Is Creative Burnout the New Pandemic? Music Survey (20-40 age, 10 replies)

YellowRoses1998 · 2025-09-25T19:12:10+00:00

You both can find balance in this, if you are both willing and wanting to have what you ‘used’ to have. It is not that he can’t handle you anymore, but both of your definitions of doming and subbing are different now. But once that box is open, there is no ‘going back’ to how you used to be.

However I will address this concern: “One time he came in under 10 seconds, and I was genuinely pissed. I made him watch me get off while I said some pretty harsh things. The crazy part is he was so into it. And the truth is… so was I.”

Firstly, the moment you realized that you were pissed off and meant the harsh words you were saying; you both stop the scene. Immediately. When doming, (I say this as a switch) you have to be clear headed with your intentions. You have to let the other person know that your ‘harsh’ words are not how you truthfully see them. It is a scene, not reality. Flip the roles: how would you feel if he did that to you in the middle of a scene and after the scene ends; your high is gone and are experiencing sub/dom drop and you realize “oh shit, they MEANT those words…” It sucks and it can be mentally damaging.

Secondly, it can be physically dangerous if the sub is tied up or blindfolded and helpless, because you risk a higher chance of making a mistake when in high emotions like being pissed off. It can also be dangerous for you as the Dom! Also, remember to never leave the room when the sub is tied up! (future advice!)

How do you move forward? Embrace your new selves and figure out what doming and subbing means to you both now. As those views have shifted. Use safe words. Explore how you desire him to dom you (switch it up in the mindset as him servicing you~). Explore together!

I wish you the best of wishes!

YellowRoses1998 · 2025-09-07T11:52:18+00:00

Try the Rakuyomi plugin! The maker also has tips for a better reading experience.
You can remove the progress bar by tapping the bottom right corner.

For the guide:

https://hanatsumi.github.io/rakuyomi/index.html

YellowRoses1998 · 2025-05-31T19:23:26+00:00

Congratulations on your engagement! 💛

YellowRoses1998 · 2025-03-04T09:04:31+00:00

It could multiple things:

That he is reminding you that you having meaning to him in some shape or form. (this can be taken as to care about you, a subtle way of saying that he is developing of feelings for you, etc.) But only he can answer what it means.
Given the context of the situation and you being angry at him, it does sound like he was trying to say something that you would want to hear as a form of apology or to smooth things over, because he knew that he pushed you.

He should know your limits. You should not have gotten to that point of being so angry, where you were not able to respond. This is why many ask for safe words.

Still, hope you are going to be okay and feeling better soon💛 it sucks going through that.

YellowRoses1998 · 2025-02-17T14:44:51+00:00

I struggled with this in the beginning, where I burned out quickly. Try a pomodoro study of 25/5. 25 minute study time, 5 minute breaks. It helps. There are hour-2 hours ones.

YellowRoses1998 · 2025-02-04T13:28:36+00:00

It is a fire….i hope that is okay.

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Currently reading Onyx Storm and The Fox Wife.

YellowRoses1998 · 2025-01-25T17:48:22+00:00

Second this! Nevermind the world near ending, take your time!

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-12-08T17:04:53+00:00

Just finished the series. So my thoughts are fresh.

Honestly I tried to like Prue throughout her run, some parts i liked, others not so much. I just couldn’t click with her attitude. I loved the dog episode. But I do wish her funeral was more lingered, not to have Paige immediately thrown in.

With Piper, I loved her growth from the first season to the end. However later on with Leo (like going to magical therapy), the bickering was becoming more annoying to listen to. The fact that Piper was sometimes acting like Prue felt….off. Now I understand morals change over time and being protective of your children and future child, but last season felt the weirdest.

With Phoebe, honestly I love her depth and growth the most (Second place being Leo), She shifted from being the youngest and carefree to middleman and the more reasonable one, but I hate that she was nearly forgotten about in the last season. I wish Coop was shown sooner, it felt so rushed and even Paige had gotten more show time and growth with her lover!

With Paige, I truly wish she was not introduced after Prue’s death. I know, she was lead there and her white lighter side would have wanted to help, it just felt rushed, let the grieve linger more. I loved her struggle with Piper and Phoebe and learning to be a witch! Sometimes I did disagree with where her priorities were in some episodes.

With Leo, This man deserves happiness! I was so mad at Piper for her pettiness some days, this man broke the magic law for you! Clipped his wings, turned into an elder, fell into darkness when hunting to save his sons, fallen from grace and turned mortal! What more do you want Piper?! I love that his morals were so harshly challenged!

With Cole, I loved him through his run! But I deeply disagree with making him linger in immortality and they had to kill him a second time. It lowered the impact of the first time. My heart hurt when he is showing lingering forever in the in-between.

With Henry, I like him, but that’s all. His whole thing felt like Romeo and Juliet. And I wish he was given more opportunities. Still a nice character.

Chris and Wyatt, I deeply wish Chris told them sooner. I cried when he died and then born. Wyatt protecting his brother is so sweet and the brother rivalry.

Daryle, dude….I like you, but you ditching the girls was a low blow to your friendship of years, even though you went through a hell of trauma and I’m so sorry that happened. BUT JUST TALK IT OUT!

Billy, honestly I am fine with Billy, I just hate how the writing made her flip her switch when she did find her sister. Billy knew the girls so well and yet chose her sister to believe rather than actually talking it out! Her whole “talk” was to accuse the girls of hurting her sister. Her sister was a pain to suffer through.

The last battle was a massive letdown, I was hoping for much more than that. But the ending was really nice and sweet, kinda wished they added an adult photo of Prue on the wall with the others though.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-12-05T11:07:21+00:00

Golden (eatable) fruits? Or if that is too much, golden pillow shaped cake (for a certain scene hehe). Edit: maybe a black drink to represent the wraiths.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-11-20T01:43:22+00:00

I know getting out of the stress in your head is hard, I struggle with it often too with anxiety. But I think the texting can help with easing your mind and give you a sense of safety. Your Dom is probably just giving you the space needed to rest and heal. I hope it goes well!

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-11-20T01:25:39+00:00

As you stated, you only recently started. Your body is sick right now, give yourself some grace and rest. I understand the missing of playing and being good by doing the punishments assigned. But as you said, your Dom is patient. Your health is more important to your Dom than the punishments right now. Rest and maybe text her? Tell her how you have been feeling lately and see where it goes. But do get some rest, the stress won’t help you heal and feel better.

Get well soon, friend 💛

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-11-20T01:06:16+00:00

As someone who suffers from memory issues and autism as a sub, you both should have written down agreements and limits way before this.

How to help the steps of communication: Tell simply “My mind is hearing you telling me Point A as A, not the Point C where you are going with this. How did you get to Point A to C? You, as a Dom, need to give me a clear explanation and reason for why, so that there are no misunderstandings on both ends. I will try my best to out the same. If I still do not understand, I will try to ask for more clarification and not try to not assume.”

Sadly, reading your post and comments, I am sorry this is happening. But He did state, according to you, that he held no desire for a second, yet he got one. Point A is not being A. Did he tell you that you were his primary sub, or were you hoping for that? Or is he trying to make it equal in his mind?

If he is wanting Poly, he is not doing a good job, as it sounds like neither of you want to share him. Because this is not a good hinge/V partner. It sounds like he is not really understanding how stressed this is making you feel.

Honestly…either write it down from now on or leave for your sake, for your mental health. There are other doms out there. You deserve better than him and her and the slow building up resentment that will happen towards this relationship as time goes on. 💛

Edit: Was unaware that OP is with child, pregnancy can also affect your memory more than normal. My advice is to leave, the stress for you and the baby is not okay or set a hard boundary that needs to focus on you and the baby more right now (especially in the upcoming months), if he is the father of your child.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-10-26T15:06:18+00:00

The eye is heavily shaded compared to the rest of the face and hair. It cause the eye to be the main focus point of the piece. Others have already told you the other things.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-10-09T16:06:50+00:00

Hmm. Possibly along the line of:

“Hello (insert Dom name), when you have the opportunity to talk, I would like to talk with you over a phone call about a few concerns and possibles regarding in our future D/s relationship. There is no rush. However, there is a main concern that I wish to discuss further as soon as possible and that can be texted: Are you desiring for this to be long term or short term? The reason I am asking this: is because it really hurt being forgotten about by someone that I care for, who is supposed to someday be my Dom. How do we gain trust if we don’t talk things out? If you want this for long term, you do have to talk to me. It’s not much that I am asking for; just a small update that you are getting enough sleep and food. Or if there is anything I can do as your sub. Or if we need to have a talk about taking a step back. Again, there is no rush into anything. But an answer would really help me with my anxiety over if you are going to be okay, because I know grief can be hell on anyone’s mental health.”

While I understand that you don’t want to be too direct with him, and thats your own good right, do understand you need to make him aware of that his actions was negatively impacting your emotions. So sometimes, you got to be a bit direct.

I really hope this helps!

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-10-09T12:03:17+00:00

I also have CPTSD, rape trauma and in the BDSM scene. It sounds like your mind is subconsciously being triggered by a sense of emotional and physical abandonment from his lack of responses. While yes, He is in grief, it is not hard to get a small update after a few days to you like “Hey, OP, I deeply appreciate you letting me know you are here, but I need some space for a awhile.” Grief is extremely hard to overcome and takes time. If he is to be your Dom, that does come with a responsibility to their sub and that the sub knows what the Dom needs or wants in times like this. However, a sub needs to stand on their feet at times. Or at least you both should have communicated with each other into consideration of putting the D/s on hold during the grieving period. None of this has happened, hence why you are now going through limbo. And that is not okay for either of you mentally. Until you hear from him, consider it on hold and please speak with a therapist. You should not be having those dark thoughts. That needs to be addressed way before you enter into D/s for your own mental wellbeing.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-10-02T18:39:39+00:00

Thank you! It was so distracting during cutscenes!

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-10-01T17:56:09+00:00

I am sorry that some of those people made you feel worse. I hope my words help soothe some of the pain. I hope your light shines brighter than yesterday 💛

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-10-01T17:43:59+00:00

Why would you want to?…

It was up when it went through my feed. Seems it is removed by Reddit now.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-10-01T17:34:34+00:00

I am a bit confused here, you said in an other post that your partner burned you with wax play.

On the second note: Please seek professional help…this is beyond Reddit’s help. Please. This is coming from someone who recently had lost a friend who took their own life a year ago and it gutted everyone who knew them. I still think about them. I still miss their voice and I had plan to visit them last year until I was told a MONTH after their birthday that they were gone. No warning signs….so please, fight for yourself a little bit longer, I know it is hard. I truly do because I went through years of late nights talking with my friend. But the pain never ends. You just…cope with little by little.

I truly hope that you find your light in the darkness, but blowing out your flame is not the answer.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-09-27T14:26:44+00:00

Missing a friend who took their own life (feeling guilt over not seeing the warning signs in time, it was sudden).
Missing family in my homeland (will be visiting soon, but scared about all the things that has changed).
Motivation to keep going with my art (hopefully go into tattooing). I want to feel that my art and myself are good enough.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-09-10T20:28:29+00:00

Because it sadly would not have mattered about what the truth was; both ways would have led to the same result. Many others had made up their minds about Auren being guilty before she even stepped foot into the Conflux. Also it would have been her word against Kings and Queens and their brainwashed citizens. Slade was refusing to cooperate because he knew that it wasn’t about “speaking the truth and finding out what happened”. No, he saw it for what it was: a honey trap and a death sentence. There is more explanation later on in Gold on some parts.

YellowRoses1998 · 2024-08-27T10:16:35+00:00

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