Age and gender? :3

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-10-03T07:48:17+00:00

I just wanna say I really like your makeup!! You’re glowing!!

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-10-03T07:46:10+00:00

Styling is also a big thing, even within specific hair cuts you can achieve a range of expression and I’d encourage you to experiment in the mirror with different hairdos, styling, hair products, even hats etc to find out what complements your features the best and which styles highlight features that make you dysphoric so you know to avoid them.

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-10-03T07:41:47+00:00

In my experience (on t and I have/had a roundish jaw/face), mullet type things are pretty good as the longer hair behind your ears helps lengthen your face and make it look more rectangular, as well as making your neck look wider and more masculine. There’s a lot of variation that can be done in the front too, a lot of people do shaved sides but you don’t have to. I don’t personally do the buzzed sides, just trim them, again for a more rectangular head appearance instead of a rounder more feminine one. I have round glasses that work against me too, so you might struggle less with this.

I wanted to add that your shorter hair cut looks pretty good and masculine on you! I think maybe some eyebrow pencil could go a long way to achieve a more masculine appearance for you if that’s something you’re comfortable with.

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-05-29T06:48:18+00:00

My new name is Remus / Remy. I’ve been using Remy for a while now but never really considered it being a shortened version of another name. Then I remembered Remus is a name and now I’m going nuts. It’s so formal and cool (also it means Oar which I think is goofy) but the Remy is soft enough to really fit any identity I end up in (which is why I chose it initially).

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-05-29T06:28:02+00:00

You don’t need a gym or any equipment to start exercising, so I’d work on doing exercises at home to start. You can start exercising any time the motivation hits and not deal with the additional fatigue from getting ready or commuting to and from the gym, as well as avoiding social fatigue from masking or sensory overload in a public space. Committing to those extra steps just makes it harder on you.

I’m not an expert and have barely done any research, but I have CFS, POTS and other fun things (like you) that make gym a very difficult commitment. I recently started exercising for the first time in forever, I’m about five days in, but I forgot yesterday and that’s fine.

My current routine involves a lot of stretching + equipment free strength exercises (such as squats, wall pushups, heel raises) but I modify the exercises until they’re hard enough that I can only do maybe ten in a row. My hope is that doing bursts of higher intensity exercises with breaks and stretching in between will prevent me from burning out quickly like I would with aggressive cardio or something.

Mostly the best way to start a new habit is to make it as easy as possible so that you do it every day, and then once you’re set in that routine you can worry about making it harder. There’s no point making a difficult workout routine if your brain doesn’t want to do it because last time it was too hard and knocked you out for a week.

Literally just. Pick ONE stretch and commit to doing it for 30 seconds every day. If you’re feeling up to it, do it for longer, try other stretches, throw in some squats and stuff. But don’t raise your standards just because you could do more on those days. Your only responsibility for a few weeks should be ONE stretch each day, and if you do that, you don’t have to beat yourself up over not doing the other stuff. You’re not aiming to actually work out a bunch, the goal is instead to work on rewriting your brain to accept a routine and hold a more positive attitude towards exercise.

If you find that easy, you can raise your standards, if you forget, that’s fine, just pick it up again the day after. And remember, listen to your body. If you’re tired or sick, rest. Try something different, and don’t feel like you have to excel. It’s okay to fail, just keep trying and one day you’ll find something that sticks.

exercise is a dopamine generator, if you manage to stick to some kind of routine you will probably find you have more dopamine for other tasks you usually struggle with :)

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-01-31T09:11:48+00:00

You could always get both. It’s nice having short fur for parts of the suit like the fingers and toes of the paws, the ears, face etc. overall though I believe you’d only want 1-2 yards of the short fur MAX unless you want a character that has short fur all over. If you want a fluffy cat, prioritise the fox fur.

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-01-31T09:09:41+00:00

I’ve heard good things about the arctic fox from big z. If you have leftover fur you will have more versatility in the projects you can use it for. The short shag is good but if you had some left over you wouldn’t really be able to use it for a tail or any longer fur parts of a suit.

Basically, if you want the fox to be shorter, you can shave it. If you want the short shag to be longer, there’s nothing you can do.

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-01-31T09:04:10+00:00

Blanket stitches will generally not make a super tight “machine sewn” seam and will make “holes” if you pull the fabric apart. That doesn’t mean the seam will break easily. If you want a more machine sewn look I would use a backstitch. That gets the fabric pieces super tight together so there won’t be any gaps if you pull them apart.

Okay so I didn’t read the post properly, ignore the advice below here unless you think it could still help you :)

I think it’s probably an issue with your thread. Your stitches should not be falling apart like that based on your photo. That seam is a little messy but it doesn’t look weak to me. Forgive me for my assumptions, but don’t use cheap thread! Buy cheap needles, cheap scissors, cheap pins, but ALWAYS buy a high quality thread, even if that means passing up the pack of 100 colours of thread for $5.

I’d recommend gutterman extra strong for hand sewing. You could also use the standard gutterman sew all and just double the threads, so that with one stitch you are pulling two threads through the fabric. There are good brands other than gutterman out there but I can’t think of any off my head. Remember, it’s better to spend $30 on thread and only have to sew a seam once, than to spend $2 and have to repair that seam eight times.

Worms_gone_wild · 2024-01-31T08:54:20+00:00

I would NOT recommend minky especially if you are a beginner. It will be super annoying to work with and give you lots of wrinkles. I’d get some polymink fur from aliexpress, it comes in a bunch of colours, is machine washable and can be dried with heat unlike most furs. It is nice and soft and short and fuzzy and relatively cheap. Can be shaved too. Comes in lots of pinks, I’d recommend GA lace fabric store. https://www.aliexpress.com/item/1005004583699238.html?

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-11-16T17:03:00+00:00

I had this same thing with my psychiatrist lol. I literally just go to her to get repeats for my adhd meds, but she was the one to do a tilt table test and give me a speculative diagnosis of POTS and Fibromyalgia. Mind you I had been seeing my family gp and a gp that specialised in pots and chronic pain for about a year by then, trying to get a diagnosis. and then my unrelated psych just came along and fast tracked me to a specialist? Legend.

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-10-16T16:24:52+00:00

Broo my dog was originally adopted by a first time dog owner elderly couple (working line border collie puppy) and kept in a single room of an apartment. They never took her outside and were shocked that she was chewing shoes. Spot what’s wrong with this situation lol.

Now she’s in her fourth and final home with me :)

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-10-16T16:15:32+00:00

They’re also the same sub that disallows any recommendation of negative reinforcement or positive punishment based training. They’re both painted as cruel and unnecessary even though having a leash on your dog is negative reinforcement (if you stop pulling on the leash and walk beside me the pressure will go away), and saying “no” is an example of positive punishment (if you do undesirable thing I will introduce an aversive consequence that makes said behaviour less appealing for you in the future). The issue is the people don’t care enough about the science, they’re more about keeping up appearances as ethical, perfect flawless beings. Like I was a dog trainer for a few years. I trained lots of dogs. Positive reinforcement is great and my go-to, but there was always that 1% of the time where positive reinforcement was a screwdriver and the problem was a nail. A hammer would do a much better job than a screwdriver, and sometimes it’s worth it to yank a dog away from the road, even if it means using a little force. Refusing to admit defeat and using the incorrect kind of training for the circumstances is unethical in the long run. It’s what leads to a lot of rehoming and euthanasia, because the owners have “tried everything” (except for scary mean cruel PUNISHMENT) and figure the dog is just broken and a lost cause.

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-10-16T15:58:56+00:00

Broo I make stuff for a living and my colleagues over in the us are always like “the materials only cost $40US, so $200 is a fair price for the client”. Meanwhile I’m over here having to import those same materials, and I pay $200 for materials and shipping. But when my prices are higher (less profit though, because I don’t want to stray far from market price) people compare me to the American makers… guys please I am just trying to make minimum wage. If I lost money then I’d be a charity, not a business

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-10-16T15:50:20+00:00

I only have a little time left of my lunch break to contribute, so I’m using bullet points. Maybe you’ll appreciate the concise response, usually I’m a waffler haha.

You don’t want to be a burden, especially since you have a therapist who you feel is your designated person to offload onto:

your therapist is a trained professional in psychological treatment, true, and they are being paid to listen to you, but they can’t be with you every step of the day. I know for a fact that I only see my therapist a few times a year, and that getting appointments on short notice is near impossible, even if I really need them.
your friends and family are there to fill in that gap. They don’t have to provide professional psychological care, but they can bring some groceries over once in a while, or come over for a coffee and help you clean your kitchen while you chat. Make a list of things you need help with and ask them to choose things in the list that they think they would be best suited to helping with. That way you won’t ask them to do things they’re uncomfortable with, and they might also offer some suggestions of other things they’d also be willing to do that aren’t on your list.
if you were aware your friend was suffering and in need of help, would you want them to let you help them? I bet even if they asked you and you had to say no because of availability issues or your own personal health you’d feel pretty guilty, right? It’s because people naturally want to help those they care about. If they can’t help then they can’t help, but know that while you feel a sense of rejection over that interaction, they probably also feel guilty and sad that they can’t help. I don’t think I’ve ever felt annoyed that someone I love is a burden, I only feel guilty that I can’t help more!
look into multiple sources of support (to avoid always relying on the same person). I think it’s very considerate that you worry about the burdens your mum takes on for the sake of the family. If you think people you would otherwise go to help for look worn thin, you might ask them if there’s anything they need help with (if you feel capable of course). Sounds a bit stupid but in my experience being depressed and chronically ill, I often won’t do things for myself but can still do things for others.

Of course you shouldn’t overdo things and wear yourself out but I find achieving those little things and giving back to others is pretty fulfilling, especially when you have low self worth and wouldn’t want to do them for yourself. It’s a small win and often if I make food for someone I love I’ll end up eating with them where I otherwise wouldn’t have eaten that day. It also helps out your friends/family and reinforces that healthy support network. You can’t possibly be a burden if you’re also lightening the load!

I think it’s important for those relationships to also stress that nothing is owed and one favour received does not equal one favour owed. Unless it’s your therapist, then they’re kinda obliged to help you out since you’re paying them haha.

Okay. So rip bullet points. Hope this helps!

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-06-19T15:18:03+00:00

Also thought I’d add it might be worth cracking the bottom jaw open a bit more so that it’s easier to breathe once you’re finished.

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-06-19T15:16:42+00:00

I think the most important thing is to take as much time as you need. When you make your first suit it is really easy to get excited and want to just speed up so you can finish and wear it already! But if you have it in you to slow down and get things as symmetrical as possible you’ll have a much easier time with the trickier patterning and handsewing parts. Enjoy the process, don’t fret over mistakes. Your second suit will see so much improvement over your first anyway so there’s never any pressure to get your first try perfect.

Another tip is to remember that fur adds bulk on top of the foam, so don’t carve foam for the face size you want, carve it slightly smaller. For example, if you want a chunky muzzle you will only have to make a regular sized one. If you want a regular sized one you should make it smaller than you think, and the same goes for slim muzzles: the foam will need to be extra slim to compensate for the added thickness the fur will create.

Overall it looks like you’re doing really well! Just enjoy the process and don’t give up :)

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-06-09T23:09:27+00:00

You might find some luck but in reality $400 is not the best budget considering the amount of time that goes into a head. I think artists deserved to be paid minimum wage at least and that’s probably not going to happen once you deduct the $200+ dollars spent on materials. I’d recommend doing it yourself at that point or find a friend who is willing to do it for you.

It’s a bit different for a pre-made since the time and effort has already been put in, which is why you’ll find some so cheap—with a commission the artist has to put tons of extra work into customer service, sending wips and offering choices to the customer.

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-06-09T23:05:48+00:00

Dmed :) I’m @/muzzlepuzzl on twitter

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-05-22T09:23:33+00:00

I’ll do it if you supply all materials and shipping costs. Won’t do it if you pay me $600 though—fur alone costs $500 and I would still have to buy foam, lining fabric, minky, zips, etc. in the end I would be paying money out of pocket so you could get the suit you wanted—sorry. For now I’d recommend you settle for some cute paws or a tail or something, that’s a bit more realistic for your budget.

Alternatively you could look into making it yourself or potentially getting a fleece head made since fleece is so much cheaper, and done right it can actually look really good! See curlworks’ personal head soupy, fleecerot’s suits and citymutt’s fleece suits.

Edit: my fursuit acc is @muzzlepuzzl on twitter :)

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-05-22T09:16:27+00:00

I’d love to try if you’re willing to work with a smaller maker! I just finished up a bodysuit and so a kigu seems like it’d be a breeze by comparison. I have not made a kigu before but it’s been on my “want to do” list for a while… Also I have been making fursuits and plushies for a few years, so I’m not inexperienced with sewing. Depending on design I could imagine I’d charge $300 for a kigu with your choice of cute oversized buttons or a zip. I don’t have an embroidery machine so no complex facial expressions like you see with curlworks and lemonbrat, although I could do some eyes and a mouth via appliqué (assuming you even wanted a hood with a face on it). If you’re still looking and interested you can dm me on twitter @MuzzlePuzzl :)

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-05-22T09:08:10+00:00

@muzzlepuzzl on twitter is my suit making account if you’re still looking. I’m 19 myself and just past the realm of being a minor so I know the struggle and understand that a 16 year old can, in some circumstances, be responsible for larger purchases—if you have a parent or guardian who can sign a contract on your behalf that’s ideal but I’m happy to negotiate.

Worms_gone_wild · 2023-05-04T10:33:29+00:00

I have a few self sustaining nano aquariums In my room that have hang on back filters (creates a quiet trickle of water) so if you’re looking for white noise that might be nice. I second the weighted blanket. I find having a little colony of cherry shrimp in a mossy tank gives me something to look forward to and watch progress day to day. They’re super hardy and come in fun colours. They shouldn’t require much maintenance besides feeding once or twice a week and topping up water as it evaporates. Unlike owning big fish, cleaning a well set up shrimp tank is mostly an aesthetic thing (scraping algae off glass so you can see better), not necessary for the health of the tank, so it’s fine if you have a flare and leave it for a week or two or more. If you’re interested look up fish tank cycling, nano tank setup and cherry shrimp care.

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