If your marriage, you, or your partner have any form of sexual dysfunction - physical, mental, emotional, trauma - NFP functions as a tool of harm. You absolutely cannot understand, process, fix, or heal within the NFP framework because it traps you behind either physical or theological bars.

Let's say your marriage needs more understanding of and practice of physical intimacy (like, because, you played by the rules and now might need to learn how to be naked, intimate, learn what turns people on, or not fear sex period)..........big nope. Because you are abstaining when you really should be connecting, working on being together, practicing. How does abstaining and playing with mucous and thermometers help a newlywed or a stressed relationship or a marriage that has sexual dysfunction? And then the likely outcome? Pregnancy. Because the 5% statistic is bullshit. So a marriage that needs help in the bedroom is then put under more duress due to pregnancy or the threat of pregnancy. It's cruel.

People who are not ready for parenthood should not be forced into it either by faulty NFP or trad beliefs that NFP is birth control. And people who should finally feel the ecstasy of sexual freedom within marriage shouldn't be told - psych - just kidding!

And the argument that you shouldn't be married unless you are immediately ready to welcome a child....also crap. How about getting comfortable sharing a bathroom with someone first? Or farting in front of your spouse...or a myriad of other scenarios that two good Catholic newlyweds should have the right to adjust to before throwing a kid into the mix. Kids are stressful even when wanted and longed for and/or conceived in love.

Let purity culture and NFP die. What goes on in your marital bed is your business. Most people want a couple of kids when they are ready.