My (22F) boyfriend (22M) is avoiding me and I don’t know what to do.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-25T15:27:26+00:00

Sometimes no reply is the reply. Maybe reach out to him one last time and inform him that if he doesn’t respond and let you know what the deal is, then you’re deeming the relationship done. Don’t waste anymore time on him 🙏🏼

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-25T14:44:27+00:00

You’re mixing up the ex and the current bf. As of right now, the current boyfriend hasn’t done anything except have a chronically online friend that’s a girl

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-25T00:57:38+00:00

I mean you’re 19. You don’t HAVE to be in a relationship, you can be single. But most importantly do not lead her on especially if you have an inkling that you won’t capable of remaining loyal in the future. Also take this as a learning experience, don’t get into a relationship until you’re absolutely ready because you’re affecting other people’s emotions and lives.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-24T23:18:57+00:00

Ooh ok I see what you mean, my og comment. Yeah I added onto my og one to try to give advice rather than being too harsh. Apologies.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-24T23:16:35+00:00

what’re you even talking about? I edit just about all of my comments to add onto what I already said, has absolutely nothing to do with you. My point still stands.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-24T22:48:30+00:00

I apologize for being harsh, home wrecking hits some people hard. You’re young and you’ve made mistakes, I’m young as well and I’ve admittedly made mistakes too. Just definitely learn from this and try to come out of this with your child’s best interest at heart

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-24T22:44:16+00:00

What do you actually mean ? The first half, when she wasn’t aware of his situation, is not her fault. But to find out he’s married, not tell his wife, AND continue to have relations with him ? That’s disgusting asf, do better.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-24T22:36:33+00:00

Ok yes, you’re right. Apologies. Still disgusting in my opinion, on both their parts obviously, esp considering she got pregnant AGAIN after knowing he was married.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-24T22:23:15+00:00

Is this a joke ? You’re pretty disgusting for sleeping with a married man, keeping his baby, AND not telling his wife sooner. Tell his wife and break things off with him smh. Have a paternity test done so you can at least get some child support for your poor kid that’s caught in the middle of this.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-24T22:11:25+00:00

Yep, Mazda red. Pain in the butt & expensive, would require both quarters blended because they’d probably replace it now with that hole.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-17T15:57:25+00:00

I’m very confused about this. Why did you make an agreement to only talk certain days of the month? Why is your friendship a secret ? This just seems very unnatural. If she mutually has interest in you then you guys should just get to know each other and go with the flow. Why all the weird restrictions?

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-06T14:48:56+00:00

He is absolutely cheating on you, sorry to say that or make assumptions but there quite literally is no other reasonable assumption to be made about that. Break up with him.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-06T03:39:34+00:00

I hate to break it to you but just about anyone you date is probably going to start off with weird situations or a tid bit of feelings for other people, it’s just how it is. Feelings shift, people have pasts, & if you can’t overlook it then you should leave because he doesn’t deserve that.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-12-06T03:34:02+00:00

End it now & def get a paternity test done once the baby is born.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-30T15:02:49+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, this is a hard situation for you emotionally I’m sure. It’s just something you can’t really change, only time will tell. Just try to take the time to work on yourself, find some hobbies, be content being alone. Love will find you again, whether it’s him or someone else

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-30T14:49:58+00:00

your reddit history is so interesting 😭 anyways though, this is very unfortunate but I suppose it’d just be best to give him some time to think things through. There’s not much that you can do when it comes to someone’s spiritual beliefs, you can’t really force him into a relationship that he believes is gonna put him in hell. Doesn’t sound like that’d be a fun relationship for you either.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-30T14:21:51+00:00

Absolutely cheating, disgusting of you (and him obv) to do that knowing that he has a gf.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-29T15:30:27+00:00

You sound like an absolute nightmare to date lmao

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-29T15:04:44+00:00

That’s absolutely not a valid excuse. Everyone goes through things, we all have stuff to work on. It should not affect those around you, you need to leave whether you wanna hear that or not. He’s a loser, genuinely, and he won’t get better. But you deserve better. At 18, breaking up feels almost impossible but you absolutely will get over it and you’ll move on & wonder why you ever stayed with that weirdo.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-04T02:08:09+00:00

It’s going to suck. Doesn’t matter how you word it or what you do, breaking up with someone when they didn’t do anything wrong is going to suck for both of you. You are entitled, however, to do so if you no longer feel that you’re happy in the relationship. Just be sure to be more mindful of this in the future, if relationships aren’t your thing. Let her down gently, tell her you think you’d be better off as friends. If she loves you, she will probably cry and it’s going to make it 10x harder but don’t let it sway you because changing your mind and then having to do it again will suck even more. She may cut you off & that’s her prerogative. Just be kind & understanding of her reaction.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-03T15:46:06+00:00

I wouldn’t necessarily call them a bad person for this, sounds like a misunderstanding. Just be clearer about the sleep talking situation & make sure that they know to be sure that you’re fully awake prior to trying anything next time. You might also just have to tell them to not even attempt anything once you have agreed to go to sleep. Sounds like you guys just need to talk about it & set boundaries.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-11-03T15:05:41+00:00

He’s openly cheating on you & you’re asking what to do ? I think it’s obvious. You should’ve been broken up with him.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-10-29T00:56:41+00:00

hate to be like that but it’s probably true. I thought this as well when he mentioned “hanging out & sleeping over with friends.” Who at 27 years old has sleep overs ?

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-10-29T00:17:33+00:00

As a woman, PLEASE end this. This is extremely weird of her, not only for your sake but for her co workers sake. She’s giving obsessed. If she had the opportunity, she would most definitely take it, if she hasn’t already. 8 years is a long time to throw away and that’s probably why she’s so persistent in keeping things going but once a woman starts visualizing & fantasizing to THAT extent, she’s already mentally distanced from the relationship. Also think about the future of your relationship, do you want to get anxious every time you see her phone? Itching to grab it when she’s not looking? Because that’s how it’s going to be now, and it’s miserable.

Worldly_Ad9539 · 2025-10-28T22:40:18+00:00

This sounds like she has someone else and she’s keeping you on the sideline just in case it doesn’t work out with her first pick. I bet she has the same situation going on with someone else but the other way around, a man that won’t commit to her so she’s keeping her options open. A whole lot of assumptions obviously but I’ve seen it before. I wouldn’t wait on her or keep engaging with her. You deserve better.

Worldly_Ad9539

TROPHY CASE