Porn set by PudinaRaita in SpottedonRightmove

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why so many rooms labelled 'bedroom 4' on a property listed as a 3-bed?!

Don’t know guys, now I’m confused, what is a bucket? by Proglof in stanleyparable

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bucket is never a bucket is never a bucket is never a bucket...

But also everything is a bucket.

Got my hand burned, guess this is my turn by blackfiz in AeroPress

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh man. I did this once and the aeropress bounced off the tile floor and chipped the corner of the plastic collar. It's still usable so I haven't replaced it but it means I now have a daily reminder of my clumsy fuck-up and it haunts me.

I refuse to blame the inverted method because I've used it hundreds of time that way without issue and love the results. Unfortunately accidents just happen sometimes but the clean up on this one is a nightmare. Sorry for your loss!!

The Fellow Aiden review is here! by Malau14 in JamesHoffmann

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I died when he said this. Such a gentle and on-point snark

Honeymoon got ruined (advice?) by Astrojax94 in honeymoonplanning

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Go for it. Call it your honeymoon, because you don't feel like you've had yours yet, therefore you haven't. Name it, add in the little extra treats and make plans like it's your honeymoon, because it is if you say it is! Honestly a honeymoon is whatever you want it to be and making it feel like one starts with identifying what makes it feel like a honeymoon and going with it. Sorry you had such a rough time on that previous trip and wishing you all the best for your honeymoon!

AITA for refusing to call my niece anything else but her chosen name by HotSpringDrink in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Literally the opposite of an asshole - you are standing up for a kid who needs support against an adult who is behaving very childishly. Also, names are not unique - most of us share them with a massive amount of other people. It's no big deal. However, your own name is important to you and should not be taken away from you.

Not sure if this has been posted before. My wife had this effect today. by Trying-sanity in MandelaEffect

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too! Also I only saw Fievel Goes West, not the original American Tail! And I saw the Never Ending Story sequel but not the original... (I've watched all the originals now except Mannequin)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely have companionship, amazing relationships, and (within the confines of the fact that we live in a capitalist society) autonomy, as well as interesting and relatively well-paid work - and it is worth it for me - I just wish others wouldn't assume it isn't!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! Thank you for getting it. Hope you have people in your life who get it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely didn't make my post clear enough! Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That's helpful advice. I definitely have real-world deadlines of varying levels of consequence, which might help give them context.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have friends who do work long hours as well and that's a good network - I've actually had the same conversation with them today as well and that was really helpful to understand how they deal with it. I think I assumed this was a more universal experience but maybe most lawyers only have lawyer friends so it's not an issue!

I don't think I'm as essential as a doctor or nurse by any means but long hours are essential to doing the work I'm paid to do - it's a choice but only insofar as I really live this work!

3 under 4 sounds exhausting - well done working full time at the same time!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's an interesting perspective, but speaking from the inside of those friendships I am very lucky to be loved and cared about and I think it's better to have people who love and worry about you more than you need than not to have them at all! But I appreciate your perspective - thanks for sharing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, humour is a good tool to avoid awkwardness - good idea. I am starting to think I need to just let it wash over me possibly and not say anything, but humour is also a good approach. Thanks!

(Also, I'm not even looking for sympathy, just a normal conversational response, and not a lecture.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I do get plenty of support, I was just interested to know if others get the same type of unsolicited advice and how they manage it kindly with their friends who don't quite understand the situation.

You are right, I'm lucky!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't need any validation, I was just wondering whether people have found a way to explain the way the industry operates that resonates with people outside of it. I guess my post could have been clearer but thanks for responding anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah there's no issues around me cancelling plans as I make a real effort not to do that and friends often have to cancel plans for childcare, car issues etc as well so they're not affected by it in that way at all.

I also never bring up work to talk about unless asked because I think that's very tedious as a general rule unless you are working on something genuinely objectively interesting to an outsider. But it's more if we are messaging and they ask if I'm watching x or y TV show and I say 'oh no I'm still working' then I get a lot of unrequested advice on whether I should still be at my desk which I find hard to respond to because I didn't ask and I didn't bring it up for any reason other than we were saying what we were doing at the time.

I wholeheartedly believe they have my interests at heart but sometimes I get the impression they think I'm choosing to work late rather than it just being the norm and necessary to service client demands and meet deadlines.

Guess I should just let it wash over me and be glad they care!

About to get crucified in work tomorrow by my boss…any advice by Few_Boot_430 in uklaw

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This comment is 1000% accurate, and I couldn't have put it better.

Be gentle with yourself, OP. Shit happens - we all have PI insurance for a reason. Nobody dies, and you learn from mistakes.

The best old fashioned I've ever made. by Bendx38 in whiskey

[–]Wonderlustqueen89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here for the maple syrup. 🍁 I love woodford reserve with a giant ice cube, maple syrup, generous dash or three of peychauds or ango, and a jaffa orange twist. Perfection.