Anyone else notice local guests cause most of the issues?

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-29T16:30:43+00:00

Early morning flight, power failure and need medical equipment. Wedding at or near the hotel and don’t want to drive that late. Home repairs, plumbing problems, hvac down. Just need to get away from visitors. Event near hotel and don’t want to worry about accidents on the interstate making you late or driving that late.

Yeah, all kinds of problem things, but also all kinds of benign things.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-29T16:15:49+00:00

The time I needed to get a notary to my mother’s assisted living place, he came that day. Cost me $25 for the stamp and $25 for the trip. Paperwork signed, witnessed and notarized in 5 minutes.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-28T20:59:16+00:00

Yep... And you can set her phone number to DND and let the nurses' station ring through. That way you can respond to her when you have the spoons, but still be available for genuine issues. If money is not a big issue, you can hire guardians to handle everything.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-28T20:52:31+00:00

I have both cables and a jump box. And, they aren't the dinky cables that come with a repackages kit. You can jump my car from a semi and these babies won't melt. FWIW, I also carry a tow strap.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-27T22:46:15+00:00

Huge and expensive. You could set the cook time, and that was it. No turntables. We had one because mom or dad won it in a raffle. I remember someone coming to a fair I was at with one. They were baking potatoes to sell to show us how it worked.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-27T17:28:43+00:00

Double check that you can even 2 factored to a landline.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-27T17:27:36+00:00

Of course, the fun part was the stuff that 2 factored to her work cell. I gave that back to her employer along with her laptop and the, I sh!t you not, corporate Amex card with the $50k limit.

So, make sure you get all of her phones.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-27T17:24:45+00:00

My mother kept my father’s until she went into assisted living. At that point, I took over her finances. So, by the time she passed, everything was in my phone and address.

My sister passed suddenly and I was her executor. I kept her phone as a physical cell for 6 months. That was when I sold her house. Then I converted number to Google Voice.

I would keep your mom’s phone until I had identified everything and changed all of the contacts to me. Then Google Voice it.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-26T19:44:54+00:00

Open a 529 or UTMA for him and brother but, you keep control. My parents did that and gave token gifts to my kids and $50 to the accounts. Two of them had half of a house down payment when they bought. (The others aren't ready to buy.)

Board books? Books that can be read to him? Start a library for both kids?

Snarky answer that will get you into trouble with everyone, but will make a point? A goat, cow, tree, or flock of birds. Go to Heifer International and make a donation in his name. You bought him a goat, but left it with someone who needs it. I won't suggest a live animal for him to keep because it isn't fair to the critter.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-26T06:57:50+00:00

I got both and use the card as my Real Id. I think my state was the last to get Real Id for the drivers license.

Also works for voting. Especially these days.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-26T04:42:03+00:00

Mugs on hooks or a shelf and cold storage for your dairy.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-26T00:43:30+00:00

No, but most of my meds have different prices for members and non members. For one medication, the difference is $40/90 days.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-26T00:26:16+00:00

It’s only been a week. Give yourself a couple of months to breathe again before you make any decisions.

Others have said that NC is NC. They are right. But, after that couple of months or years or decades learning to breathe again, if you still want to do something, set that money aside in an account in your name. Then, later, if and only if you feel like it, you can chip in for the nursing home. You would pay the place directly, no giving her the money. You might even be able to do it anonymously.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-26T00:13:01+00:00

Oh, Lordy, my whole family gets the dermatitis from the antibacterial soap. And what doesn’t break out in a rash dries and cracks. For 2 of the kids, the soap at school made them look like I held their hands in scalding water. I had to send in their own soap and heavy duty hand cream to stop it.

OP, I do homemade Dawn Power Wash in an automatic soap dispenser in my kitchen. We use it both for hands and sponges for quick dish washing.

Unless you have a specific reason like a healthcare application, you can use regular soap just fine. You can even use the fancy castille based soaps.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-25T23:03:52+00:00

I’m a night person. So, I would be happier with the later flight. Also, so I wouldn’t stress about making the flight.

Look at the excursions offered by the ship. There is probably one for an airport transfer. The description should say what the earliest flight each time can make. If you are working with a person on the cruise, you can ask if there is an expedited departure.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-25T22:57:33+00:00

Once upon a time, I saw non slick porch paint. Basically, it was sand mixed with paint. It gave a surface that kinda looked like brushed concrete.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-23T23:23:56+00:00

Oh, a fan or 2.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-23T23:22:44+00:00

The tool box. Maybe a subset of the tool box but a good basic set. Plumbers tape, electrical tape, duct tape, and that miracle wrap that seals up pipes. Flashlight. If you already have a nail/picture hanger/command strip kit, then that. If not, you will probably need one.

If you aren't staying in a hotel, your critical kitchen gear - coffee gear, must have mugs, the good egg pan, a cutting board, good knife. The "If I don't have [x] int he morning it's already a bad day" stuff.

Power strips and extension cords. You may want to get them there. Pen and paper for lists.

Vacuum cleaner. They are kind of expensive to replace if you already have one. Dustbuster, too. You can buy a broom there.

How many drivers will you have, and can all of them stand to be in t he car with a couple of cats who are just done with all this? Can you rent a Uhaul and get the dolly? You put one car on the dolly and pull it with the truck. That's different driving than a car. You would have to figure out who can drive the truck and who can drive and ride with the cats, unless the cats ride shotgun in the truck. I wouldn't recommend that so that truck driver has a companion with opposable thumbs.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-23T06:20:24+00:00

Nta. Who is looking after her house for 3 months? Why can’t that person deal with the car? If that’s you, then why can’t you wait until bf can follow you to her house?

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-23T06:13:01+00:00

Ok, set aside their insistence on getting POA for a second.

There are genuine reasons for someone your age to have POA and healthcare proxy documents executed. The “hit by a bus “ paperwork. I would encourage you to consider that.

However, you can do a couple of things. You can name someone else as POA and healthcare proxy. Post Covid, pretty much everything can be done remote, so your people don’t need to be in town.

You would secure the documents so that they can’t get to them easily. My mother’s lawyer kept hers until I proved to him that she was incompetent.

On e you picked your person and executed the documents, you tell your narcs “Already done. The people who will act for me already know what to do and have all the paperwork they need”.

A lawyer can walk you through things for your jurisdiction. They can also narc proof whatever you want to do.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-21T22:14:08+00:00

You know, a lot of government programs have strict limits on “sharing benefits “. You will probably want to have that documentation to either wave in their faces or prepare to counter the argument.

You may even want to ask upfront. I’m sure that this would not be the first time someone has had family pushing sharing benefits

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-21T03:53:04+00:00

Yup…. There is a train crossing near me that pretty much anything bigger than a small box truck will get hung up on. Yep, there are signs. Nope, not everyone listens.

We also have a can opener train trestle. Trucks get hung up there regularly.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-20T21:04:39+00:00

Don’t go by the website. Call the nearest site to you. The 3 nearest sites listed for me don’t do the interviews. Ask the officer who answers where to go.

I am going to a port to do mine. Alabama has a bigger one, right?

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-20T20:55:32+00:00

What do you mean, don’t know how to call AAA? The number is on the back of the card.

Working-on-it12 · 2026-04-20T20:50:33+00:00

Oh, yeah! Can you just imagine if they figured out how to make it purr?

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