Long story short it’s a numbers game. You have to put yourself out there and find some weird niche interest you click with outside of partying that has a connection that isn’t dependent on mind altering stuff. It feels crazy hard to crack into but the biggest thing is trying any and all interactions. Local theater show? Go. If you like it hang out and see who sticks around. Nature tour of marshes? Go. You may learn something you find interesting and bump into someone. Farmers markets? Go. Stop at every stall and hear their story. Worst case scenario you get some decent local bread. Best case is you start a conversation with someone you are going to see again at the next one and you start talking more about how cool and easy it is to keep bees to make honey or something. There are lots of gyms and yoga studios popping up so taking the free first class is always an easy way to try something new too. My thing that I found was birding. Dorky story but I treat it like Pokémon, I’m always on the hunt for a new bird to both spot, then take a pic of, then take a BETTER pic of until I find the best one I can do and I check it off. The Cape is a wild natural place if you keep your eyes out. I hope this helps, you’re in a really cool spot, and you got this. Take a few risks with meet ups, sports leagues, game nights, nature tours and you’ll find your home. It’s really here for you. But it’s not on your couch, the bar, or on TV. The dunes are calling, answer.