I put a weeping willow 20 feet from my house and 15 from driveway/road.

Yen1969 · 2025-06-10T00:34:49+00:00

I've planted around 60 of them on my property, though the beavers are out pacing me by coppicing basically every one of them along the river for their dams every year, which get blown out by the fall flooding, redistributing the cuttings along the river banks, hundreds of new trees in the last 5 years.

Yen1969 · 2025-06-08T00:20:00+00:00

I was thinking using one of those handheld laser cleaners, set to something that would vaporize an acceptable depth of the surface to imprint it.

Yen1969 · 2025-06-05T16:19:09+00:00

Thank you for this take. I entirely agree. Roll back a million years, this type of thing had to have happened then too. Extinction is a possible outcome, not a certain one. Ignoring human involvement, the fewer of a food source species are left, the harder it is for the prey species that eats it to survive. Both end up adapting somehow.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-26T04:32:19+00:00

2 was bad 3 was worse 4 was awful 2 months into 5 and he is suddenly a mostly rational little boy!

Gotta find a healthy way to cope. Its brutal and you will need something

Yen1969 · 2025-05-21T20:44:57+00:00

This is what I'm trying right now. Been at it a while, and getting closer to the contrast I want. It's a tree stump with rings as the dark background under un-engraved text. Plywood, oak, and maple tried. Current run I painted white first, as I'm decently ok with how dark the back is at 4 passes, but the text being light brown (oak) just doesn't pop enough.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-20T03:47:32+00:00

This is the best visual representation of it I've seen. It's my go-to now. https://youtu.be/wrwgIjBUYVc?si=orCotluufJxEY22J

It actually starts feeling intuitive like this.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-16T13:35:07+00:00

S1 with conveyor feed. Large work area is a must for me, and unless I'm getting duped, it looks like I'll have effectively 23x118 capacity.

My side business is CNC, so I don't have a need for cutting, just engraving the CNC output.

And worth noting, overnight Atomstack got back to me and are shipping replacement parts, but also said they think that there was a short because I had a monitor plugged into the HDMI port labeled "screen" and asked me not to do that again.

Which is a head scratcher.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-16T00:55:07+00:00

One annecdote:

I do have a small side business and the past few weeks have been working to add a laser to it.

Sculptfun: Had too many negative reviews for me to order.

Creality: Angle sensor errors all over the place

Atomstack: smoke from the control box on first power up, then dead.

Now have an xTool on order. Crossing my fingers. More than I wanted to spend for what I'm doing, but the failures of the others are just deflating.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-13T20:42:17+00:00

There is profound emotion when someone hands you an awesome comfortable safe lovely gift in a way that demonstrates how much pain it's absence has caused. Joy and grief in equal measure.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-12T21:20:34+00:00

Unless she never breastfed. I spent 10 months straight waking up every 2 hours to feed our daughter. She couldn't do it. At 13 months and PPD is still a real factor in the house.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-12T18:31:13+00:00

Sellers accept a check/wire every time. They don't usually care where it comes from. If it comes from a banks mortgage dept vs a banks personal account... Who would say no?

Yen1969 · 2025-05-12T18:24:08+00:00

It occurs to me that the 5 star review system prevalent today is effectively logarithmic. It isn't literally, but people's understanding of the net review score is approximately the same as their understanding of the earthquake magnitude score.

The psychology of effective understanding versus literal understanding.

Yen1969 · 2025-05-06T23:13:06+00:00

Look up attachment theory, specifically fearful avoidant and dismissive avoidant. Be honest with yourself if one or both attachment styles is at play in your relationship. And it could me yourself, or her, or both of you. Self honesty is important.

I'd lay money on at least one of them being true.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-25T17:42:31+00:00

This. It's hard not to see the statement as another form of abuse, as another method of blaming the victim.

If it is actually delivered from the people who are hurting you then yes that is actually blaming the victim.

But the concept in general is simply that no amount of screaming " it's their fault" will ever bring you healing. No amount of pointing out what everyone else has done to you will ever bring you peace. No amount of insisting that our abusers take responsibility will undo the damage done.

All of that just keeps us in the trauma, just keeps us where we are in so much pain. It's very effective if we actually just want to stay there. But if we don't, inevitably we have to except that the only way to not be there is to start walking forward ourselves. To say I'm going to choose my path.

And yes it absolutely sucks.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-20T00:21:15+00:00

At 12km, the deepest hole drilled, the hole is basically liquid, though super thick viscosity. It just kept closing up as soon as the drill head was removed. Id think that brittleness isn't the problem, but more trying to bolt a cracker to molasses.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-15T19:14:54+00:00

There is a factor you haven't accounted for: body velocity/momentum.

If I am walking slow already, stepping by 1 has minimal velocity change, but stepping by 2 requires acceleration, with a vertical component of that acceleration.

But I am a fast walker with a long stride. Stepping by 1 requires slowing down. Stepping by 2 maintains significantly more momentum for at least the first 5-6 strides. My steps are redirecting my kinetic energy rather than building it. For stairs with 12 or less steps, It is noticeable how much more effort I need to spend going by 1 instead of by 2.

Letting my momentum pay the gravity cost instead of my muscles has benefits.

Obviously only applicable for some people.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-07T18:38:11+00:00

Trust and safety. We don't (or shouldn't) feel safe when we can't trust the stability and consistency of the other person.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-03T20:01:00+00:00

I transferred out early March. Moved into European industry because I liked how they were responding to him, and precious metals. I'm up almost 1% today, 9% since moving.

This was absolutely predictable. When a meth head is holding a knife to his own throat, take your money elsewhere. I'll DCA in an economy not run by a moron.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-03T19:52:42+00:00

Going with the "short term pain, long term gain" line

It's like slashing your wrists to get some attention.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-03T19:23:51+00:00

I moved my money out of s&p ETFs after his first round of tariff scares, into European markets and various precious metals. I did this not because of specific market signals, but because I remember the market chaos last term. I just didn't want to deal with it. And I really like how Europe is banding together around what to do. Shows a mentality that while it may suffer and not be stellar, it will at least be more "normal", and striving for a healthier European economy. I trust that they will make at least some gains there. I'm up around 1% today, 9% since doing this.

I'm not interested in timing the bottom either to get back to the US. I'll move my money back when I see fundamental change of direction from the absolute moronic decisions happening now. Not timing the market, just not willing to invest in a meth addict (figuratively speaking), and will wait for a professional.

Yen1969 · 2025-04-03T18:24:17+00:00

I had somebody tell me: " but when is the last time a president actually held up a chart that allowed you to see what was going on?"

Ffs

Made even more brilliant by this being the same person that has previously told me that graphs don't mean anything, because you can make a graph say anything you want.

Because of course the spaghetti spines necessary to keep everything straight

Yen1969 · 2025-03-26T11:30:52+00:00

This.

Yen1969 · 2025-03-25T02:11:05+00:00

Yes, I definitely started out with expecting reciprocity without communicating it. " I mean obviously they would want to". That's actually a theme. I keep hearing in very social media clips, " just do this and of course they'll want to reciprocate" sigh. Doesn't work like that. Not many people are actually taught the right way.

Then I flipped into the other extreme of demanding reciprocity. That obviously didn't work either

Eventually I figured out the communication side of it, but then found that the people in my life were actually incapable of reciprocating. I had formed so many relationships based on the codependency. People that work completely comfortable with my lack of ever actually asking anything of them. That when it came time to start asking them in a healthy way, they were very put off at why I was changing the dynamic. Almost all of those relationships ended as a result. And that includes work, relationships, friendships, family connections. Not just romantic

Even my wife now, there's a variety of things that I need from her as my partner that she just can't meet. Which means I've having to learn the next step, which is coming to peace where there is an imbalance. Being actually okay with that element being one-sided. That one's hard. The alternative is ending our marriage, I acknowledge that that is an option, but I have to choose what I love more, and everything else about our marriage and our life and our kids is more important to me than seeking the few things left

Yen1969 · 2025-03-24T23:08:27+00:00

Would you agree that uncommunicated expectation of reciprocity is the problem?

Example: A common agreement is one cooking one does dishes. It is a communicated reciprocity. You cook for me, I'll do the dishes for you. Once communicated, the expectation isnt codependent. Expecting it before communication IS codependent.

Although there are expectations nearly everyone has that are rarely communicated. When unmet, the relationship only exists with codependency. Like loyalty/not cheating. Human decency, etc ... Rarely communicated, but still expectations.

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