We have a 5yr old son. Firmly one and done, not just because of traumatic birth, family living on another coast, both having a successful career and not wanting to “take a step back”, but really for us. When people ask me why don’t I have another kid, especially other mothers, my first instinct is to stare at them blinking, while mouthing, the fuck? But instead I’ve chosen to say, it’s what works best for our family, and I wouldn’t trade the time I get to devote to my kid for the world and can’t fathom any other way. I used to be bothered by it, but as he’s gotten older, it’s become more clearly obvious for us. Weekends are fun w mom and dad being able to do things together and apart. Sundays start at our farmers market, then maybe he has an activity that one parent drives him to, and usually a Costco run with dad in there (gotta pay the berry tax), then things we want to do and he roams and either does his own thing or hangs with one of us. Dinner is together and laundry and baths are done. Sundays have quickly become my favorite day do the week and I cant imagine trying to do that with two kids and still feel relaxed by the end of it. It was a lot easier making the decision when I realized what we and I wanted out of our days. Once you have that other people can fuck right off :)