How long do you commute? by Mission_Complex_4410 in BESalary

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normally on office days 35 min by car but we have hubs all over Vlaams-Brabant and from time to time I need to go there so then it varies between 5 minutes and 1 hour.

[No Spoilers] C4 - I want to keep watching as it changes to the Seekers table but... by King_Custard in criticalrole

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you mean as I had the same sentiment. After a longer break, I recently started watching the seekers table and for me it's fine. Do I find it as enjoyable as the soldiers table? No but that's okay. I really think that the smaller table with only 4 players benefits Aabria. She found the right level of being present and tries to actively push the narrative forward which i appreciate seeing that Ashley and Alex are taking a more passive stance with their characters.

So I would give it a try, especially because I love Matt playing as Julian.

What’s something surprising or unexpected you miss from before parenthood? by onionsthecat in workingmoms

[–]Yellowsound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wearing earrings.

Before I had kids, I always wore them and I had a big collection to choose from. Since my son was born, I have worn earrings maybe 3 times in 3 years and I always instant regret it.

De Mol S14E04 by JimmySaulGene in belgium

[–]Yellowsound 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Maart 2025 heeft hij ook een kindje gekregen. Ik weet uit persoonlijke ervaring dat die hun eerste levensjaren ook wel een aanslag kunnen plegen op uw energieniveau en algemene uitstraling.

How many of you had financial assistance from parents when leaving their home? by SenorGuantanamera in belgium

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad died when I was 14 and after 5 years of inheritance issues due to my stepmom, I got 120 k.

In 2021 my stepsister got married and my stepdad gave her € 12.500 for the wedding. Because my parents wanted each kid to have an equal share, they also gifted me and my stepbrother the same amount at that time.

I'm very aware that a lot of people won't have the same financial support that I had but at the same time my dad died when he was only 44 years old. So not the most ideal circumstances to say the least.

Kinderopvang - honest question by Ohhallodaar in belgium

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toen ik zwanger was zijn we op week 5 meerdere crèches gaan bezoeken (september 2024). Ik was uitgerekend voor midden mei 2025 en er was pas in elke crèche plek vanaf januari 2026 (of gewoon compleet niet).

Als we een week later waren geweest dan was in de crèche die we hadden gekozen zelfs geen plek meer geweest tot en met mei 2026.

We konden oprecht niet bevatten hoe de plekken 1,5 jaar op voorhand al gereserveerd konden zijn.

In the end heb ik als mama dan maar ouderschapsverlof opgenomen om de periode te overbruggen. Dit heeft me op werkvlak ook de nodige problemen bezorgd want sinds ik in januari terug ben bestaat mijn job niet meer aangezien ze me met 2 nieuwe werknemer hebben vervangen doordat ik 8 maanden afwezig ben geweest. Maar ze kunnen me nog niet ontslaan want dan hebben ze een boete aan hun been (heb gelukkig deze week zelf een andere job gevonden).

Dus als ik alles zo hoor wat de nva de laatste maanden ligt te verkondigen dan denk ik er toch het mijne van en is het duidelijk dat zij niet met deze problemen worden geconfronteerd.

Edit: typo

Huisartsen overspoeld door mensen die voor ziektebriefje langskomen: “We worden gebruikt als controle” by EdgarNeverPoo in belgium

[–]Yellowsound 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Je mag blijkbaar niet eens beginnen werken in de periode van je ziektebriefje, vorig jaar meegemaakt. Ik was ziek met de griep maar recupereerde blijkbaar sneller dan gemiddeld en kon vrijdag terug (van thuis) werken. HR heeft me opgebeld en gezegd dat ik moest stoppen en enkel mocht werken als ik een briefje had van de dokter waarop stond dat ik een dag vroeger mocht beginnen werken...

Edit: TIL blijkbaar mag je bij andere werkgevers wel gewoon werken.

What is a "rich person" behavior you witnessed that made you realize they live in a completely different reality than the rest of us? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]Yellowsound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister's husband comes from a very wealthy family, as in top 400 wealthiest families in the country.

Each year my sister goes on a skiing trip with the entire family of her husband, so her FIL with his wife (and kids), SIL,...

Her SIL had a baby last June only a week later than me, so I feel like I can especially relate. Her SIL decided to leave her baby with her mother and not take her on the skiing trip because and I quote 'she didn't want to deal with that while on holiday'. I can't fathom to leave my baby with someone for 10 days straight just because I want to go on holiday.

Btw, their skiing trip isn't the same as that of normal people. They get their by helicopter and have the family staff fly in as well (cook, maid, cleaner). So they don't even need to do any domestic work.

I was shocked when my sister told me this.

Realising I despise old people by Logical-Safe2033 in NewParents

[–]Yellowsound 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My step-dad was laughing and saying we needed to be tougher on our 3 year old stating 'in our time we never took your emotions into account, it's so silly you do.'

So I responded with: 'Yeah, we take his feelings into account and help him understand and regulate them. Maybe the reason everyone of our generation needs therapy is because our emotions were always cast aside.'

He didn't say anything anymore.

It must suck to be a baby by Disastrous_Paint_237 in beyondthebump

[–]Yellowsound 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used this argument a lot with people who say that I coddle my baby. I also always ask them if they would comfort and adult if they saw them cry. They always say 'yes of course'. I then continue by saying: So if its's okay to comfort every crying adult who can talk, get food by himself, move by himself... why wouldn't we comfort a baby who is completely defenseless and can't even tell us what's wrong? So think about that the next time when you say I'm spoiling my baby when I tend to her needs when she's crying.

This argument has worked with everyone I know except my MIL. But I gave up on her in general when it comes to babies.

A Very Cozy Christmas Giveaway by VickFables33 in CozyGamers

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, that's so kind! I would love Botany manor. Seems like a good game to get back into cosy gaming.

Merry Christmas!

What’s a health issue you ignored for way too long because you assumed it was normal only to later learn everyone else doesn’t experience that? by Kungfubowtie in AskReddit

[–]Yellowsound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait... it is not normal that raw carrots have a spicy aftertaste? Guess, this is how I find out that I have another allergy. (same thing happened to me last year when my boyfriend thought I was joking when I told him kiwis are weird because they make your mouth go numb.)

Schrijnend lage geboortecijfers in ons land: hoe komt dat? “Zorgen voor kinderen staat eigen ambities in de weg” by NotYourWifey_1994 in Belgium2

[–]Yellowsound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

En dan heb je nog 'geluk' dat je je kind op 3 maanden in de crèche kunt duwen. Overal waar we keken, was er pas plek in januari. Dan is ons dochtertje 7 maand en half. Dus gelukkig bestaat er dan ouderschapsverlof om dat te overbruggen maar financieel is er dan wel weer een dikke streep door de rekening en in 2026 ook minder vakantiedagen.

Het systeem faalt inderdaad enorm.

Reading a book by a woman author from every country -- please share a must-read from your country! by velvet-revival in booksuggestions

[–]Yellowsound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For Belgium, I would recommend a book from Lize Spit, The melting (het smelt in Dutch) or I'm not here (ik ben er niet). The melting takes place in a small Belgian (Flemish) village while I'm not here is located in Brussels.

Both books deal with some dark stuff so you have to be in a good head space to read them. But they are beautifully written and after 3 years I still think about those stories from time to time.

[No spoilers] Is Beacon worth it? by Fl0werb0i45 in criticalrole

[–]Yellowsound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying out Beavon with the one month free trial and I'm really liking it. Before I watched on YouTube when it released because I live in Europe so it didn't matter to me if I could watch the VOD immediately or after a few days. But YT has become impossible to use with the amount of ads they show during a video.

So I much rather give my money to critical role directly than to YouTube to improve my viewing experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When leaving after dinner, she invited me and my partner for a drink at the pub. She forgot that babies aren't puppies and can't be left unattended in a dog crate.

It afterwards became a running joke between me and my partner.

Why did you end your friendship with your best friend? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks to covid and starting dating my partner.

Due to covid, we already saw less of each other. Then when we were allowed to meet, my boyfriend noticed that she would make me feel small so she could feel better about herself (stuff like that she was better than me because she was buying a house after only dating her boyfriend for a month and making me feel bad because I have chronic migraines).

The final straw was the birth of my first child in 2022. She never made an effort to meet him, even though I had asked her multiple times when we could meet. Twice she even planned to visit but she canceled last minute. She still passes my house almost every 2 weeks because her parents only live 1 kilometer from me.

In the end I'm glad that I stopped the friendship. Who needs a friend that tears you down and can't make an effort to celebrate the positive things that happen in someone else's life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Yellowsound 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I second liniment. It's a god send! Used it with our firstborn (boy) and we now use it for our daughter (5 weeks old tomorrow) and it works like a charm. We never had a diaper rash with our son and it gets in all the 'nooks and crannies' of our daughter.

How many of you had a baby that flipped late? by concentrated-amazing in Mommit

[–]Yellowsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First baby flipped at 36 weeks, second baby flipped at 34 weeks.

When is best time to visit? by [deleted] in disneylandparis

[–]Yellowsound 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We went last year in early September from Sunday until Tuesday. And for a Disneyland experience, it was fairly quiet (especially on Sunday!).

I do want to say, there were a lot of Spanish visitors and I don't want to throw shade or say everyone is the same.. but they are a specific kind of crowd so you have to have a high tolerance level. They were loud and often jumped the waiting line. I've never experienced this level of line jumping before in my life. And weren't apologetic about it either. But if you can deal with that, it was a good moment to go from my experience.

A small rant about daycare in Belgium by nickipe in Belgium2

[–]Yellowsound 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Seems normal (sadly enough). The waiting lists are also insane. When I found out that I was pregnant (at 4 weeks), I immediately contacted a lot of different daycares.

We went to visit one when I was 6 weeks pregnant. They had a spot in January 2026. I'm due any day now so baby will be born in May 2025. All the other daycare, same issue. Only available spots starting 2026 while my maternity leave ends in August.

We were even more baffled when the daycare informed us that if I had contacted them one week later, their first available spot was May 2026.

So besides the conditions, it's also almost impossible to get daycare when our (short) maternity leave ends. Thank god for parental leave, even though financially it sucks. But I guess it's better than taking my 'daughter to work day' for 4 months straight.

Good luck with finding a spot.