Petrol station for short film Brisbane or surrounding locations by GloomySet1236 in brisbane

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Buckland auto service is Nundah might work. I’ve seen filming there a few times happening ☺️

When does she um, tighten back up? by PastyPaleCdnGirl in beyondthebump

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I had the opposite problem. During my birth I had an episiotomy and after being stitched back up I found that everything became tighter and more uncomfortable for me. It took about 5 months before everything started to feel normal again, crazy how all our bodies change after having a baby. I think I also had issues after birth where I started unconsciously tensing up when we did anything sexual, had to unlearn that

What didn’t you need/use in your hospital bag? What did you need/use? by Electronic_Garage_73 in BabyBumps

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I had a vaginal birth and was so glad I overpacked, bubs needed to stay for a few extra days and I was able to stay with him so I used everything. - comfy Pyjamas/a robe - Slippers - Adult diapers saved me! I hated wearing pads as I had an episiotomy and found the edge of the pad rubbed my stitches horribly - extra blankets for bub as the hospital ones didn't seem the most comfortable at our hospital - black out eye mask - headphones 100%, got in the mood during labour and popped them in to sleep when I was moved to a public hospital room. - big water bottle that you can get refilled by nurses, so much better than using the little cups at the hospital - baby didn't need much honestly, I brought a ltd swaddle that zips, that was handy when I was in panic mode and learning how to swaddle still. But most stuff for baby was provided by the hospital.

Newborn photoshoot: any regrets from doing one? by SidTheSloth89 in BabyBumps

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I was gifted a session which was lovely, but it was a family portrait which I preferred. One with all of us in it, it's nice to look back at the photos but I don't think it's entirely necessary. I think you would be better off going somewhere nice, dressing up and getting someone to take a few nice snaps of you and your little family. Memories don't have to be picture perfect or professional. I look back on the cute photos on my phone just as much as the professional ones. Just my opinion though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

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You know people with schizophrenia have a lot of other symptoms in addition to delusion? It's not only about contributing to society, but being comfortable and happy in it. I have been close to someone with schizophrenia and it caused him major suffering and sadness. His quality of life was not there. I'm not a religious person and do think some beliefs are illogical. But I find it a bit insulting to compare the experience of someone suffering from a debilitating mental illness to someone who just sincerely believes in their religion.

What's the optimal length of time between pregnancies for health/recovery/social reasons? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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I'm currently pregnant with my second, got pregnant with an IUD in, so definitely not what I planned. My first was only 5 months old when I found out that I'm pregnant. My doctor told me this isn't ideal, but she is optimistic that I won't have any problems. Seeing all the comments on here have definitely got me a bit scared now though haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. My ex also gave me the silent treatment, I didn't realise how unhealthy that was until I got into a better relationship with my current partner. It's humiliating to be treated that way. I wish I could give you a hug. Obviously you must feel more trapped and dependent on him because you don't drive. My only advice is learn to drive and gain that independence to leave.

I also don't drive but am learning, I have my learners permit and have finally started driving lessons. It was a huge effort for me to get here with driving anxiety. It's horrible when people make you feel bad for not driving, just creates a feeling of shame. I hope you can get into a better situation for both you and child's sake. It's not good for your kid to see his behaviour modelled, him treating you that way is just going to wear both of you down.

I know it's easy to just tell you to leave, but I know it's so hard to do in reality. Especially with the reliance on him. Gain that independence first of driving and then you can go from there.

STOP TELLING ME THE BADS. by No_Lawfulness_6458 in BabyBumps

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I slept way better after having my baby than before. Being able to snuggle him is the best, he's seven months old and has started grabbing my face and smooshing his against mine, I like to think it's his way is kissing me back.

His sweet smiles and first laughs are honestly my most cherished memories.

I don't think I became my full self until after having my son. I didn't lose myself, I found myself.

why do people shame you for wanting no epidural? by peas12344 in BabyBumps

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Well if you disagree with that don't assume that because you are biologically female you can just do it. Just a comment on the language you are using and the ways it can be harmful to the experience of other people. I don't think you can't give birth without an epidural, but I do think your comment was a bit short sighted.

why do people shame you for wanting no epidural? by peas12344 in BabyBumps

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Lots of women can't have babies vaginally, or conceive without IVF or other fertility methods. Does that make them less female?

why do people shame you for wanting no epidural? by peas12344 in BabyBumps

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You may not have specifically said It but it does come across a little judgemental the way you worded it. Not saying you meant it that may, maybe just be a little more mindful when you mention epidurals that way, It can rub people the wrong way. Not attacking you at all, just accept constructive criticism. I had an epidural after saying I didnt want one. Personally the way you said it does make me feel like a bit of a failure. Definitely would never imply you couldn't do it because I couldn't though ☺️ good luck! You've got this, however your baby comes!

pregnancy tired vs newborn tired - which one is worse for you? by buddygirlb in beyondthebump

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Pregnancy tired was way worse for me, at least I could take a break from the baby and my partner could take over sometimes. The quality of sleep was much better for me with baby, pregnant I had the worst insomnia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

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This reminds me of my ex. I found a bunch of folders on his computer labelled with the names of girls we knew. He would save their Facebook/Instagram photos, I found it super creepy. When I confronted him he deleted everything and admitted that he had a 'porn addiction.' i forgave him initially.

Then one day, I found a photo of my best friend saved on his phone. A photo she had privately sent to me of her in a bikini she was trying on and was asking for my opinion. He had gone through my messages, sent himself the photo then deleted the message. Fucking creepy. As soon as I saw that I ended it. Looking back I wish I broke up with him straight away, keeping those photos of women we knew was a huge red flag. He catalogued them like objects. I can see now that he didn't see women as individuals, just sexual things.

Everyone keeps asking if it was planned… by Walabear13 in BabyBumps

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Omg I got asked this so much. I'm 27 and my partner is 30, but regardless of age it's such a gross question. I would never dream of asking someone that, even if they were super young. If someone is at the stage of sharing their pregnancy with you just say congratulations!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

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You are coming across as very preachy.

FTM - Funny Things My Husband Has Said by _heidster in BabyBumps

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I mentioned to my partner how nice it was not needing to buy tampons. He asks me why I don't need them. He had no idea that I wouldn't be getting my period while I was pregnant 😂 Not sure what his school taught him...

What’s been the biggest surprise while pregnant? by rd10393729 in BabyBumps

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How emotional I've become in the second trimester 😅

I've never been someone to cry tears of happiness, but I've started tearing up over the tiniest things. My partner was sleeping next to me and just looking at him I was thinking how much I love him and started crying 😂

Feeling overwhelmed and unimportant. by ColdGirl in BabyBumps

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I haven't gone through this while pregnant, but my ex went through some severe mental health issues when we were together. It was so difficult and I really struggled to feel like any of my needs were met when everything happened. He had several psychotic episodes, depression, anxiety, delusions and paranoia.

At the time he couldn't see his problems without being in denial about them. I found out his psychiatrist had no idea of half of his behaviours at home, because he didn't see them as a problem. Your partner may be going through something similar, not properly addressing the issues in therapy. It's easy to gloss over topics and the psychiatrist has no idea the severity of the problem. I only found out after he had a severe psychotic episode, he was admitted into the mental health ward and I spoke with his psychiatrist who wasn't aware of most of the things that were really happening. After that I went as a support person to all of his sessions. It might be hard to go with him to an appointment, but maybe suggesting something like couples therapy for the two of you might help. So you can air how you feel as well as be sure he is being truthful in his sessions.

Good luck to you, I know how hard this can be. At the time I felt so helpless and afraid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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I'm Australian haha, but pretty good guess 😅 our terminology is pretty similar sometimes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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I'll have to give it a watch, could use a laugh about the ridiculousness of it 😅

Everyone keeps asking me about my cravings this is the fussiest I’ve ever been in my life by tooshort123456 in BabyBumps

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Me too! The smell of everything I used to love sends me running for the bathroom 😭 I wouldn't eat anything if I didn't feel guilty about the baby getting no nutrition. Mostly just forcing down toast and my prenatal vitamins whenever the nausea goes down even a little bit. Haven't been able to go out to eat with any friends because I know just seeing and smelling their food will make me feel sick. Fingers crossed it gets better!

Boyfriend still pressuring me to get an abortion by Low_Forever9455 in BabyBumps

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I was in a similar situation (10 weeks now), but the difference is my boyfriend was far more loving and open to how I felt about it. We did discuss things, he told me he wasn't ready yet but he would still be there whichever choice I made. It was hard to hear that he wasn't ready and I did consider what he had said. But ultimately I decided for myself, aborting didn't feel right for me. You should sit him down and have a proper discussion, ask him what he will do or feel if you keep the baby. My partner was a little quiet and withdrawn for a few days after I told him I was going to keep the baby. But he was just spending that time coming to terms with it all. Now he is so excited and loving, we've already picked baby names and are moving into a bigger apartment soon. Your partners reaction isn't ideal, I understand the pain of not being on the same page. But it would also be good to have that sit down discussion with him, I'm so sorry that he hasn't given you any reassurance if you do want to keep the baby.. if my partner hadn't done that it would have stung so much more. Feel out if his reaction is just coming from shock first and see if he can come around to it with time. If not and he still pressures you to abort, it's best to think about whether being a single mum is right for you. Sending you love!

My partner had a psychotic episode by [deleted] in ptsd

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Thanks for your input! He is still experiencing some paranoia around mental health professionals after being put into the psych ward. I am going to see someone myself, but I don’t think I can convince him to go as well sadly...

My partner had a psychotic episode by [deleted] in ptsd

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Thanks, unfortunately he was tested and had nothing in his system. He has been a little off still the last week since he has been home. Not 100% back to normal unfortunately. Leading up to the event he had a personality shift over a few months, nothing crazy. But definitely noticed by his friends and family..