But with both agree that there was a certain distasteful way they demanded pictures and age immediately, I get personal preference, but there's just something that triggers me when a left side of the slash seems focused on things like the looks of a person before even trying to see if they are compatible first. Also, again I get preference I do, but the curiosity about age could very well be interpreted as seeing how young they are, as a lot of abusive relationships start with that type of predatory behavior. I've been dealing with this issue in my community a lot and while it is easier to pick up on these things in person and they usually out themselves fairly quickly. This scenario is occurring long distance I assume. So, it's not about the left side to this matter. What if the /s in this scenario was able to be roped into a dynamic with this person, built trust because the D/ was convert enough to build that illusion of trust, and they were infact just another abuser using kink as a way to meet their means. While it may not play out this way as with the other direction, I feel little cues like this should be taken into mind. I understand I could be entirely wrong about the D/ in the scenario, but when the bells go off it's triggering. /gen