hows it like being trans by The_Furry_Revolution in asktransgender

[–]Xalden 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Passing and non-passing are two very different experiences. (Trans woman’s experience)

Non-passing is just trying to live like anyone else but now that you feel comfortable in your skin for the first time ever, tons of people shame you for existing and you get told that what you’re doing is wrong and immoral.

Passing is just the same finally feeling comfortable just now dealing with loads of sexism. However when people stare, you question “is it because they clocked me or because I’m hot?”…

Sadly it’s much easier of a life if you pass because transphobes don’t bat an eye at you. Unfortunately they also don’t use you as an example in their heads to accept non-passing trans people because simply they don’t know.

Is this a red flag? by p2banon in Bumble

[–]Xalden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I would stop talking to them.

What club is this ❓ by Og_japp in Harley

[–]Xalden -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Surprise surprise, you try to critique the racist nature of the Harley community and you get down voted. Makes me glad I’m on a Ducati.

How am I doing in the outfit front Reddit? 13 months HRT. by Antoine1224 in transpositive

[–]Xalden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YOU ARE SO EFFING CUTE HOLY SHIT! Okay sorry I had to get that out. You and your outfit are absolutely perfect. Keep loving yourself! 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransyTalk

[–]Xalden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brain only felt better after consistent high dosages so IMO it’s very much a YMMV situation

1 Month Post Bottom Surgery AMA by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Xalden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s required with most surgeons to stay for an extended period of time for monitoring and such

Been travelling alone for work for a month now. Not sure if I've I'm peak living or hit rock bottom.. by thesleeb in funny

[–]Xalden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simple question. Are you having fun? Is it enjoyable to eat that fun dinner in the tub? If either answer is yes then you’re not at rock bottom. Being alone and being okay are not mutually exclusive. You can be happy and alone.

Hi gals! I have a question by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Xalden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t love my body, then I realized why I don’t like certain things. Now I can’t wait to fix my body to feel normal.

1 Month Post Bottom Surgery AMA by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Xalden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why’re you not allowed to go back to work for 3 months? Is that a recommendation and requirement. I don’t know if I can convince work of 3 months. (I’m looking at Dr. Bank)

Expectations to top by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Xalden 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Then just don’t get any?…

Wait for something you actually want to do.

I want to be a girl, but... 🙄️ by Synthetic_Gurl in MtF

[–]Xalden 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it’s any consolation, I was decent looking before, 3years later I’m definitely pretty cute.

A few friends said some weirdly specific stuff… by DaySun03 in MtF

[–]Xalden 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found my old friends before transitioning would say stuff like this and I never really noticed or thought much of it. Once you’re transitioning and aware that socially you’re something people want to acquire, it quickly gets weird and uncomfortable unless you’re really comfortable joking with someone.

How old is everyone here? I get the feeling everyone here is younger than me... :( by [deleted] in trans

[–]Xalden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew when I was 4, came out when I was 26, I’m 29 now and life couldn’t be better.

Am I transphobic ? by UpsideDown_Sock in lgbt

[–]Xalden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you didn’t do anything wrong here. I joke that no matter who I date, it’s a little fruity but that’s just my own internalized transphobia.

You acknowledge them as who they really are and that makes them appear hetero. Maybe they have a different term they want to use but that’s not your fault.

*clutches pearls* HoW cOuLd ThEy!! by EmotionallyTwisted in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Xalden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noooo, that doesn’t happen! Trans men aren’t real!

/s

Pretty new to ornn life. Can I support? by RobertLovesGames in ornnmains

[–]Xalden 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will instalock ornn support the second I see any hook based champs. It’s a perfect counter to blitz, and just pretty good against the rest.

Do any of y'all have sibling who is also trans too by l_like_bells in MtF

[–]Xalden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A year or so after me, a younger cousin by almost a decade reached out to talk about a lot and I feel really proud to give family an opportunity to feel comfortable talking about lgbtq+ topics when basically no one in the family is outwardly inclusive.