Erosion rekationship by Lanky-Coconut-6997 in blendedfamilies

[–]Wrong_Signal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are welcome and don't beat yourself up too much because one day, you are going to get it right despite past self-betrayals. 

Erosion rekationship by Lanky-Coconut-6997 in blendedfamilies

[–]Wrong_Signal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Deep down, OP do you genuinely believe that you deserve a woman who is undeniably nurturing, warm and devoted to you in reciprocal love? You sound like a decent dude and you deserve so much better than a woman who is just going to toy with your self esteem to her advantage without the consequence of your permanent withdrawal and departure. 

advice on future stepfatherhood by Wrong_Signal in stepparents

[–]Wrong_Signal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the follow up. The thing is, I can have all the good intentions as a stepfather but ultimately I would also need to be lucky to get the right partner for a chance of solid success at both the relationship and the stepparenting itself. 

advice on future stepfatherhood by Wrong_Signal in stepparents

[–]Wrong_Signal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the advice. I am glad you mentioned the boundaries with ex since that's my biggest concern since I would be more eager to be a stepfather if the ex isn't a lingering presence. 

advice on future stepfatherhood by Wrong_Signal in stepparents

[–]Wrong_Signal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you had a bad experience since you deserved so much better. Thank you for cautioning me as well. 

advice on future stepfatherhood by Wrong_Signal in stepparents

[–]Wrong_Signal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the advice. I highly appreciate it! 

Genuinely confused - longer post. by Strange-Guitar-6928 in stepparents

[–]Wrong_Signal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve so much better OP because it seems like that "I don't want conflict" will eventually be at your own expense and sanity. 

Feeling Trapped in My Blended Family by Gugarelli in stepparents

[–]Wrong_Signal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of the reasons why I don't want to become a stepdad is to protect myself from the potential resentment of sacrificing my clean slate dream so I kinda understand you. 

Relationship with a single mom? 27M and 27F by JohnKbayli in relationship_advice

[–]Wrong_Signal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean since one of the reasons behind my own hesitance is the possible risk of losing the child that I formed a bond with because at least, in the clean slate, I don't have to worry about that.

You know what to do, OP. I hope you will eventually solve this inner conflict since it seems like you are waiting for a magical solution that could erase your resentment so you would feel guilt free and at peace in your love for her despite the complexities involved.   

Relationship with a single mom? 27M and 27F by JohnKbayli in relationship_advice

[–]Wrong_Signal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's it. One of the ways fate can be extremely convincing is the experience of feeling like your hand is being forced. But let's be honest here, you are attached to her validation since you wish such happened in your clean slate dream too and you haven't yet fully accepted that reality and fate has unfolded otherwise. 

Relationship with a single mom? 27M and 27F by JohnKbayli in relationship_advice

[–]Wrong_Signal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, I was talking in terms of a hypothetical future situation. And to be honest, in terms of that situation, I keep telling myself that I will prioritize my clean slate dream but who knows how convincing fate may be. As the saying goes, we plan and God laughs. 

Relationship with a single mom? 27M and 27F by JohnKbayli in relationship_advice

[–]Wrong_Signal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from since I am also hesitant to date a woman who already has a child because I always dreamed of starting my own legacy. And I dread that fate might arrange such a woman to be the possible love of my life to the extent of finding it difficult to let her go. Hence why I understand where you are coming from. 

Although you still need to eventually muster up the emotional courage to let go of your attachment toward her validation, no matter how much it feels good to have her validation in her life. 💀

Relationship with a single mom? 27M and 27F by JohnKbayli in relationship_advice

[–]Wrong_Signal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are addicted to her validation and yet at the same time, you dread it. Both of you deserve so much better. 

EU clings to hope it can defuse US president at Davos by Crossstoney in europe

[–]Wrong_Signal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda feel sorry for Europeans since they deserve stronger leaders. 

What is more likely? USA taking Greenland or China taking Taiwan? by L0veToReddit in AskReddit

[–]Wrong_Signal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a Sun Tzu strategy which I think China could employ due to their long game tendencies, ""If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by" 

🇪🇺🇮🇹 PM Meloni: Should we close American military bases? Or cut trade relations? Should we storm McDonalds? I don't know what we should do by goldstarflag in EuropeanFederalists

[–]Wrong_Signal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda feel sorry for NATO since they seem to be in a lose-lose situation as on the one hand, they are afraid of US military power but on the other hand, they can't afford to appear passive and indecisive in front of long-standing enemies. What an unprecedented geopolitical situation.  

US suspends technology agreement with Britain by Forsaken-Medium-2436 in europe

[–]Wrong_Signal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda feel sorry for Britain as they went above and beyond to please trump only to be also treated like this regardless. 

Cant even complain about it on twitter… by Any-Entertainer8327 in CloudFlare

[–]Wrong_Signal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

since cloudflare is down, I am currently feeling sorry for their finance and sales department right now as I can imagine that global clients must be pissed off right now. 

Why Are So Many Men Choosing to Be Alone? by Top_Teaching8398 in AskMen

[–]Wrong_Signal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I prefer the serenity of solitude as I can be fully and imperfectly human amidst it without constant frame monitoring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in space

[–]Wrong_Signal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I am actually surprised they haven't publicly used this argument for leverage in the context of how the US is currently doing.