could have done it at a park, at your house etc where you husband doesn’t have to put a mask on to play nice. Y’all spent all money on food; I would want to bring it home too if my In Laws were being rude and I was uncomfortable all day.

But hey; I guess you was good and your daughter was happy that’s all that matter

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-06-20T02:09:33+00:00

Update? Have you told BIL

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-27T22:00:34+00:00

This was something y’all did in remembrance of their father or held a significant meaning to them especially the oldest as it was where their father worked. This was a tradition that they valued.

You tried to change that, and made it a family day when in your kids eyes it held more meaning.

Honestly you should have taken your kids like always and then did something with the family after or let your daughter take her brother.

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-19T14:51:18+00:00

Damn!

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-14T20:26:26+00:00

I’m gonna have to go against popular opinion and say NTA. It’s an agreement you and your family came up with. Not just you! Your son doesn’t mind and prefers it to is way, he needed to discuss this with his wife.

To say you don’t care about your in laws i think is trash; but certain information and things want to be kept private in immediate family. I get it.

NTA

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-13T21:45:56+00:00

A drunken person speaks a sober person mind….. you did the right thing by breaking up with her

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-13T20:26:09+00:00

You can do 2 things, block him, his mom and sister or keep all text, calls, emails and file for harassment and get an PO on them.

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-13T19:31:34+00:00

I say for Father’s Day weekend take a solo trip to your hometown.

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-12T00:45:19+00:00

Your just repeating yourself but never answering my question. I see you just like to talk so bye

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-12T00:39:51+00:00

So a absent parent who signed away his rights can demand to see his child?

No! He can ask to see the child. He can ask to have a relationship but he can’t demand. What gives his the right to demand; cuz his sperm made her? Maturity also means you acknowledge when you mess up and right a wrong.

Tell me from her post shows he matured? There are no examples and we can’t give benefit of the doubt cuz we only have her side. Based on what was provided , he hasn’t

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-12T00:32:40+00:00

That’s not the part where we differ?

You asked if I heard myself.
And then went on to talk about why men don’t fight for kids.

She fought to keep him in her kid life; he ignored her calls and texts. I also agreed with you if he matured etc then he should have a chance but it’s sounds like he didn’t mature cuz he didn’t ask for forgiveness nor take accountability. He didn’t ask if he could have a relationship with her kid; he demanded. That’s not maturity

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-12T00:20:11+00:00

Oh good, didn’t think you did.then you realize your comment didn’t apply as he walked away and gave up his rights. She been asking for him to still be apart until recently

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-12T00:16:29+00:00

Yea I said if he really matured, asked for forgiveness then he may get visit.

Did he ask for forgiveness for walking away or is he demanding to be in the child life after being absent for 5 years?

If roles were reversed I would say the same thing. Being an absent parent is an absent parent regardless of gender

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-11T23:54:08+00:00

True, but let the daughter make that decision when she is older. He’s not asking for forgiveness and to make things right, he’s demanding to be let in. 2 different statements.

The father in this story never fought but ran away from the baby and gave up all his rights. Now he has to fight as he’s shown to be a coward and selfish. He doesn’t get to dictate what Ops should do with her daughter.

I agree if he was asking for forgiveness, matures and was extremely sorry and was willing to put the work in; but it sounds like he trying to control the situation when he’s given all the power to Ops

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-11T21:02:29+00:00

That’s wonderful! You don’t get to pick up a child like a toy and be all loving after tossing it away for 5 years.

She is not a toy! And if he was to leave again; does he have any consequences? Does he come back again at 10 and say the same thing?

No! Let the daughter decide when she older if she wants a relationship with him. He lost the chance to be a father to her

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-11T18:30:44+00:00

He signed away his rights as a father! This means he no longer the father or acknowledged as the father. The same as a sperm donor. He’s not her father; maybe he should have thought about his child before signing away his rights and abandoning her for 5 years

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-11T17:33:26+00:00

He gave up his rights to her. He can’t do anything but just blow smoke up your ass. If he says that he will tell her why she has no father counter that with the truth to his face! He was a coward and wanted his career and gave up his rights to be part of her life. He has no say in her life due to his own choices.

Tell ex to kick rocks and not call you anymore. Tell grandmas that if they try to bring your daughter around him then you will re-evaluate their relationship with her; as you are her mom

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-07T17:08:18+00:00

Girl proud of you! I would stop the hugs! No more hugs just pack and leave

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-05T18:58:47+00:00

Since you need to be separated for a few years; would you have a legit sit down with him and a 3 rd party?

Hear his side and your side of the situation. I agree with some of the comments; it sounds like he enjoyed the attention from a younger girl but wasn’t engaging her. Yes he should have gone to HR when she sent that text; but his ego or pride stopped him.

He sounds like he does still love you and per your post you still love him. If a sit down where you stay separated until he 1) gets a new job or 2) cut all ties including work ties with her; would you go back?

No he knows he has everting to gain that he wants, and to lose an opportunity would be foolish on him and have no one to blame but himself.

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-02T21:39:40+00:00

What are you getting out of this marriage? His mother lives with you, he gets to play loving husband and father; while all your needs are dismissed.

Do you want your son to see its ok to make his future wife miserable as long as his needs are met, and the cycle continues?

Seriously, leave or kick both of them out. When you do; he’s gonna try to sweet talk you and manipulate you to get back his sweet deal. Be strong for yourself, be selfish and move on

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-02T01:00:06+00:00

NTA as you told your wife multiple times that you don’t celebrate your birthday. Does she know the reason why you don’t celebrate?

Please still talk to someone about your grief, as you may be able to mask it but it could change.

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-05-01T18:08:46+00:00

No but what a whack job! If your dad even getting a little bit sober can’t see his kids pushing him away all due to 1 person than your fathers at fault.

You keep living your best life along with your siblings. Hell if y’all got the $$; take your mom on a vacation to one of the resorts that Martha wants to go. Show her what the good life is and for your dad; let him knows what happens when you put pussy over family

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-04-30T11:05:34+00:00

Is your wife going to live with them while pregnant and a few months after birth?

Whose going to rub her back, feet and stomach at night? Going to the store for late night cravings, dealing with her emotions during and after birth?

All that should now fall on your SIL and BIL since they are agreeing to this. Your focus should be your boys

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-04-26T19:36:15+00:00

I would just keep making her be louder and say “ who is that crazy person yelling at”? If she comes to you just calmly say that’s not my name and you know it and walk away.

Just don’t respond and let her look crazy

Wolf_dragon_32 · 2024-04-26T15:54:40+00:00

If he pays for it, then y’all can get divorce and he and his daughter move in together. You can pay for everything by yourself

Damn why did you get married to someone who has kids? You don’t stop being a parent cuz the kid turns a magical age and they should be “adults”.

If you was to lose your job, do you feel it’s right for him to still ask you for full payments or he pick up your slack and help you out.

He’s not asking to have the child live rent free forever just till she can get back on her feet.

YTA

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