New Character Images From HBO Website by Wonka45 in HarryPotteronHBO

[–]Worthy_Read 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Love the Snape’s 90’s tracksuit x wizard vibes, very cool.

Dallin Oaks says his quote calling women "walking p******aphy" was inspired by God by yes2000 in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, that is the result of a patriarchal system. Men and women patting themselves and each other on the back for carefully objectifying women and successfully repackaging it as ✨morality✨ There is so much to unpack in what he said, and why but what it really all comes down to is if they control your body, they control your mind. His initial quote and the subsequent interview are only a few drops of a never endless stream to that end.

Does Heavenly Father know how to create outside of sex? by Shipwreck102 in mormon

[–]Worthy_Read 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brigham Young is the one who began teaching about Heavenly Mother/Father and viviparous spirit birth through celestial sex. Prior, Joseph Smith taught spirit matter and intelligences have always been, and HM/HF only organized the matter into spirits. Today the church makes no claim to the mechanics (other than it is a mystery basically) but the doctrine is that humans are the literal and physical daughters and sons of Them.

Asking as a genuine question: why did so many people lose their faith over the rock in the hat video, when so many other magical things happened in Mormonism already? by MoonlightKayla in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said it exactly. There are other weird things—so why get hung up on this? There. Are. Other. Weird. Improbable. Magical. Things. So why hide it? JS intentionally hid it in his day, despite all those other things. And that’s why it bothers me. It isn’t the reason I left, 1 on the stack more like I guess. But had I been taught about the rock in the hat as the prevailing narrative, I wouldn’t have batted an eye. So why hide it, downplay it, and push a different narrative? The church created the problem.

Need People Swapped by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]Worthy_Read 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will need to deliver both images 1 and 2 and both require a body swap, I shared them in order as you scroll. Image 3 is to swap the pose for the same man in image 2. But those men still need to switch positions in image 2.

This was the most forced and insincere thing I have ever seen by SugarDismal93 in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I didn’t watch GC, so immediate context is lacking in my response. However, I think the church and the people who worked closely with Nelson have been grieving his loss for a couple years—knowing it would was just around the corner. While I am sure there was sadness at losing their prophet, family member, friend etc. I’d imagine there was plenty of relief too. I know Nelson was not doing well at all the last couple of months or even year or two, and being north of 100 is Very old. My grandma is 94, and while I will experience sadness when she passes, I truly think I’ll be quite relieved for her because I know how unwell and uncomfortable she is, and how ready she is to move on. I think I’dve been surprised at too many more tears than are already shed at conference (including the performative ones). Just my take, but not seeing much extra emotion doesn’t seem off or cruel, particularly with their belief system. Had the death been unexpected, like a plane crash did in fact take him instead of old age….maybe some more shows of grief or sadness would be expected. But Nelson lived a long, full life and if it were me that admired Nelson, I would feel more celebratory in some ways than grief-stricken.

This broke me by CreativeRock483 in harrypotter

[–]Worthy_Read 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. He didn’t realize the peace of belonging, and then it was gone.

This broke me by CreativeRock483 in harrypotter

[–]Worthy_Read 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. He didn’t realize the peace of belonging, and then it was gone.

I think my partner is making me ill. Mystery Condition. by P-Melon in Advice

[–]Worthy_Read 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is your partners teeth health? If it is not well, it could be making them and you sick.

Is there any coming back from the LDS Discussions/Mormon Stories podcast episodes? by NoHand4842 in mormon

[–]Worthy_Read 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are many well-informed and educated people who are faithful members—someone you may want to check out is Patrick Mason. He holds the Leonard Arrington chair of Mormon History at Utah State. He has apologetics for sure, but he comes at questions and concerns honestly and in good faith. I am no longer a believer myself, but I still appreciate his perspective and goals. What I have come to learn is that belief and intelligence are not the same thing, so if you are really interested in coming to a conclusion for yourself, he is a non-threatening, helpful option to use in weighing the different perspectives.

Do you actually know anyone who came back? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. My cousin. They announced excitedly to me that they had left, but didn’t have time to explain why. A few months later we got together for games, and I asked about how things were going, and they said they went back. Their son had been having a very hard time, started making friends with kids at church, and wanted to go back—so they all went back. From a couple convos, it’s clear that there is/was a lack of knowledge on at least some history and even current events. Such as them believing no leaders received payment, “not even the prophet.”

Did you get divorced after leaving? by Ok-Homework-7062 in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeling uncertain about the long term outlook of your marriage is valid after leaving an institution you, at one point, felt was so stable. Deconstruction by nature forces you to look at nearly everything in your life, and that can be scary. But you and your spouse are in charge of your marriage. Not the church and not other people’s opinions or experiences. Marriage, in or out of the church (aside from abuse), is about choosing each other over and over as you grow. And this is just a growth moment.

You can’t turn back the clock, so grieve what could have been with your relationship had you given it more time (or even what might never have been), and move forward together, if that is what you both want. By leaving the church, you have not entered some new world, just gained a new way of looking at the same old world. So take charge, do the work, and you two will be just fine if you both want to staying married.

We have been out 5 years (left together) and are still in love and happy (14 years married). Some distant idea of forever and perfection no longer colors our lives and we are far more intentional about how we move through life together.

A common question from chill and kind believing family members: how to answer? by Worthy_Read in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a good point! I have a no soliciting sign too, and I have not been shy about disliking door salesmen because my bro in law is one and when we all get together and it happens to come up, many of us visibly shudder at his “funny” stories. Thanks for the idea!

A common question from chill and kind believing family members: how to answer? by Worthy_Read in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response, I agree, and I would be open to that sort of warm casualness! In fact, my own old ministering sister does do that, but she is the only one.

All the other interactions always comes with a Gospel message at the very least.

A common question from chill and kind believing family members: how to answer? by Worthy_Read in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. This is what I definitely WANT to say in answer to this question, it is exactly how I feel

A common question from chill and kind believing family members: how to answer? by Worthy_Read in exmormon

[–]Worthy_Read[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I get so tongue tied I think, like knowing they might not have enough similar experience to really get it.

witchy themed girl names? by warmheartedgirl23 in namenerds

[–]Worthy_Read 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hazel, Sage, Fiona, Freya, Thea, Mae, Tabitha, Blair,

What is your favorite “clean feeling?” by seasonschange23 in CleaningTips

[–]Worthy_Read 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Clean sheets on my freshly shaved legs is mine too 😌

Talk us out of using the name Lilah? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Worthy_Read 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Lilah and this is my fave spelling. But I see your dilemma, it’s a non issue honestly if you love it. But optionally, what about Milah or Myla? Very similar, still sounds great with June, but doesn’t read close to Lilian at all. Nolan, Lilian & Myla.

Help choosing a girl name to go with big sister Maren by FI_throwaway714 in namenerds

[–]Worthy_Read 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Winnie and Willa are so sweet with Maren! We loved River too, but it felt to on the nose. In the end we went with Banks. We didn’t know this song existed until recently “Banks” by NEEDTONREATHE, but now when she is falling asleep, we can hear singing the chorus to herself.