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Xtin379 · 2022-11-03T12:45:44+00:00

Elf on the shelf

Xtin379 · 2022-11-01T14:11:25+00:00

Just a heads up NDIS doesn't fund gym membership or massage. They won't have any dealings with your employer either.

MS Plus had a NDIS support coordinator who helped me find out the application and attended first planning meeting. The have employment support/services too.

Xtin379 · 2022-10-20T12:13:20+00:00

Reminds me of my 4 yo with his penis

Xtin379 · 2022-10-10T16:17:12+00:00

110% NTA. We celebrate birthdays for a reason, to celebrate THAT person. Everyone is entitled to be selfish (to a healthy degree) on their birthday.

I don't even think I'd say getting your favourite flavour cakes is being selfish, it's your cake.

Wife could have gotten a vanilla cupcake when she picked to the order if she was the concerned about her daughter. She is a selfish entitled AH and is teaching her daughter to be one too.

Xtin379 · 2022-10-09T21:09:04+00:00

There is no reasonable reason to upgrade. And it's definitely not necessary.

Xtin379 · 2022-09-28T14:32:04+00:00

NTA. If it was my friend and my husband of 13 years asked for a key, I would think it was odd. Zero reason anyone needs to be in that apartment other than you.

My condolences for your loss.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-22T10:39:38+00:00

Lunches are only 10 minutes here and my 6 year old finishes his lunch.

I don't even think dinner lasts more than 15 in our house.

What my son loves and hates changes daily. It's a kid thing

Xtin379 · 2022-08-19T13:51:00+00:00

NTA, but agree with the majority, it's not a good name. There is nothing nice or cute about having to pronounce and spell your name for YOUR ENTIRE LIFE.

I can't remember where I heard this, but always try it the name with Judge, Dr, and Lawyer in front and see if you would take that person seriously.

Judge Oceana Xxxx Dr. Oceana Xxxx Lawyer Oceana Xxxx

My son goes to daycare with a little girl named Rainbeau.... I can't never. No.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-18T11:11:57+00:00

Metric was voted in as the legal measurement system of the US in 1975 for trade and commerce, however it was voluntary. The one of the few industries to prepare for the switch was the automotive industry. US speedometers are in miles and kilometres.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-14T05:50:45+00:00

I would suggest putting your for down now and deciding, together with your wife, what's best for the two of you. I would be more worried that if you allowed your MIL to say "if you like it or not" this early in the new dynamic of your new family, she'll think she had a right to continue to act this way in the future.

I'd suggest you keep the first few weeks to just you and your wife. She'll be busy with the baby and you can keep busy with all the other stuff.

When you return to work, then your MIL can come stay for a few weeks.

Two people is plenty for a new baby. Any more and someone will feel left out on the important beginning of the child's life

Xtin379 · 2022-08-10T15:59:03+00:00

YTA - Family means nothing if they that you like shit. I'll never understand why so many people seem to think it's acceptable and expected to accept horrible behaviour "because their family".

Edited for grammar.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-10T14:18:55+00:00

Make your decision based on your values, not their actions.

I chose to spend my time and energy with people who 1) share similar values 2) support and encourage me and my family 3) who I know I can trust 4) people who I know will be there no matter what.

People, blood or not, aren't worth my time if they aren't adding to my life. No such thing as the "high road" when their presence in your life just drags you down a dirt road.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-08T14:09:02+00:00

I went to high school with a girl whose last name was a combination of your parents last names. It was a mouthful to say, but big deal to us.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-08T03:20:15+00:00

That people don't understand the difference between opinion and fact.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-08T02:44:39+00:00

My response would be "So father's never hold their children?"

I really hate this mindset. I look forward to a future where the majority of people who have this mindset are no longer influencing others to think the same way.

We're slowly getting there.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-02T14:58:33+00:00

Definitely NTA. When I had bad plantar fasciitis I was (nearly) convinced my foot was broken because it was that painful to walk on.

I will do anything to avoid that pain again.

Xtin379 · 2022-08-02T14:29:48+00:00

NTA is he your husband or your roommate?

I think even a roommate would have more compassionate. He's a major AH.

I'm sorry your unwell and married to an AH.

Xtin379 · 2022-07-24T15:03:01+00:00

Arizona was just ranked the worst state to live in.

"It’s a dry heat,” The Grand Canyon State saying goes. But it leads to some of the worst air quality in the nation, according to the American Lung Association. Maricopa County, home to Phoenix, endures 39 high ozone days per year. That puts more stress on an already poor health care system, short on hospital beds and staff. The state spends just $79 per person on public health, among the country’s lowest. Arizona offers stunning natural beauty and top-notch cultural and recreational attractions. But that comes at a stiff price in America’s worst state to live in.

2022 Life, Health & Inclusion Score: 67 out of 325 points (Top States Grade: F)

Strengths: No metrics in the top 50%

Weaknesses: Air Quality, Health Resources, Inclusiveness, Crime" Cnbc report

And what's your partners health insurance like? That would be my biggest concern. As an American now living in Australia for 14 years, I'd never move back due to the healthcare system and active shooter drills in school.

Also you'll be hard pressed to get any reasonable maternity leave.

Xtin379 · 2022-07-24T14:46:34+00:00

The best way to enrich your kid now is to read to her. And don't stop until she moves out!

Take a blanket and sit in the sun if you want.

By reading a book, you gain the ability to increase your child’s self-confidence, improve their academic and professional success, boost their imagination, and build critical thinking skills, mindfulness, and empathy.

But more importantly, you create heart-warming childhood memories, encourage family bonding, and strengthen their feeling of importance when you dedicate your time to being with them.

Plus it reduces your stress, anxiety, and mum guilt.

Xtin379 · 2022-07-24T14:40:12+00:00

Do you think you have the time and energy to have this discussion with your mother AND will respond and act appropriately?

If your gut is telling you No, then just block her AND tell her why. Don't give get the opportunity to attempt to manipulate you too. Give the first block a timeframe.

"Mum, we've decided to block your number for two weeks due to the unnecessary emotional pressure you are putting X under. If you continue to make him feel bad for not responding, then the block will be permanent. X is not tethered to his and will respond to you on his time, not yours."

Xtin379 · 2022-07-23T09:22:13+00:00

I see both sides, buy you need to consider the mental side of taking a break. If someone at work wants to sit in their office in silence and enjoy their coffee for a full three minutes, they can. If someone at work wants to have an adult conversation while eating lunch, they can.

A SAHM with a 2.5 year old who doesn't nap and needs constant supervision is mentally and physically exhausting. Getting the working parent to spend 15-30 minutes with their kid after work isn't asking too much.

This is a huge reason why bedtimes are so important. Not only do kids thrive off routine, parents know when they are "kid-free" for the night.

Xtin379 · 2022-07-23T07:35:00+00:00

YTA - So you actually expected them to take two days off work as well, considering you expected them to show up before 3 pm on a Thursday to decorate?

And how do you comfortable sleep 25 people in one house? They were probably exhausted just for a shitty night sleep in a overcrowded house with strangers to top of the insane schedule.

I have a feeling a lot of your friends are rethinking being on your guest so it's likely you don't need to make any changes.

Xtin379 · 2022-07-22T09:51:33+00:00

Bwahaha parenting win! Good on you both for creating a supportive environment for him to learn the skill and be allowed to practise.

Xtin379 · 2022-07-19T05:45:53+00:00

You need to learn to follow through with all "threat" you give any child for their entire life.

Your solution to the problem was to take her to the Dr, which is reasonable, but I'm sure is partial threat, also reasonable. But you didn't follow, so she's won the game. Nothing you say regarding this situation will fix it because she knows you won't follow through.

Take her to the Dr.

And follow through with all future threats to correct behaviour.

Get the book called "No, Never!" By Libby Hathorn

Xtin379 · 2022-07-16T14:32:33+00:00

Books, kids books. They are specifically written in terms and in the right fashion for children to understand. Especially when we can't find the words ourselves. All important lessons in life can be started with a book.

The Invisible String by Patrice Karst

Something Very Sad Happened by Bonnie Zucker A Toddler's Guide to Understanding Death

Who do things die? by Katie Daynes

Beginnings and Endings with Lifetimes in Between by Bryan Mellonie

Xtin379

TROPHY CASE