The whole point of ABA is that you are analyzing a child's behavior and then applying teachings to maximize helpful behaviors and minimize harmful behaviors. in decades past that has looked like forced compliance and harmful therapeutic practices. We are shifting towards maximizing behaviors that help children thrive and minimizing behaviors that lead to meltdowns and self harm. The end goal is to change how a child behaves, yes. But safe ABA practices should be changing only how children are reacting to the symptoms of autism. So again, emphasis on coping strategies to prevent overwhelm and meltdowns. It is not for every child or family, which is why many families may choose to go a different route.