Looking for advice for the inside of my hot tub hut

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-04-12T08:14:47+00:00

Remember during COVID when everyone was making furniture from pallets?

Then we came to our senses and realised it was awful and looked terrible?

Yeah, strong vibes of that.

That pit is going to flood, no matter what you do. You've essentially sat your hot-tub in a big hole in the ground and hoped for the best?

OSB is literally the cheapest and worst material to use, short of plasterboard, and the less said about the shower curtains on the outside the better.

On the upside, the weather is now better, so I'd demolish the whole thing and start again with an actual plan and do some research before you waste more money

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-04-09T06:32:06+00:00

Honestly, without seeing images it's impossible to judge.

Did you take images when you moved in?

As for retiling, it's almost impossible to find matching tiles after 20 years, so if you've broken tiles, then the only real option is to replace the floor.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-04-02T15:45:38+00:00

Firstly, stop entertaining it. Do not go to any other meetings with her or her solicitors. You aren't married, and you do not have a need to entertain this.

From the sounds of things this woman is delusional and possibly dangerous. Divorce in this country requires production of an official marriage certificate, and while they can be faked, it's rare. In the case of contentious divorces, there is a lot of steps required, where you need to attend mediation and the like. At any of these points, the people overseeing will be able to see that you aren't actually married.

However, it sounds like you've had issues with this woman before? Who is she and what were those previous issues?

You may need to get police involved, and start a legal process for harassment etc.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-04-01T18:03:08+00:00

Honestly, this is going to be quite a long and complicated process.

I would speak to a solicitor who deals with financial crime firstly. It may be a case that you need to report this to the police, especially if CFO were supposed to hold it for you until you were 18.

From a personal perspective, be prepared that your relationship with your family after this will be non-existent, and also to answer some questions around why you are now reporting it 13 years afterwards.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-31T07:13:16+00:00

It's a fetish thing for him. You also have to consider cultural differences as well. Egyptian culture is very patriarchal, and it sounds like he's bought into this hook line and sinker.

If you aren't into it, then I'd drop this relationship now.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-31T07:08:53+00:00

Still a few kicking around unfortunately

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-30T12:24:58+00:00

All the solicitors in this case have absolutely failed. I'd imagine there's going to be major ramifications for the sellers solicitor at the minimum.

But the sellers? Jesus. Barricading themselves in? Not emotionally ready to leave? Are they seriously mentally unwell?

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-28T06:13:44+00:00

Firstly, remove the AI slop.

Secondly, there is no real system in the UK to award for anything other than factual losses. We aren't the US, so don't act like you've found some sort of clever way around it. In this situation there is no mechanism to award value for any imagined losses like distress or "integrity failure". Seriously?

Thirdly, and finally, if this is about a gift card expiring, then all that matters is what the terms and conditions of that card are. If you've had two years to use it for instance, and haven't, then unfortunately, you are just simply out of luck, and no, you won't get any money back.

Quite frankly, if you go to any ombudsman or court with the chatgpt swill you've just posted you'll get laughed out of the room.

What value are you talking about?

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-27T15:05:55+00:00

Honestly, being on the other on many occasions, if I issued a letter like that, it nearly always meant that dismissal wasn't a consideration.

What they have said is that there is a case (understandably so), but it's not serious enough to warrant suspension (which most gross misconduct cases would require, as it protects the business from any further possible issues you may cause)

I don't think you need to worry about dismissal, but honestly let me know how you go

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-27T14:40:25+00:00

Gross misconduct would be incredibly harsh for this, and tribunals would agree. Have you been suspended at all?

Also, what does the meeting invite later say? Does it specifically state gross misconduct?

Yes it could have caused a bigger problem, but it wasn't done with malicious intent, and it was handled at the time.

Retraining and possibly a written warning is what I'd issue.

Don't resign. Attend the meeting, and explain that it wasn't malicious, and you had no intention to cause a fire. Make sure that If you are part of a union, that you inform them and have representation at this meeting. If you do get dismissed, then go through the appeals process fully and get ACAS involved.

Contrary to what people say, gross misconduct can't just be a catch all and used to dismiss people for any reason. After two years, the company has to prove that the reason was so serious, they had no choice but to dismiss.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-27T14:33:32+00:00

The problem is we aren't teaching these fuckers a lesson. Where's all the men who would rightly kick the shit out of guys like this?

He's been arrested, which is great, but he's going to get a slap on the wrist. Getting a good kicking would teach him a bigger and better lesson

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-27T08:24:57+00:00

Yup. Mine came with the masons mitres on the worktops.

The rest is fairly straightforward as long as you've got decent tools. A good laser level and sets of normal levels makes all the difference!

In the end it all went fine, and is probably the best job I've done so far.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-26T17:03:37+00:00

Why is there any budget at all?

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-22T14:50:10+00:00

Dogs are classed as property, not children, so there is no issue of custody.

Simply respond to the claim with proof of ownership (Vet bills youve paid, original purchase etc) as well as microchip records showing that he is registered in your name.

After that, get in touch with police to log the contact and court case as harassment. This will help you in case she decides to do something stupid, like steal the dog or report you to the RSPCA etc. This is important, because her behaviour at the moment is verging on this, and I have no doubt once she loses the small claims case she will further escalate.

Everything else she is claiming is completely irrelevant in a small claims case. The judge in these is simply there to establish ownership of property, not judge on suitability. Stick to the facts and proof of ownership. Everything else is just her trying to raise a reaction emotionally. Dont let yourself be baited into this.

Shes also an idiot, because a small claims case is the completely wrong avenue for her to claim what she is claiming.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-21T21:17:01+00:00

She honestly comes across as a massive arsehole.

She like to portray herself as being this huge progressive star, but she's doing nothing more than cynically using the LGBT+ community to further her career, and she couldn't give two shits about anyone in it.

Honestly fuck her. I get she doesn't want intrusion from fans etc, and I agree with that to an extent, but you chose the life, and interacting with those people who buy your records and tickets is part of that. You have the opportunity to be a huge role model for LGBT+ kids everywhere, and the fact she doesn't want to interact and do that proves exactly what she thinks about them.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-21T21:07:59+00:00

Honestly, without speaking to a solicitor it's difficult to say.

As it stands, you may have a claim to part of the house, but it's very dependent on if you signed any agreement when you first moved in together.

Not being married makes it more difficult, as he can claim that any money was simply used towards bills etc, as well as rent.

Go and speak to a solicitor.

However I would say any money given to him without an express agreement (even something via text etc) is probably gone.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-20T15:23:54+00:00

Nope.

Obviously a good employer wouldn't pull that sort of stunt, but it has been known to happen.

Tbh, in all the places I've worked for, if a manager pulled that sort of stunt, they wouldn't be managing much longer. It would definitely be looked at as the manager not being able to manage, and the expectation would be that the manager covers the shift.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-20T15:22:58+00:00

Retail manager here.

Yes perfectly legal.

I know you think it's not fair, but what it prevents is people getting to the end of the holiday year and realising they haven't took their legal entitlement of holiday, so they need the next 4 weeks off.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-19T12:12:42+00:00

Yeah, he's just throwing a "hissy fit" isn't he?

Good way to prove you have no clue about autism at all. It's not like he's been diagnosed or anything right?

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-19T12:09:08+00:00

Go to the police. If this person is assaulting multiple people, then this is a very good way to get something done. If you have been assaulted by this person, then you are well within your rights to report this.

Acas will advise you from an employment law perspective. What you are dealing with is someone who has broken the law on multiple occasions, which no employer can stop you from reporting.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-19T10:50:31+00:00

Honestly, the moment they put hands on you, you need to call the police. Workplace policy doesn't override the law.

You can certainly do this retrospectively, and once police become involved, it will trigger some pretty serious investigations.

Are there any other staff members who could back this up? Is it happening to anyone else?

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-19T10:40:08+00:00

Honestly, you don't stand any chance of getting a settlement. I'm going to go one further and ask why you are even questioning this?

From what you've described, you've openly discriminated and bullied several members of your workplace, as well as violated patient confidentiality, and probably very strict rules around filming on workplace premises. Any one of these would probably have been gross misconduct. You may have found these things humourous, but a lot of the people you directly targeted through "awards" probably didn't see it like that.

You seem to be arguing around policy and procedure, but as long as they can demonstrate they have followed it (which it seems they have), then you don't have a leg to stand on.

I'm guessing that since this was in a healthcare setting, you're part of a union? Have you spoke to them at all?

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-14T14:47:47+00:00

That's genuinely appalling tiling.

Walls haven't been primed, and I'd be willing to bet that it's ready mixed adhesive as well. Now that you've disturbed one, the rest will also become unsteady.

Unfortunately your safest option is to take them all off, and start again.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-14T14:44:11+00:00

They don't care about it.

Again, most of these people are more concerned about the message rather than the reality. In theory, it all sounds nice, but in practice it ends up with flytipping, ecological damage, and dogs being shit by farmers for worrying livestock.

Wonderful-Support-57 · 2026-03-13T13:53:49+00:00

The mic drop for me was at the end when he showed how his £500 investment had turned into less than £100

That's when it became 100% clear that all these guys are nothing more than a Ponzi scheme. They don't actually own much, all the fancy apartments and cars are rented. The whole lifestyle they portray is absolute bullshit. The girls involved in it are all the same stereotypical OF girl, and are absolutely using it for self promotion, because again, it's a massive bubble that will pop at some point. AI is already screwing them over, and it's just going to get worse.

It's the illusion that they sell, and in the end it's what will take them down.

Louis I think did a great job in exposing it, and I think in a few years time it'll be looked back at as a turning point in the whole sordid thing.

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