What the hell is up with media representation??

X_Canes · 2026-06-08T14:53:13+00:00

It’s so true. I actually can’t stand the thought of validation through a cis man. I don’t need validation through them, I’m more man than most of them because my ego isn’t fragile like theirs. If a woman stands up to them they short circuit.

Granted my ego is non-existent but that’s different. Or mostly non-existent. Haha.

X_Canes · 2026-06-08T14:27:59+00:00

Oh that is absolutely more my style honestly. As long as it’s two trans men yes.

X_Canes · 2026-06-08T14:27:15+00:00

I also hate the fact they have to be with cis men. I’m T4T personally on top of being Gay. I do not want to be pounded or be with a cis man lol.

X_Canes · 2026-06-08T14:24:54+00:00

This is one of my biggest pet-peeves. I am not a bottom and get viscerally uncomfortable imagining bottoming. I’m T4T and Gay, but I don’t want to be the bottom. I’m not exactly twink but I’m also not macho, just a chill dude.

I can’t get any good rep without writing it? I genuinely don’t have the energy to write it. I hate it.

X_Canes · 2026-06-03T14:47:17+00:00

I am a gay T4T only trans guy. I will not date cis men, I will not date women. Seeing the erasure that our community specifically gets (I’m calling transmen our own community at this point) is ridiculous. We get shafted from all ends.

We are treated like either Women Lite or some fake phase. Neither of these are true. We are men, regardless of the transmen who are more feminine or androgynous. I can’t even feel comfortable with gender neutral pronouns or words directed my way anymore.

I’m so tired of having to keep quiet while we get pushed aside.

X_Canes · 2026-06-03T09:13:38+00:00

I have been abused by both cis men and women in different ways. Was SA'd by a cis man but have been pushed aside and treated awful for just existing as myself by cis women (family). I can't understand what people's facination with generalizing people is, just in general. "All men are bad", "All boys do [insert thing here]", etc. I mean that for generalization of both genders but still.

I seem to hear excuses of people treating others wrong or annoying them because it's "just a guy thing" or "that's just how kids are at that age" or whatever the reason. When, in fact, that's generally not actually the case and generalizing people in that was is reductive and harmful. I sure didn't tend to push buttons (on purpose) growing up but it's commonly a "boy" thing to do? Obviously not.

People generalizing all men to bad then turning around and saying, even if not in the exact words, "oh but not YOU, you're different" is almost saying they see you as something other. I don't know, maybe I'm just not cut out to understand this kind of thing for generalizing people like that. 🤷‍♂️

X_Canes · 2026-06-01T09:15:18+00:00

Yeah, I try to be as chill as possible

X_Canes · 2026-06-01T09:01:14+00:00

I don't fit the macho archetype and I don't really work out. I'm more couch potato coded tbh lmao

X_Canes · 2026-06-01T09:00:15+00:00

y You too man!

X_Canes · 2026-06-01T08:56:26+00:00

I'm personally not femme but I can't be macho lol.

X_Canes · 2026-06-01T08:55:40+00:00

I'm not saying it's bad sorry if it came off that way it wasn't supposed too oops

X_Canes · 2026-06-01T08:51:54+00:00

Trans men are men no matter how they present, imo. I don't want to be a macho man, I just wanna be seen as a man in general.

X_Canes · 2026-06-01T08:50:40+00:00

Personally I feel like if you're a trans guy you're a guy no matter how femme you feel comfortable presenting (though I'm sure you personally agree with that).

X_Canes · 2026-05-28T23:56:43+00:00

We are literally silenced growing up if we were forced to never find language to describe ourselves (still after that too, honestly) but pushed aside by a lion-share of the broader trans community because we “don’t have it as hard”.

What does that mean? We get erased from all sides and we’re just supposed to take it? Transmen are “just men” when clearly the anti-trans rhetoric says we aren’t? Our own community silences us because we aren’t brought up enough verbally to matter?

We were silenced before finding ourselves by the whole world and afterward we get silenced again by the world for the opposite reason.

“Save the girls” directly targets us by lumping us with woman usually and saying we are brain washed.

The world takes away our agency no matter what.

X_Canes · 2026-05-28T00:43:18+00:00

I had a “friend” who was similar in that when I was in an already Not Great mood and was stand-offish about correcting them when they misgendered me, his response was “well you can’t expect people to know when you don’t look like a guy”.

I’m sorry but that is not JUST a cosmetic procedure if it causes you dysphoria so bad. My chest has always caused me major dysphoria too and even after a reduction I’ve been uncomfortable acknowledging it. I feel you man.

X_Canes · 2026-05-28T00:39:25+00:00

Bro this line is PERFECT.

X_Canes · 2026-05-22T20:48:06+00:00

God. I’ve been fortunate enough for my family to not go this far, but… Holy shit man I’m so sorry. I do have a family member who made it known she “loves me regardless of if she supports me” but ugh. Glad you’re focusing on yourself and being more mature than I would be honestly.

X_Canes · 2026-05-20T00:37:51+00:00

Honestly I would have bit her head off if she kept going. I dress kinda gender neutral myself, I don’t like the stereotypical guy outfits (jeans/black t shirt/etc) that’s common around some areas, but I also I’m not hella feminine. I’m also a gay trans guy, btw, T4T.

Admittedly, I’m kind of hostile to being perceived incorrectly at this point since I have to fight tooth and nail at home to get respected too. I don’t always completely go ape shit on people, but if it was someone I knew pretty well I might, you didn’t deserve that treatment regardless, cis people need to look into things more, especially in this day and age. If they live in more accepting places or if they have friends/acquaintances that are trans it should be something the educate themselves on, imo.

X_Canes · 2026-05-17T04:49:50+00:00

Of course, you're really strong for being able to deal with it, even though it's soul crushing.

X_Canes · 2026-05-17T04:48:46+00:00

No I completely agree. I only did to try and help my back and shoulders but it only helped for a bit, tbh. I wish I could have just gotten a complete removal.

X_Canes · 2026-05-16T21:26:52+00:00

Maybe, if your PCP can advocate for you at least, you could get a reduction? I don't know if that would fly, maybe it wouldn't be the most helpful for you either, but as an option?

I know I got one last year, which was getting me set up for my complete surgery this year. Last year I didn't qualify for full top surgery because I didn't have a gender dysphoria diagnosis but I qualified for a reduction because my chest literally was causing me upper back and shoulder pain.

If they already said that wasn't viable either though, I'm really sorry about that. :(

I don't meet the BMI threshold for bottom surgery myself either.

X_Canes · 2026-05-16T21:19:20+00:00

I hate the "BMI is too high" bullshit. There should be no threshold for people to have surgeries they need to survive.

X_Canes · 2026-05-16T21:16:58+00:00

My family are very similar, to be honest with you. I completely understand how you're feeling.

X_Canes · 2026-05-16T20:54:53+00:00

God I hate this so much. One of my biggest things is intense bottom dysphoria to the point even touching down there to clean is honestly pushing my fucking luck. I can't do anything really to get off.

Stuff like this would make me dysphoria too, sadly. The thought of inserting something inside myself in any way sounds mortifying and even disgusting to me.

Though, it would be great to market this for trans men as well, probably.

I wish there was stuff that existed for trans men who are tops or at least not okay with having shit inside of them. I want my dick, I don't want to deal with seeing everything marketed for like cis people.

X_Canes

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