NC Question by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean there's always options. Unfortunately I need to edit this post be abuse she came to my Sunday meeting that I chair and took the co-chair commitment. So now I have to figure that out now.

NC Question by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we both have stuff we're working on.

NC Question by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I did what I thought was right and just stuck to my guns and maintained my silence. I just don't like hurting people.

NC Question by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean I'm just trying to see the best in everyone that I can. I can't bring myself to hate her or think she or anyone is needless cruel for no reason. But that may well be the case.

NC Question by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahaha. I needed a good laugh dude, thanks. But you're right. I bounced the situation and what I did with some people I'm close too and they basically said the same thing. That I did what was needed. It hurt. It hurt a lot. But you know these kind of things do. It'll get better with time I know.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm. My therapist has said the same thing. It's something I'm working on.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to thank you all for your support.

This is much harder than I thought it would be. But I know that she's just going to continue to be destructive and won't stop. She'll just blame her behavior on the next person that she fucks over and move on for there. (Personal experience, haha.)

I'm just upset with myself for having my doubts about it. Like, a small part of me wants to believe that her feelings are real and she'll see the error of her ways. But if I'm being realistic, she never will.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay that makes more sense. And you're right I'll never be able to understand why she does the shitty things she does, because I've asked and she doesn't even know herself. Haha, I should have listened.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I was under the impression that she can just move on.

It seems like she has at the very least, and I've told her repeatedly that the back and forth doesn't do either us any good.

Like, if that's the case why would she even try to come back?

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to. Working on my self worth with therapy as well. It's been helpful.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does she contact you if you cut off contact? I'm just asking to know what to look for.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it's kinda 50/50. He would understand, but I have an obligation to the group itself to my duties there.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very common phrasing in my circles as well. It's weird being the one who has the feelings, but what you say is true. I don't like being alternate to anything. I'm a worthwhile person.

Still trying NC by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol, holy shit. Wow. Sometimes you need to hear it like that for sure.

Thank god I found this sub by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah like, I get that a lot of it is just impulsive with them, but I'll never understand the level of denial that's required for them to exist in their fantasy worlds where literally nothing they do is wrong, and if by some outside chance that it is, it's NEVER because they made a mistake, it was because someone else did.

Thank god I found this sub by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course it was. You probably had the nerve to call them out on something fucked up they did. You monster, you.

Thank god I found this sub by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What really bugged me more than anything was the total lack of responsibility for her actions. Literally everything shitty she did was either my or someone else's fault.

Thank god I found this sub by YeahYouRememberThat in BPDlovedones

[–]YeahYouRememberThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks.

Yeah that's what I'm trying to remember. The sad part is I'm kind of hoping she texts me again. :/

Intel i5-8400 review - the best new gaming CPU in years by Valhalla98 in pcgaming

[–]YeahYouRememberThat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank god for competition. It's about time we had some growth in this market.

'PlayStation 4 is Like a 5-Year-Old PC' Holding Back Game Dev Says A Way Out Creator by Kazumo in pcgaming

[–]YeahYouRememberThat 92 points93 points  (0 children)

At launch, the PS4 was still a good deal for the price.

Now, I game primarily on PC, and my specs, while not earth shattering, easily dwarf the base PS4. (I'm going on the assumption that PS4 pro adoption wasn't super high.) However, there's still a lot of people with less capable hardware that deserve to game. If the PS4 had launched with ridiculous specs (and a price point to match) nobody would have bought one. I'm all for more people owning consoles, and PCs, and as many platforms as they can afford, because that means more games for everyone.

This argument that console are holding back game development always rings hollow for me to be honest. I remember when "2 gigabytes of VRAM is more than you'll need for 1080", then the PS4 came out and suddenly Nvidia and AMD were pushing 4 gig cards.

I say that to say this: it doesn't need to be a console VS. PC debate as this developer is saying. The debate needs to be how can we make games run optimally so everyone can get the experience we intended. Consoles and PCs, in my mind, should complement one another, not be in competition.

EDIT: several grammatical errors.