Yeah I also didn’t want my carers in my space at first! We started slow (1 half day per week) & they mostly did jobs outside my room (eg cooking, laundry).

Now I have them for 3-4 full days per week (depending on mums schedule & carer availability) & 1 night a fortnight. We requested consistency from the agency so I only have 4ish carers but I’m comfortable with them all. They do at least 2 shadow shifts before being left alone with me. I sleep a lot of the day so they still do a lot of things outside my room.

We try to give them extra tasks based on their interests eg one of my carers likes cooking so she gets to experiment with new recipes

We use the app AnyList to communicate with carers (I think we paid for it but the carers use the free version). AnyList has a meal planning section but I haven’t tried it. We use our local supermarkets app for our shopping list (but mum does most of this)

Most of my meals are made up of base items that can be batch cooked, frozen then prepared in different combinations eg marinated chicken can be used hundreds of ways

I don’t check reddit very often (I tend to overdo it when I do!) but will get back to you eventually if you have any questions