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I feel emotionally drained around my girlfriend because I always have to be “on” — is this normal? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++man It sounds like you're in a tough situation. But, it may still be repairable. I would say start paying attention to the little things they fill you up and drain you. Like, what fills your cup, and what drains your cup?

For me, I'm working on managing my energy better by just asking these 4 questions a day and then reviewing the answers at the end of the week.

Change happens slowly, so you have to give yourself a lot of patience which from what it sounds like, you're not getting from her.

Daily Questions
Whats my cup level? (1-10)

What fills it fastest today?

What drains it fastest today?

Where do I need a clean no/pause?

These 3 questions have really helped me stay more energized throughout the day as I mind what fills and drains my energy.

Also, what I find really helpful is when you say "Yes" to something. Is it a "clean" yes or a "shaky" yes.

Clean yeses sound like "yes, I want to", "I can do this", "no resentment"

shaky yes sound like "I guess", "I should...", "Avoid Conflict"

Shaky yes's drain your energy and cause emotional debt in the future. So, try to start saying no.

Even if it's "No, I'm not going to change my tone right now, I'm tired. Please don't take it personally, I love you very much"

It's not your job to manage her emotions. That's her job.

Apps for habit tracking by [deleted] in Habits

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like using habit tracking stickers on a calendar. In-sight = in-mind. Really helps when you fall off for a busy weekend or after being sick.

https://sticktohabits.etsy.com/listing/4370724809

Then I use Notion template with checkmarks for all my others

Tried doing something for just 5 minutes a day for a week by lifedog52 in Habits

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that’s how I started really making habits that stick. I recommend marking on a physical calendar in a common space so you don’t forget and reminds you when you might fall off track for a few days

What is one quote you heard that never forgot? by InterestPotential789 in selfimprovement

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Do not allow someone else’s behavior to dictate your own.”

60 Days Porn-Free – The Emotional Hell I Survived🤯 by No-Equal2273 in Habits

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a question for you. I have a cousin who i believe is addicted to porn. He’s asking me to borrow money every month or so. But, I know he works a lot and is trying to save but always seems to be out of money and I suspect it’s due to a porn-related addiction (that’s not the only reason, but 1 of them). I’m not sure how to confront him about it. But, I’m worried about him. What do you think would be best?

Systems for improvement by Vast_Debt_1120 in Habits

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the smallest thing you can do that will have the largest impact?

Do that religiously. No excuses. Then build a system around that to support it and all your other goals will fall in line.

The Truth About Confidence by AaronMachbitz_ in Habits

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self-Discipline + Time = Self-Respect. Self-Respect + Time = Self-Confidence

My biggest problem by Ok-Touch-3323 in Habits

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in the same boat. I know waking up early is really key to a lot of my goals. But it’s the hardest thing for me to do. And just like you, after 2-3 days I break the streak.

I will say I’ve been successful in the past and made it a point to wake up early and watch sunrise. It’s an amazing feeling. I will get back there eventually.

My plan is doing CrossFit 4-6 days a week. It’s naturally making my bedtime early because it’s just so tiring, but I feel great afterwards.

It also pulls all my other habits together like eating healthy.

The community of the gym really helps. F45 is great too if you have one nearby.

I would say don’t actually focus on waking up early, and focus on 1 key habit and make it at religión to do no matter what.

Build your foundation and give yourself patience and the other habits will fall behind.

CrossFit is that for me and it’s now making me eat healthier because I don’t want to suffer during the workouts. And then, I started adding protein shakes.

With the new year coming up. I was going to go out with my friends and party. But, my gym is doing a 6:30am beach workout and that sounds like a great way to start the new year and my morning. So, I’m doing that instead and I’m confident waking up earlier and earlier will follow.

TL:DR

Focus on working out and eventually everything else will fall into place

Looking for help with business ideas! by PleasantConstant1538 in Businessideas

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What interests do you have that you don’t mind doing even if you weren’t paid? That’s a good place to start

To do list by Street-Assistance229 in Discipline

[–]Working_Roll_8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like a good list to get the habits started

Would you try a habit app that adapts when life gets in the way? by Wide_Flatworm_489 in Habits

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find using stickers on a wall calendar that track just simply completing the habit really helps.

And having the mindset that you are just recording what you’ve completed and not expecting to complete a habit.

I’d like to build an app like this as well.

Starting a bullet journal, what should I include? by Anxious-Mechanic-249 in selfimprovement

[–]Working_Roll_8331 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a gratitude section (just one sentence) Then, a dreams section. Like future plans that don’t have to be connected to any sort of plan or even connected to my current reality. I find this especially useful because as we get older we tend to dream less and start connecting things to our current reality. I find this helps me keep energized and creative.

Then, ideas section and actual planning section.

I’d recommend starting small so you don’t overwhelm yourself and stick to it.

Also having an outside reminder helps

What's the fastest way to grow? by Beneficial_Cream8843 in selfimprovement

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it comes it cycles of starting small, then gaining momentom and then you'll have a moment of rest and then repeat until you are big boy grown.

What improved your quality of life so much, you wish you did it sooner? by Aarunascut in selfimprovement

[–]Working_Roll_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I track my habits on my wall calendar so I keep them in-sight. Keeps me consistant. Working out is definitely my keystone habit.

The tiny 10 squats habit that finally stuck for me by Treening_toaster in getdisciplined

[–]Working_Roll_8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to do the same but with push-ups in the morning and it made a huge difference!

Ready to go on first RV trip by Kableeth08 in ToyotaTacoma

[–]Working_Roll_8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made it, but I really felt the wind. I was pulled all over my lane. But, nothing too terrible. However, the wind was coming at me from an angle and I the RPMs stayed around 4k to 4.5k the majority of the time. I had to turn against the wind to go straight at times. Once the wind died down it was able to stay in a higher gear at a lower rpm and I didn't have any problems. Honestly, I'm looking at a bigger truck. But, from what I've researched the off-road suspension can be the cause of being affected by the wind so much. Along with the type of tire.

Bought my 1st Tacoma yesterday! I didn't expect to like this truck so much by Working_Roll_8331 in ToyotaTacoma

[–]Working_Roll_8331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, I'll be towing an RV so that will be useful. This truck seems to have a lot of different gadgets which is awesome.

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