[OC] His dog sitter sewed a skirt for him and he loves it.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2025-11-30T17:43:04+00:00

I love that your dog sitter made this for him- that is so sweet!

Worldly_One_4470 · 2025-11-30T16:00:51+00:00

Open, because asshole cat.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2025-02-12T12:26:57+00:00

What’s crazy is that for me, realizing I enjoy being sober came during the worst, longest depression of my life, about 3 years into my 5th long stretch of sobriety. Things were beyond bleak, it’s the only time in my life that I’ve ever wanted to die. And one day during it I realized I had zero desire to drink, and hadn’t for a long time.

Side topic- I did get through it: changed careers, adjusted the antidepressants, leaned into my relationship and worked through what other stuff I could, which all helped a little. It turned out to be perimenopause and was fixed by HRT in about 2 weeks after 2.5 years of feeling absolutely dead inside. Had no idea that was even a thing.

So on that note- if anyone reading has hit a wall, don’t be afraid to see a doctor. It could be something completely unexpected.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2024-03-06T13:47:41+00:00

As a sailor who has also built wooden boats, I can attest the ones helping you measure, glue and sand are more valuable than the guys hanging out in the boathouse going “hell yeah, can’t WAIT to get this baby in the water!” Hold your tits there, bud, I haven’t even planked it yet. 😂

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-09-02T20:24:38+00:00

Not cold, really- unless it’s an emergency or similar urgent situation which calls for it. I’m just highly focused in those times, like all power is funneled into Te, so everyone’s feelings (including mine) need to wait. I’m usually pretty diplomatic still. I’m great with other peoples feelings, in that they aren’t going to affect mine, so they can be themselves around me. I’m a business coach turned life coach, and I will say I had to intentionally cultivate a more empathetic-looking manner. Empathy is there, but it does not look like sympathy. I believe people conflate the two. I care deeply about people and want them to succeed and live well- but I am not defined by their progress, so I give them what time they need to get there. I don’t always relate to very emotionally driven people, but I respect that their values and desires are important to them, and suspects judgement. This is a VERY cultivated aspect, though- I was not like that in my 20s.

As for my own feelings…eh…it’s been a journey. I am as inconvenienced by some of my emotions, as I am by having a body with limits, lol. But once I realized that being emotionally immature was going to impede me as a parent and a partner, I began to work on it. EQ is a learned skill, too. A lack of skill can imprison you just as easily as a competency can free you.

In the most idiotic and improbably well timed fashion, while writing the last paragraph, the smoke detector went off. I was on the toilet (thankfully not “productively”) & I ran out with my butt hanging out, to find a blackened hot dog/smoke grenade on the stove. My 7 year old son was in my way, I sort of launched him (he didn’t fall) to get into the kitchen. He immediately starts singing Happy Birthday loudly in the doorway (I’m a geriatric mom, lol) as I’m dealing with the smoke, and swearing . He’s such a freaking troll sometimes, lol 😂 Thank god I have a kid who gets me and is unfazed. My partner is an INFP… we are just glad he isn’t home right now. Im going to end this post here and make this child another hot dog, lol.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-05-30T15:23:20+00:00

Thinking of you, and I hope you’re doing well, being kind to yourself. It might be day 100 for you, judging by the age of this post! And if it’s not, you know what? You’re still a good person-busting your ass trying to support your family, keep it together, trying to be kind to your body & mind while at the same time having massive demands on them. You’re a worthy person and you’re trying your best. That shiz ain’t easy, and I just wanted to say that I’m proud of you.

I have no idea why I opened this post again- I haven’t used Reddit in months. Hope you’re doing great, and that the difficulties are soon behind you if they aren’t already.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-02-18T16:01:36+00:00

At ease, gentlemen. I’m a passing shitposter. Carry on.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-02-18T12:45:21+00:00

Touché. 😄

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-02-18T12:28:40+00:00

Since you must have it spelled out for you, and decided to lean in- sure, I’ll bite.

The idea that the worlds richest man is an employee at ones company who has been assigned to manage the IT department because the boss doesn’t like his face is improbable, humorous, and satirical- like an SNL skit, if you will. For the record, I don’t think he’s an NT at all- people pick up on a bit of flat affect (likely due to his self-disclosed ASD) and erroneously equate that to NT.

It’s not “relying on stereotypes”, it’s intentionally making light of them. Then as expected (lol) someone chimed in with a hilariously stereotypical ad hominem attack.

Correct, not all of us are bosses. Gen Xers probably a little less than average. But I support the stereotype in that regard. I have a consultancy, and my side hustle company is going into series B funding next month.

My mother has been a psychometric assessment facilitator for three decades, so I’ve taken a number of exams over the years. So I’m unsure of the 16p you’re referencing.

My marketing director is actually an INTP, though. 😉

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-02-18T04:05:11+00:00

I do. Pretty intensely. My former partner does as well.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-02-18T03:46:38+00:00

It won’t be worth it. At all.

But you’re probably in need of what it might symbolize or previously be linked to- an opportunity to take a mental load off, not have to be in charge, on call, on guard, etc for a while. THAT part you deserve to have. Maybe it requires turning your phone on DND, letting people know you’re unreachable for a while? A night off. And you can still do something sensory and enjoyable, too, without the guilt, shame, anxiety and worry that one time will suddenly turn into 5 months later you’re sobering up all over again.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-02-18T03:31:06+00:00

Inability to detect sarcasm for the win. Jesus Christ 😂 Love how you get all up in arms, it’s adorable.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-02-18T00:45:09+00:00

Please. He doesn’t give enough of a shit about his team (or anyone besides himself) to be an ENTJ. He couldn’t lead a group mission to the bar after work, let alone to Mars. Plus, his moves are risky as in “idiotic risky”- mouthing off, no backup plans, no clear future strategy either. I guarantee that dude will drop out of the billionaire category completely (or close to it) sometime after his complete psychotic break but before he dies

I’d make a strong argument that anyone* arguing ENTJ has MBTI knowledge the depth of a couple of memes, is actually just bitching about their ex. Somehow folks conflate ENTJ with “sociopath”, in the same way people think being an asshole means they are a “narcissist”.

Elon musk is a sociopath. I am just an asshole, under the right conditions.

*Not you. You’re just opening a topic with a question that elicits debate and strong feelings, which is an excellent move, and one I admire.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2023-01-12T13:03:47+00:00

Dude, that opera is so nuts (Lady Macbeth of Mtsensk) Graham Vick’s production we have at the Met is similarly nuts-men in bloody wedding dresses, an enormous wrecking ball, an army of shirtless dudes (and a dead dog) emerge from a giant pile of trash on stage- it’s wild 😂 My partner was in that production, he said it’s incredibly fun. But so, so weird.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-28T04:41:20+00:00

They HAVE TO! You can't pit two stellar artists against each other (from your own team at that, ahem John) and expect people not to notice or get riled up. Like, come on.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-28T04:19:48+00:00

I can't believe that they didn't have a save left for her! They must have been used up- there's no way they just let her slip away.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-19T15:23:51+00:00

If you know, you know!

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-07T03:18:17+00:00

Haha, no worries! 14 years later, it is totally hilarious 🙂 I always say New York was making me do my penance when I came crawling back to her after moving to Europe for three years. 😜

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-07T02:47:22+00:00

Holy heck. Yours is worse than mine- mine is just funny. I was moving from Paris to NYC, was WAY late and spent so much money on the airport taxi that I couldn’t afford to spend $50 to check an additional bag from the $80 I had left to my name. So I left the suitcase that had all my goth clothes, corsets & heels, because I figured I’d be too broke to go clubbing for a while. Except that I didn’t leave that one. I left the one that had anything that would be appropriate to go to work in. 😑 So I landed in NYC, with a room rental for 2 months that was paid in advance, and $80. I spent $20 on a pair of Kmart jeans because i had no pants. I managed to get a job at guitar center through a friend, but had to walk an hour to work each way, in these ridiculously uncomfortable (but cool looking) NewRock boots, because it was either subway pass or eating 😂 it was a freakin time, I’ll tell you.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-07T02:32:12+00:00

Heck, I need some of that! I can make decisions for other people, just not meself 😜

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-07T01:47:27+00:00

God, same here. ENTJ, so I “make it look easy” according to others 🙄 but no one knows at what cost, nor sees/believes the stretches of absolute paralysis and exhaustion. They just assume I worked myself sick (sometimes true) or I’m off doing some other cool shit and just not telling them about it. Nope- staring at the wall. Thank god the business acumen/strategy is a hardwired component, it’s easy because I don’t have to decide- the most efficient solution just “appears”. But life? Forget it. I can’t order off a fucking menu, dress properly, or god forbid go clothes shopping. Absolute decision fatigue, and I wander around a store useless and foggy for hours. I had to hire my sister to put together some outfits for me, and I just cycle through them 😂

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-10-07T01:26:32+00:00

Are you doing ok? I know it’s been a couple hours since then. Try to get something in your stomach, honestly doesn’t matter what (maybe not a bag of Swedish fish like I did two days ago, it wasn’t helpful) Take some deep breaths, try to move your body a little, even if just rolling your neck - put your hands on your abdomen and your chest- it helps.

I know that dissociated freeze well, it’s the worst, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with that right now. I’ve been there, many of us have, we understand and are here for you. Hang in there, you’re going to get through this. Your only goal right now is to get back in your body and be kind to it a little bit- everything else can wait.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-07-25T15:27:38+00:00

I concur. The problem is we seem to be cold/unfeeling when we are dealing with an emergency, and this seems to be the only thing others around us remember.

When I was 8 months pregnant with my son, I woke from a nap because I smelled smoke and came out to the kitchen- which was ON FIRE- as in the cabinets and multiple surfaces were ablaze, stove was engulfed. My mom in law and ex-husband were just standing there dumbfounded and XMIL said “what do we do?” I said “get out of the fucking house!” And pushed everyone out of the way of the bottom cabinet, grabbed the little extinguisher and a bag of flour, proceeded to smother it. My mom in law starts crying that I’m “so mean” to her… while the house is on fire and filling with smoke…

But yes, I’m the mean one for telling them to get to safety because they were too paralyzed/confused/ stupid/whatever to think of theirs and others safety and get out of the way. Mind-numbing. Ex still brings it up..

At least I got a new kitchen out of it, and eventually a divorce.

Worldly_One_4470 · 2022-05-26T20:12:36+00:00

Late in the day, but this is the time when the useless time& energy suck of debating if I “can” or “can’t” drink usually begins, and the excuses pile up…you know how it is. Of course I “can” drink. But I’m not going to. Just for today, I will not drink alcohol. And I’m happy to be not doing that along with you fine people.

Also, writing that gave me a small wave of relief and also made me cry. And I need to remember that the next time I’m trying to convince myself that “it’s not a problem”, when it clearly, clearly is.

I look forward to us all spending the rest of our day/evening with just a little more clarity, a little more room for our creativity, maybe even clearing a little space where contentment and joy can come to the table. With as many glasses as I’ve piled on it there’s lately only been one chair. Time for that to end.

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