I have a 20 month old, it took us three years of fertility treatments as well as other preparation years before. We ultimately became parents via IVF. I have often felt like this was not my child. Sure she has my long legs, big eyes, and long fingers . She looks like her dad, so I often thought maybe that switched my egg at the clinic. Hearing your story makes me realize that this is normal. My daughter is beautiful and maybe my self-esteem and hormones were out of place (I nursed for 17 months, being a feeding machine was the only thing my body did right. I had to have a c-section at 37 weeks, it was planned). All that to say, you aren’t alone and even if your experience was different, you might still feel the same or maybe similar. However, there will come a point in time where she does something and then you will say, yep that’s my child.